Tried Yesteday to go AF. Failed

[rednose]

Hi All,
I tried to go AF yesterday and did not make it. No excuses. I drank a beer to help with the
shakes and feeling like shit. So today is a new day. Maybe today is the day I will go AF.
Thanks to all for checking in on me.

Alcohol, Cunning, Baffling and Powerful.

A quote from AA'S Big Book.

"Here are some of the methods we have tried: Drinking beer only, limiting the number of drinks, never drinking alone, never drinking in the morning, drinking only at home, never having it in the house, never drinking during business hours, drinking only at parties, switching from scotch to brandy, drinking only natural wines, agreeing to resign if ever drunk on the job, taking a trip, not taking a trip, swearing off forever (with and without a solemn oath), taking more physical exercise, reading inspirational books, going to health farms and sanitariums, accepting voluntary commitment to asylums - we could increase the list ad infinitum."

I guess I still beleive I can somehow drink in moderation. Maybe that is the life line I need to let go of once and for all.

rednose.:new:

[NewOne]

Tried Yesteday to go AF. Failed

Really? No excuses? I use to use this excuse every other day.

Alcohol may be cunning & baffling, but the only power it has, is the power you give it.

It may be able to give you the shakes & to feel like shit, but it does not have the ability to raise that drink to your lips. Only you can do that. So who is really the powerful one here?



No excuses. I drank a beer to help with the shakes and feeling like shit.

[rednose]

Tried Yesteday to go AF. Failed

NewOne;1429874 wrote: Really? No excuses? I use to use this excuse every other day.

Alcohol may be cunning & baffling, but the only power it has, is the power you give it.

It may be able to give you the shakes & to feel like shit, but it does not have the ability to raise that drink to your lips. Only you can do that. So who is really the powerful one here?



No excuses. I drank a beer to help with the shakes and feeling like shit.

Thanks for the advise.

[K9Lover]

Tried Yesteday to go AF. Failed

Hi Rednose,
Did you just have ONE beer?? I've never had one drink in my life. One always turned into 12+

[allankay]

Tried Yesteday to go AF. Failed

K9 makes a very good point.

If you can have just one and really meant just one, then you dont have a problem. Otherwise its just naother exceuse

AK

[Janice]

Tried Yesteday to go AF. Failed

Hi Rednose...The title of your post "Today I am going to try to go AF" says it all really...the word "try". You are setting yourself up for failure before you even begin. If you really want a AF day it is there waiting for you. Might sound hard but its time to get honest with yourself. Good luck.

[Byrdlady]

Tried Yesteday to go AF. Failed

Amen to all....have you visited the Tool Box? The link is in my signature line below. Make sure all the AL is out of the house. I fought this one...saying I needed a safety net, just in case. As long as there's booze in the house, you'll drink it. Get it ALL out. Set yourself up to succeed! Surround yourself with stuff you love to do and eat! Eat until you are FULL. Remember when you say, 'Im so full I can't eat another bite?' That full. Stay hydrated. Tonight, the best thing is distraction, distraction, distraction. Please come on over to the Newbie's Nest, we have folks in ALL stages of their quit...we have lots of success there, too. I'm so glad you are reaching out for help! If an old stubborn woman like me can do it, I know you can, too! Byrdie

[rednose]

Tried Yesteday to go AF. Failed

K9Lover;1429912 wrote: Hi Rednose,
Did you just have ONE beer?? I've never had one drink in my life. One always turned into 12+

Yes just one beer. I am trying to taper off a fifth of gin or vodka a day over the last 6 months or more.
And it is corona light.

rednose

[rednose]

Tried Yesteday to go AF. Failed

mollyka;1429926 wrote: Hi Rednose, I don't know your history and whether you've tried getting sober before? I think some of us - even after a very short time sober - can forget how utterly confused our heads are when we are still actively drinking. I know in my case I couldn't make sort of 'judgement calls' - I needed to be told what was the best thing to do - and then just do it - blindly.
What I would say to you is - providing you aren't going to suffer withdrawals - if you've been drinking significantly large quantities of alcohol, you may need some medical help - but if that's not the case - just tell yourself - that under NO circumstances are you going to drink today - just today. Don't think about tomorrow. Tomorrow you will be able to make a slightly clearer 'judgement call' as your brain will have cleared somewhat - so leave that to tomorrow. JUST DON'T DRINK TODAY. ---- That's it - that's all you've to do today - drink lots of water and eat some nourishing food if you feel you can. Being a bit shaky or headachey or anxious - that's ok, that'll go, however you do need to honestly say how much you've been drinking, and as I say, if it's a lot, you really will need some medical help with stopping.
This is a very simple programme - the complicated bits --- making life happy sober - they come later. Just keep it simple at the beginning - yeah???!!
Molly

:thanks:

I have been drinking a bunch. It has been a fifth of Gin or vodka A DAY for the last 4 months if not longer. Actually I think it has been since I was robbed at gun point in my house last January 13. Not trying to make excuses, just trying to be honest. I have not been the same sense that day.
My drinking really ramped up after that happened.

rednose
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[rednose]

Tried Yesteday to go AF. Failed

K9Lover;1429912 wrote: Hi Rednose,
Did you just have ONE beer?? I've never had one drink in my life. One always turned into 12+

Yes just one beer. You never tapered down? Or is the taper thing bullcrap?

Another side note.

I have been drinking a bunch. It has been a fifth of Gin or vodka A DAY for the last 4 months if not longer. Actually I think it has been since I was robbed at gun point in my house last January 13. Not trying to make excuses, just trying to be honest. I have not been the same sence that day.
My drinking really ramped up after that happened.

Still can't figure out how to post a photo on my profile. DUH...........

rednose

[almost free]

Tried Yesteday to go AF. Failed

Hi Rednose,

Considering how much hard stuff you were drinking, I can understand how a 'beer taper' could be necessary. I'm sure the withdrawals were brutal. I admire your restraint. I believe there are even threads on MWO for tapering off. I admit it can be a slippery slope. I did have one beer taper that lasted one day. I didn't buy my 'drink of choice' (wine) but nursed the two large, dark beers, all day, using it like a medicine, just to keep the shakes and sweats at bay, and to avoid a seizure. I was able to go AF the next day.

The thing I liked about MWO, was that there was a lot of tolerance for everyone. Some people want to be AF, some want to moderate, and some are happy to just have more alcohol-free days per month than they used to. Some use meds, some don't. Many of those who try to moderate, find that they can't and that moderation is not something they are able to achieve. But people have to come to this conclusion for themselves.

I liked the support and encouragement I found at MWO, so please accept my support and encouragement. Very few people here have not had to start over numerous times, so just keep trying. Good luck!

[paulywogg]

Tried Yesteday to go AF. Failed

hi rednose,people have different ideas or opinions on getting af,i for one HAD to taper it down i just cut my consumption down by a few each day until it was pointless to have even one,itll get easier youve only been at it a couple days

[rednose]

Tried Yesteday to go AF. Failed

Thank to you all for the Support. It is helpful.

Love this quote.

"What you really enjoy in an alcoholic drink is not the drink itself, but the ending of the irritation of wanting that drink......" - Allen Carr

rednose

[almost free]

Tried Yesteday to go AF. Failed

Good for you Hippyman. I hear it helps a lot of people. I've never taken it, but I know you get really sick if you drink. Does it do anything for the cravings?

[Overit44]

Tried Yesteday to go AF. Failed

Hippy-I am on antabuse also, Day 9. Feeling awesome!

Almost-my cravings were more mental than physical. So, in that sense, yes it kills the craving because there IS JUST NO OPTION. "I know that I can't drink so I don't have to fight a drink all day long. It is easier to make the decision not to drink once a day in the morning than to have to make 10 or 20 decisions not to drink all day long." Also "I might get into such a rotten state of mind that I decide I want to have a drink but the AB will me me sick if I drink even if I don't take it for 4-7 days. Usually though, that rotten state of mind won't last 4-7 days and I will be able to choose again, choose to be happy, insted of miserable, to live and grow instead of dying the slow soul-sick death of alcoholism."