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I don't know why, but everybody is annoying me the last couple of days! I found my daughter to be rude yesterday to me and called her out on it. Then I just went upstairs and avoided everyone for the rest of the evening. Much happier left on my own.
Even today, I'm still annoyed with her and even hubby was getting on my nerves for minor infractions. He just seemed to push the wrong buttons today, and I felt he did it deliberately
I think he felt bad after I told him he was annoying me.

Think I will avoid everyone tonight as much as I can too.

[Alcoholic]

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New day: I stay away from my family whenever I'm annoyed w them, which unfortunately is too often!!! Hope your day will be better later!

[FlyAway]

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New Day;1434881 wrote: I don't know why, but everybody is annoying me the last couple of days! I found my daughter to be rude yesterday to me and called her out on it. Then I just went upstairs and avoided everyone for the rest of the evening. Much happier left on my own.
Even today, I'm still annoyed with her and even hubby was getting on my nerves for minor infractions. He just seemed to push the wrong buttons today, and I felt he did it deliberately
I think he felt bad after I told him he was annoying me.

Think I will avoid everyone tonight as much as I can too.

I have those days too where everyone is driving me nuts! I sometimes put myself in "timeout." :H My husband knows too. I just flat out tell him, "I need to be alone right now. You're getting on my nerves."

[New Day]

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Thanks.....good to know I'm not the only one! I do like my peace and quiet.

[Slaythefear]

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New Day, yes it does. This picture made me laugh when I searched under when life has you down. Do you ever feel this way? LOL!



No, you aren't the only one that has nerves that other people can trample on at times. Best thing to do is just what others have suggested...take some time out alone. It keeps you from saying things that you will regret later. I have to stay pretty much free of coffee or I get very irritable. I've noted quite a change without it.

I'm going through my old phone for text messages for evidence. This is not a pleasant task but clearly shows me I am doing the right thing. Amazing what we sometimes put up with or hold onto for way too long that is harmful to us.

?Courage is the discovery that you may not win, and trying when you know you can lose.?

~Tom Krause~


How to Keep Going When Life is Getting You Down
By braniac

This article has tips on how to keep your spirits up, and how to keep going when things in your life are looking bleak. We all get depressed and stressed; it's good to know some ways to bring yourself back up again.

Instructions

1

Listen to music. Music can make you feel better, or help you to deal with whatever you're feeling. Whether it's classical to help you relax, country to help you cry, or metal to get your anger out, music can be a great way to deal with or change your emotional state.
2

Write affirmations. When things seem bad, take out your journal, or make a file on your computer, and start writing affirmations. Affirmations are kind of like the "dum-dums" you wrote as punishment in school, only for a good purpose. An example would be to fill a page over and over with the sentence "I am strong, and my life will get better." Or "My work pays off, and I make good money."


3

Meditate. Take some time to visualize things that make you feel better. You can try with or without music playing. Take time to think of things that make you calm or happy, or to visualize the things that you want to bring into your life, like money, happiness, health, or whatever your goal may be.
4

Spend time with people you enjoy. If you have family and friends, hang out with them and do things you enjoy. If you can't be with them physically, call someone and chat on the phone. Talk about things that make you feel good. If you're a shut-in or don't like the phone, get online and use an instant messenger, Twitter, a social site, or whatever you can find to communicate with people, even if they're just friends online.
5

Exercise. Whether your thing is yoga or kickboxing, any kind of physical activity can be good for your mental and physical health. You can even pretend your punching bag is someone you don't like if it makes you feel better.LOL!!!! That was my suggestion to Dottie one day.
6

Read a good book, or watch a movie that you enjoy. Escaping from reality can be exactly what you need from time to time. Video games can serve the same purpose. (Yes, a much better alternative than escaping into the bottle which was my bad habit.)
7

Take up a hobby. Idle hands are the Devil's playground, so they say. An idle mind can be just as bad. Sometimes, you need something to focus on, or something productive to do, and it can make you feel a whole lot better about things.



I hope you all are doing alright or hanging on until brighter skies approach.

Love,

Slay

P.S. - No 8: Eat a piece of cheesecake. Attached files [img]/converted_files/2017046=7277-attachment.jpg[/img]

[New Day]

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Thanks Slay!

Picture made me laugh.......so did the suggestion to eat Cheescake......yesterday I had the last of the mini cheesecakes I made for Christmas....LOL!

I just had some l-glut and have retreated to my room. Thought I'd check in here and then listen to some music to tune everyone out. Have a good book I'm reading too.....so I should be fine. I just hope I feel not so down tomorrow. I could cry at the drop of a hat at the moment......and I really have nothing to cry about!! Just emotional and sensitive I guess

I'm sure I will be fine. Thank you again:thanks:

[Slaythefear]

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New Day;1434970 wrote: Picture made me laugh.......so did the suggestion to eat Cheescake......yesterday I had the last of the mini cheesecakes I made for Christmas....LOL!

I just had some l-glut and have retreated to my room. Thought I'd check in here and then listen to some music to tune everyone out. Have a good book I'm reading too.....so I should be fine. I just hope I feel not so down tomorrow. I could cry at the drop of a hat at the moment......and I really have nothing to cry about!! Just emotional and sensitive I guess

I'm sure I will be fine. Thank you again:thanks:

My mom makes mini cheesecakes. I had bought one and put it in the freezer in case the weather stopped my daughter and I from making our trip out of town. I'm back and it's there. So now it's number 8.

Finished up most of my text message and abuse summary on word tonight to take with me tomorrow. You know this is sooooooo hard. I would have done it sooner if it wasn't. It's disturbing how I still love this man and I have to go through with this process...cuts you like a knife and makes you bleed. I know in time it will get better, but I'm a helper not someone who does well emotionally playing the bad guy. Tough business and tough on the heart. You can't love some people enough to help them, but I sure wish I could have done it.:upset:


I'm not sure where you are on your AF journey this time, but I know I went through that cry at the drop of a hat for no reason during my first 30 days. It will pass and you'll be saying this to someone else. I'm having a witching time even caring about the drinking much right now. When your heart is being shattered in a million pieces, it's hard to want to take care of yourself. You really want to be put out of your misery. Anything to help soften the pain. Life does not move along without some suffering. You aren't living it if you aren't feeling some of its disappointments. It doesn't come with guarantees.

Check in tomorrow and let us know how you are feeling...if the sadness has passed yet. Truthfully, I want to retire into being a Vulcan...a vulcan singing 'what's love got to do with it...who needs a heart when a heart can be broken...now that would be something to see, eh? lol

Night

[Raven2012]

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Thank you for creating this alternative thread. I know, I was supposed to be long gone by now. I just can't help but care. I still have my challenges. Hubby has gone off whith the kids to his moms so I've had a bit of time to think. My parents have been very supportive. I"m looking forward to my new job. I'm happy again. I want to help, I know I still need help but I care about everone here.

I plan to lead the moms group in Jan as I promised. but in the meantime, crazy stuff with the ex's is near to my heart. Please let me help. More than anything, I want Moms to have a safe place to take care of their of their kids (yes, I know lawyers and Drs')


Much love,

Raven

Not gone just yet

[Slaythefear]

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Morning Raven. It's very nice to see you here. I'm hoping this thread will be a place where no one is missed or feels missed as its purpose and to be able to unload anything that is bothering you without fear of tripping anyone else up...no pressure.

I think your mom's thread is a great idea. I sure could have used it when my daughter was a teenager and had the help to get through some of those challenges. I may have drank a whole lot less or not at all by finding sobriety and better coping methods and listeners to what we go through as mothers. Good for you.

It's great you have time alone right now. When we are so busy, we don't have a lot of time to process what is going on, so we tend to stick more into habits or take escape routes.

Keep us posted on how things are working out for you. I think others stories help us get through it all.

Lovely to have you here.

Love,

Slay

[Slaythefear]

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Something to think about for the new year.

?Ultimately, your state of mind determines your circumstances. To realize the outcomes you want, it is critical to recognize and experience the transition from our present thoughts, habits, and actions to new thoughts, habits, and actions.? - Darren L. Johnson


Everyday we have the option to make change in our life. For many a new year marks a perfect starting point to begin a new habit or make a change. One of mine I am already working on, but would like to make progress on in 2013 is in the quote above. We all want to be happy and as I clean up my past messes I've made through bad choices, I must also change my present thoughts, habits and actions so my future choices will be better ones.

Love,

Slay

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Check in tomorrow and let us know how you are feeling...if the sadness has passed yet. Truthfully, I want to retire into being a Vulcan...a vulcan singing 'what's love got to do with it...who needs a heart when a heart can be broken...now that would be something to see, eh? lol

Hello to all.....and Slay....I'm feeling much better today, thanks. I know how hard it is when your heart has been broken. My husband of 36 years broke mine 4 years ago. Take time to take care of yourself ..... Here's to being a Vulcan!

Day 5 for me today.

[kdog]

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Slay, although I have not posted much lately, I have lurked and read a lot. Thank you for starting this thread because I to will not post in the NN because it is to busy for me. But I enjoy reading it just the same. You are a huge insperation to us all. I hope to be able to get to know everyone a bit better as the New Year comes. This site helps me more than I can say!
Good Luck to all in the coming year. God Bless and take care.
Kdog

[paulywogg]

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i enjoy reading almost all the threads too,you never know when someone will write something that totally hits home.

[Slaythefear]

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I'm glad you had a better day today, New Day. We'll be Vulcan sisters. lol I'm having trouble with that finger thingy though.

Nice to see you, Kdog. I hope all is going well in your world. Feel free to purge here on this thread if life is beating you down. Thank you for the kind words. We can always use them.

Repost from the NN:

Have a Happy and Safe New Years all. My daughter is coming over. We had lunch out today and I walked out of her pet store with a Chinchilla. Cutest thing and quite acclimated already. He's my new relationship. LOL!!! So my New Years Eve will be spent watching the Blood+ series my daughter likes and/or a movie and playing with the New Chinchilla. This creature chews everything, so the name will likely be Chewy or Chubaka.

Love,

Slay

Tic toc...2013 is almost here.

[RingingCedars]

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Please post a pic of the Chubaka (my preference) when you can Slay. How cool!