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[New Day]

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Good morning everyone! I had such a good sleep last night......after one day AF it's not too much of a struggle to get to sleep.....it's the following nights. So I feel great this morning.
Lash, we all understand about the pull of AL. And good for you for cutting back. It's hard for me to do that. Sometimes I've been successful in just having a couple of glasses of wine with dinner.....but it takes a huge effort to stop. I find if I make a cup of tea after dinner, the urge subsides. I have my tea especially on my AF days......helps even having the ritual of preparing it.

Christmas is a hard time to quit .....I found that out! I'm babysitting my 9 month old grandson on New Years Eve.....so not only do I want to stay sober, I need to get to bed early because I'm also babysitting in the morning......and he is awake around 6:30am!

His mom and dad live with us and don't have many nights out, so I'm happy to not see midnight this year and let them party!

Your right, Hippyman.....if Dottie and I can help each other, it might help both of us. I got great support on NN, but when I slipped I felt it wasn't fair to them to post there. They were all on such a good run I didn't feel they should hear about it......might take away from all the positive energy they had going.

So this is a goods place for me right now. :thanks:

[Juja]

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TheSunFlower;1433337 wrote: I like this thread. What keeps me out of NN or One Step at A Time....is that they move quickly.....and trying to keep up is nuts. I see this thread going the same way. I want to be AF.....so I go to the AF thread....that is put together orderly and easy to follow. I may not always get the support I need, but I can't post and then back up all the time to catch up.

Dear Sun,

I looked at various threads, trying to find a place to belong, and decided on One Step. And, yes, it does move quickly. Everyone gets to know one another, and we stop in daily (usually) to say hello. You might find that happens with any thread--people become friends and want to know what's going on with one another, or need to talk--just like real life.

Please don't be shy. Jump in, and make a daily visit to whatever thread you choose. You'll eventually feel you're a part of something, and that you matter (which you do anyway, btw).

Oh, and you don't always have to read back and catch up. If you do, you do, if you don't, you don't. Life moves on.

Please know you're welcome to join One Step anytime you like. The more the merrier.

Sincerely,
Juja

[Juja]

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Hippyman,

Love the happy kit idea.

BTW, what's a movie that makes you laugh?

[Juja]

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Dearest Slay,

Please keep us informed as to the outcome of your situation.

Thank you very much for your words of wisdom. When I have time, I will read everything you've written.

Juja :lipstick::l

[Lasha]

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Hi New day,

I'm not one to give advice as I'm the worst offender especially this Xmas but I used to have AF days and then go on benders when I was off work. As I do 2 weeks on and 3 weeks off and used to play in a funk reggae band, need I say more.

I'm using the tapering down method for all days until I get to my goal (almost there). The last bit seems to be the worst, I think it's great. Then I'll go AFD's.

Hi Juja,

I'm butting in as you say but as the majority of people here are from USA the film that makes me laugh every time all through the film is Trains planes and automobiles by Steve Martin & John Candy (So sorry he's gone) and I've seen it loads of times. Don't think about AL then. What does BTW stand for?

Lash the drummer

[Dottie Belle]

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I like the nest and one step and post to both of them. They do move fast and I just do the best I can to keep up.
Lasha: BTW means By The Way..
Dottie

[Lasha]

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Thanks Dottie, not up on acronyms

[RingingCedars]

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Ok folks, I'm really beginning to worry about Slay and it's not a worry about her drinking, ya know?

Her pm box is full and I fully expected to hear back from her last night.

Does anyone have alternative contact info for her Please?

[RingingCedars]

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There you are Slay..sorry for the alarm bells.:blush:

[paulywogg]

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hi sd,im sure slay will be along later,shes probly just super busy with all shes been through.so i just have to write this out to get it off my mind,yesterday i was driving home from work yes i felt like having a beer,so i stopped at one of my old haunts a bar/small casino,i opened the door and the smell of stale cigarettes hit me hard,and i smoke! i looked around everybody looked like zombies on their machines totally zoned,so i ordered my beer,she says i gotta play ten bux,ok,i put ten in blew it superquick,waited put in another ten finally 20 minutes later,heres my beer two buck tip,that beer cost me 22 bux! the lady next to me was talking to herself,i had to leave so a halfway chugged 22 dollar beer,totally not worth it!

[Slaythefear]

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Afternoon All. Awww, Cedars that is so sweet. I'm sorry I haven't checked in. I didn't want to come home after filing with the police yesterday, so stopped to have french fries and a coke with some people for an hour (was starving). Then met up with a friend and my daughter a bit later. We wound up playing Euchre. When I finally had time to get online, it appeared my modem had died. Three times now being locked out of my internet. So, it is now working...fingers crossed it will continue working.

I was contacted by the prosecutors office today. It's going to be a tough case. The reason being his physical violence is always done when no one is around to witness it, so currently, they are asking the police to put together a better case of doctor visits, and people I have talked to. I have not heard anything further. You hide it and try to protect them for so long it's a bit discouraging to think when you finally get your head and heart in line with doing the right thing, that maybe nothing can be done. We'll see. If they do their jobs adequately and talk to others, this should be no problem proving, but without a direct witness of the event, it can become he said, she said. UGH! So, if this doesn't make it through the system (to be determined) that means I have an angry person out there that will be vindictive. Something I was afraid of in the first place. I will talk to an abuse counselor on Monday about my feelings. Maybe she can help in some way.

G, yes, I have the locks changed and his name is not on the lease now. Because of a previous event, he signed off, and I had the locks changed. His use of drugs has made his violent temper worse, and believe it or not, I still love this man. How crazy is that? Yes, it has to end, but with a sad heart. You can't fix others. You can't make them stop bad behavior or love you. IMO, when a man does this to a woman, he can't love her. I do very much hope they get a case together and make him get counseling. He needs it desperately. Too many ghosts from his childhood still flying all round in his head and heart.

Now, to keep the AL out of the equation. These types of situations sure can create a desire to drown yourself in the stuff. Especially if justice doesn't prevail. It takes that empowerment away from you and you feel hopeless to see the right end to the story occur. Just being honest.



To everyone who likes this thread, that makes me happy. I think we all need a place to let out some of the weakness, emotional baggage, struggles, etc. to help lighten the AL voice. Also, relating to one another knowing we all have tough things we go through lets us see we have others walking along with us and we don't need to feel alone and reach for AL to escape or feel is a needed solution.

I, also, like the fact that people can openly say I slipped or I just went ahead and drank, but I still want to win the war.

Strength in numbers as they say.

Love,

Slay

[New Day]

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So glad to hear you are okay Slay. Keep checking with police as to how your case is doing. Don't let them forget about you. It may help them go that extra distance to help build your case.
Stay strong as you have been!

[Slaythefear]

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No apology needed, Cedars. I found it warming to my soul. :l

Nest83, yes loneliness is one of the HALT triggers. Hungary, Angry, Lonely or Tired. I find reading quotes and articles about appreciating solitude and enjoying your own company helpful. I started a thread about that...https://www.mywayout.org/community/f1...ace-71198.html You may find by changing the way you think about your time alone can help with reaching for AL. You can find other things to reach for that YOU like. All the self dialogue that goes on in our heads can really trip us up. I do understand, though. It can be very tough.

Pauly, maybe you should try to concentrate more on what is going to benefit you in the long run vs. how you feel it is effecting your family or the image they have of you. Change can be difficult to handle, but many times it is a positive in the end.

Running Courage, lol, I had posted that on your Stella thread to you one day. It's already there. I borrowed it for this board as I thought it applied to some posts here. Tis true, hey?

Kradle, I think of you often. No worries. Most of us have busy lives and problems we are dealing with.:l

Nice to see you, Juja...and everyone else.

Everyone makes mistakes - the only people who never fail are those who never even try.

Love,

Slay

[Slaythefear]

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New Day;1433803 wrote: So glad to hear you are okay Slay. Keep checking with police as to how your case is doing. Don't let them forget about you. It may help them go that extra distance to help build your case.
Stay strong as you have been!

Thanks New Day. Will do. It's the weekend, but I will be back on it Monday. I'm sure they get so many cases and the woman on the phone said they only take those they feel have enough evidence to win. The problem was as she talked to me, she didn't have all the information I gave and tried to give to the policemen. There is more to the case. So, hopefully things will grow more next week. That's when he comes back into town, so that is when I will start to be more concerned.

Love,

Slay

[RingingCedars]

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Glad you're ok Slay....guess I was kind of projecting fear, as you know, I've had a similar experience. Make sure you put in writing everything and have it witnessed/notorized as truth and file it into the record.

Pauly that was one expensive beer. YIKES!