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[TheSunFlower]

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I like this thread. What keeps me out of NN or One Step at A Time....is that they move quickly.....and trying to keep up is nuts. I see this thread going the same way. I want to be AF.....so I go to the AF thread....that is put together orderly and easy to follow. I may not always get the support I need, but I can't post and then back up all the time to catch up.

[Caper]

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Juja, I know you from the old "Enough" thread... Polly, Dottie Belle, and Ally, I can totally relate to what you are going through.. And Slay, I have to thank you so much for starting this thread. I too have gone through something similar to what you are going through with the personal abuse / legal stuff. Please PM me if you ever want to talk that out. But getting back to this new thread, I too have felt so unwelcome at times in the NN thread.... there are those ... one of whom has posted here on this thread today ... that if it's not their way, it's the highway, if you know what I mean. I know that all these people try to help and there are those that I cannot thank enough for their actual help .. Byrdlady is amazing; there is no one here who has done as much as she has to help others ... K9 - my comrade in our start date...- MommaBear - a compassionate person if there ever was one ... LolaB, Nelz, Mario, GMan, hugely inspirational contributors... But then, there are others that I don't want to name, but who apparently think they know everything after 30 days AF... well maybe they do, but maybe, they don't... Anyhow, Slay, I wanted to thank you on behalf of those of us who do not feel comfortable in the Nest... Luck to you in this battle.

[Caper]

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Oops.. and to Kradle .. though relatively new here too, I think... but who is hugely wise and compassionate while so burdened with problems.... but is always there and kind enough to respond to a PM.... I pray for you daily even though you don't know it....

[New Day]

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Day one almost complete. Just back from a movie (Les Miserables) and having a cup of sleepy time tea before heading up to bed. Staying out of the house for the evening made it easier, although I was toying with the idea of coming home and having my glass of wine as I normally would do. By the time I got in the front door though, I had talked myself out of it and put the kettle on.
So today I did not drink.
Goodnight to all!

[Dottie Belle]

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hey new day, i am on day 1 too.
Dottie

[New Day]

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Ok Dottie....lets do day 2 together!

[Alcoholic]

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Pauly: Maybe your family is just used to a certain you w alcohol and not used to either the sober you or the you withdrawing. They will get to know the real you soon enough. And they will love you. From what I have seen here, you are such a sweetie! Just get healthier for your sick and I really hope your emotions will stabilize (if not, maybe there will be some solutions).... and you can feel better.

caper, sunflower, new day, slay, kradle, and everyone I missed: some of us have had similar experiences and it's great to hear to have someone else validating my experience! Thanks everyone!!!!

new day: good job on day one finishing! I wish I got to see Les. Did you like it?

[Dottie Belle]

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ok new lets do it!!Dottie

[New Day]

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Hi Ally....re Les Mis......yes, it was very good. Remember seeing a live production at the theatre many years ago but in some way I enjoyed the movie version better. One of the rare times, I've heard an audience clap at the end of a movie!.....so a lot of others enjoyed it as well.

[New Day]

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Well, off to bed for me....my tea is just about finished.....see you all tomorrow!

[Lasha]

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Thanks STF this thread agrees with me, I'm full of promises but can't seem to deliver and still at the daily drinking stage even though I've tapered down to 4 drinks a day. Massive improvement but can't seem to stick to it or go lower and sometimes think ALF might be the only way for me but I still enjoy a wee dram. My councillor said 2 drinks a day is ideal as if I slip up it's too easy to go too far the other way which is exactly what I did over Xmas and boy am I suffering now.

Last night was hardly any sleep as 4 drinks just stops the shakes and the depression came back lying in bed. Feeling much better today and am going down to 3 drinks but it's not something I enjoy just like Pauly but it's better than the alternative.

[FlyAway]

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Lasha;1433437 wrote: Thanks STF this thread agrees with me, I'm full of promises but can't seem to deliver and still at the daily drinking stage even though I've tapered down to 4 drinks a day. Massive improvement but can't seem to stick to it or go lower and sometimes think ALF might be the only way for me but I still enjoy a wee dram. My councillor said 2 drinks a day is ideal as if I slip up it's too easy to go too far the other way which is exactly what I did over Xmas and boy am I suffering now.

Last night was hardly any sleep as 4 drinks just stops the shakes and the depression came back lying in bed. Feeling much better today and am going down to 3 drinks but it's not something I enjoy just like Pauly but it's better than the alternative.

Lasha get yourself something else to drink after your 3 alcoholic drinks are gone. When I was drinking vodka tonics I found that just drinking the tonic water alone was enough. A lot of the pull you feel to alcohol will be the psychological and habitual aspect of it. Sometimes going through the motions without the alcohol can be enough to quiet the voice.

[FlyAway]

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Slaythefear;1433003 wrote: So true. We picked up the habit and now we are trained to think we need or deserve a drink. I've been in an abusive toxic relationship and my way of dealing with the pain of it all has been to drink. I'm finally facing up to it after being body slammed into the concrete and am forcing myself to take this to the law now. Today I have to go to the police station and file criminal charges. Now, I've let myself feel the pain and am going to walk through it. Do I want to? NO! Do I need to? Yes! Alcohol would just leave me in a state that doesn't address the pain so I can heal from it. I need my clarity of mind to get through this and it tells me this is the only way to get to the other side of this mess and hurt. No way to stop it with alcohol. All that does is keep you in a state of avoidance and denial. Alcohol will never give someone a clean peaceful life. It will only create the illusion until some truly bad harm comes to your life. If you start the fight today, you can eliminate the regrets and more loss of time and as you get more time in your reality, you'll start to feel empowered and your other self will become less and less.

Love,

Slay

Slay I am sorry to hear that you are dealing with this horrible relationship. I was once in a verbally/emotionally abusive relationship and that was terrible. I can't imagine the strength that it takes to extract yourself from this situation. :l

[Lasha]

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Thanks for that Flyaway, I'm going to change and get back to basics cause this aint working.

Stay away from pub's : - What did I do, go to the pub over Xmas, had a good time but paying for it now.

Don't buy any wine or more than 2 ciders: - It's Xmas, one wont harm with dinner, wrong ended up having a lot more than one.

Substitute booze with non alc drinks like Flyaway says : - still working on that one.

Taper down to 2 drinks or ALF : - thought I was doing so well giving up whisky and wine and down to 4 ciders but took my foot off the pedal.

Good news for me is I'm not back to square one thank goodness and can start again where I left off, Hippyman quoted a saying "Do anything it takes not to have a drink".
That's what I'm going to do.
Lash

[Lasha]

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You're not alone

Yep Hippyman,

Been concentrating on setting up and playing my all surround system for TV and music, thats kept me amused and off the booze.

I think working is also a deterrent so I'm increasing my hours next year.

I've walked the dog quite a lot poor thing.

Gardening, where do I start!!

You don't need to go to the pub to socialise there's loads of clubs, restaurants and gig's to go to. I'm taking in the new year at home with my wife and 2 bottles of cider. I can see the fireworks from my sittingroom.

Anything to keep me sober and do you know what, everybody says I'm happier sober, they all cant be wrong.

Lash the drummer