The way I speak to people

[The time is now]

I was recently told by some one that the way I speak to people is awful and embarrassing to them they say they are worried I just snap and go of the handle , they said I get worse each year

This was quite hard to hear but do you think this behaviour is linked to some one who is a heavy drinker . Maybe some one at peace with the world world not act like this and not some one all ways considering reducing there in take to be more calm etc

I admit I can be rude or I see it as sharp but I have got a short fuse that seems to be getting shorter

Your thoughts

[Eve11]

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The time is now;1420159 wrote: I just snap and go of the handle , they said I get worse each year

This was quite hard to hear but do you think this behaviour is linked to some one who is a heavy drinker .

:welcome: the time is now,

I think alcohol can truly bring out the worst in people. In my past there were times of me feeling like a big B if I had had too much to drink. I was quicker to anger and would take things too personally and get into stupid arguments with people. Or I would tell them off as my inhibitions were lowered. I raised holy heck with a roommate one night (in front of her date) about her poor housekeeping. I would never have done anything like that sober. Also, with hangovers the next day, I was very short tempered and agitated. Loud noises, bright lights bothered me more than normal. I knew I had to make a change when married and had kids and started seeing myself get too inpatient and short tempered with my kids. Children need all of the compassion and support in the world, not a hung over mom who is hating life and is acting mean and ornery. Just my 2 cents.

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Eve11

[Mick]

The way I speak to people

Strangely enough, we were talking about that this morning...my OH reckons since I turned it round and packed in alcohol, I have calmed down a lot and dont get stressy headed as I used to..I also feel a lot less edgy and impatient too

[Struggles 106]

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Hey Time is Now

I think self-awareness is always a good thing, and of course you should treat people the way you want to be treated.
It's interesting that someone had the inclination to tell you about your behavior. Possibly you are not fully aware of how you come across to people?
I know that when I was drinking I was defensive all the time, with indignation when called out on my shit.
I am only speaking my opinion, but I think that inner peace is part of the sober life. No more lies and guilt and shame. Sometimes being rude or "sharp" with people stems from insecurity.
But then I'm pretty old LOL so I have had plenty of time to evaluate my behavior.
In any case drinking is not going to help anything, least of all behavior.

[The time is now]

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thanks for your replys

[Mootsbill]

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I am definitely more grouchy and short with people when drinking, especially my children, it's the hangover anxiety that makes me tetchy!
I am more at peace with myself when of the booze, i obviously still have bad days but at least it is short lived and I know I'm doing everything in my power to feel calm and content ;0)

[Alcoholic]

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The time is now:

I'm sometimes short tempered sober or drunk, but usually w just my family. Are you short tempered w people outside of your family? Do you have mood swings? It probably doesn't feel good to be short fused all the time. I hope you get better soon.

[JingleJo]

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Mick;1420182 wrote: Strangely enough, we were talking about that this morning...my OH reckons since I turned it round and packed in alcohol, I have calmed down a lot and dont get stressy headed as I used to..I also feel a lot less edgy and impatient too

This is exactly like me since I stopped just 16 days ago.

I used to be so irritable and would snap at the slightest wee thing or totally lose it over stuff. Feel like a totally different person now - more calmer, less agitated and I cope much better with various situations.

I used to be regularly short fused at home and at work, but now I feel much more peaceful overall since I stopped drinking.

[Kimberley]

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My family used to say an imposter had taken over when I'd been drinking. I would become a really mean person whenever I drank whiskey for some reason - I'd just totally lose it and become a nightmare. But hevay drinking on any type of alcohol got me into a lot of arguments. Sober, I don't argue with anyone.

And before I got long-term sober, any little patches of sobriety betwen drinking, I was pretty moody as well - because I wanted a drink! I wasn't used to being sober and having to cope.

But when you stop drinking and start working on yourself, that all changes, I'm glad to say.

I'm back to being who I was before alcohol hid me.

[The time is now]

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Kimberley;1421261 wrote: My family used to say an imposter had taken over when I'd been drinking. I would become a really mean person whenever I drank whiskey for some reason - I'd just totally lose it and become a nightmare. But hevay drinking on any type of alcohol got me into a lot of arguments. Sober, I don't argue with anyone.

And before I got long-term sober, any little patches of sobriety betwen drinking, I was pretty moody as well - because I wanted a drink! I wasn't used to being sober and having to cope.

But when you stop drinking and start working on yourself, that all changes, I'm glad to say.

I'm back to being who I was before alcohol hid me.

for me i am normally quite grumpy when i stop but once i get in the swing of things i am ok , i do struggle with not drinking on a friday arvo after a week at work

i am hoping to have a break soon as me and moderation dont seem to get on well

[Kimberley]

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I can't moderate 'ttin'. Been there, did that, convinced myself it was going OK, but really it was a big old failure. It was almost a relief to admit defeat and just say I'm not drinking any more. Although it required a lot of work on myself to ensure I was happy about being sober. So glad I did all that though.

Yeah I used to drink every day. I remember the first time I had to take antibiotics for two weeks without drinking. I couldn't even smile for a whole fortnight, lol! How things have changed thankfully

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Kimberley;1421334 wrote: I can't moderate 'ttin'. Been there, did that, convinced myself it was going OK, but really it was a big old failure. It was almost a relief to admit defeat and just say I'm not drinking any more. Although it required a lot of work on myself to ensure I was happy about being sober. So glad I did all that though.

Yeah I used to drink every day. I remember the first time I had to take antibiotics for two weeks without drinking. I couldn't even smile for a whole fortnight, lol! How things have changed thankfully

i guess for me i drink daily sometimes just 3-4 beers sometimes 3-6 beers and some wine , i never drink spirits , i had 3 months off last year but it wasent long enough to get the body back in shape - i feel so very tired and out of shape mentally and physically hence why i am thinking of a year off to repair the mind body and soul. i have thought of starting this week but thats pressure before crimbo but then again waking xmas day hangover free to enjoy it with my children will also be cool no grumpy short fussed

[Kimberley]

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A hangover-free xmas day with the kids sounds great There is always a 'reason' not to start right now, but never a real reason. I could use any reason under the sun to drink, but I realised that they were pretty much a sign of me being scared and unsure. I have done sober xmases, weddings, parties, birthdays, rock concerts, festivals. Everything. And that's how it os for life now. And I love it. We can often get through things we think we can't. Never know until you try. Whatever you decide, make sure you have a plan

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Kimberley;1421750 wrote: A hangover-free xmas day with the kids sounds great There is always a 'reason' not to start right now, but never a real reason. I could use any reason under the sun to drink, but I realised that they were pretty much a sign of me being scared and unsure. I have done sober xmases, weddings, parties, birthdays, rock concerts, festivals. Everything. And that's how it os for life now. And I love it. We can often get through things we think we can't. Never know until you try. Whatever you decide, make sure you have a plan

a plan ! just stop

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Since i got this feedback i have still been grumpy but trying hard not to speak out of place !