2013 Daily Encouragement Thread

[Slaythefear]

2013 Daily Encouragement Thread

FallenAngel;1470660 wrote:
The Thoughts You Choose




In your thoughts you can go anywhere and do anything that you can imagine. No person or circumstance can prevent you from having the thoughts you wish to explore.

Even when the worst that could happen has indeed come to pass, in your thoughts you can turn it around. Even if everything seems to be working against you, you still can think of ways for it all to be working in your favor.

Your thoughts can take you back in time and forward too. Thoughts can take you to the top of the highest mountain and into the middle of the deepest forest. Your thoughts can linger contemplatively in a particular place, or travel instantly to the other side of the universe. The only limit upon your thoughts is what you choose to think.

And whatever thoughts you choose to have are the very thoughts that will direct your life. They?ll determine how you perceive whatever comes your way, and they?ll be responsible for what you do about it.

Always you are able to choose your thoughts, in every kind of situation. So choose the ones that will lead you to exactly where you want to go.

? Ralph Marston

Wonderful as always, FA!:l

[FallenAngel]

2013 Daily Encouragement Thread

March 1st

Slaythefear;1470665 wrote: Wonderful as always, FA!:l

Thanks Slay! :l:h




Hooked From Above



I used to feel inconsistent, because my moods would change. I'd want solitude, then when alone, couldn't wait to be with others. I'd want to be still and walk slowly through the woods, but once there for a while, couldn't wait to hear live music. It took years to realize that being dynamic beings, one mood leads to another. We need them all to stay close to our aliveness. This poem comes out of the many moods.


When up, I want down, when in,
I want out. When alone, I want to-
gether. When feeling the safety of
order that hard work has opened, I
want to be wild. After so many years,
I understand it's really about neither.
Like fish with strong tails, it's about
nosing in and out of currents. It's the
turn where tail and current are one.
Just as the moment of breaking lands
us in the history of all breaking. As
the unexpected rejection undoes our
whole identity. It seems it shouldn't
but here we are, losing all that is fa-
miliar with no anesthetic. But this is
how the soul progresses. Like a mythic
fish who hooked from above simply
slips out of its old skin, swimming
on in the new. I know this seems
impossible even as it happens. But
this is when the heart is its own god.
~Mark Nepo

[FallenAngel]

2013 Daily Encouragement Thread

March 2nd



What you do with now



It is not your fault. But it is your responsibility.

The choices you have made have brought you to where you are now. And so have other factors that are completely beyond your control.

There?s nothing to be gained by blaming yourself for the way your life has unfolded. There?s everything to be gained by actively taking full responsibility for the way your life proceeds.

The route you traveled to this point no longer matters, for nothing can be done to change it. What truly matters is what you do with now.

Life is always unpredictable, yet there?s something you can count on. The more sincerely and diligently you give yourself to the living of it, the more life will go your way.

In this moment is every possibility. Take responsibility for it all, and bring the best of those possibilities to life.

? Ralph Marston

[FallenAngel]

2013 Daily Encouragement Thread

March 3rdd

From Women's Health Magazine:


How to Be Nicer... To Yourself



You already know how to treat others as you would like to be treated. But are you treating yourself that way, too? Self-compassion, or self-kindness, is vital to your mental well-being and life satisfaction, according to Kristin Neff, Ph.D., a leading researcher on self-compassion and author of Self-Compassion: Stop Beating Yourself Up and Leave Insecurity Behind.

In a recent TEDx talk (an offshoot of TED Talks), Neff argues that self-compassion is actually more important than self-esteem. Her rationale: Self-esteem depends on feelings of superiority or accomplishment, while self-compassion doesn?t. When you compare yourself to others and come out on top, Neff says, your self-esteem gets a boost. The problem is, when you fail, or when you feel like you?re only average, your self-esteem plummets. Self-compassion, on the other hand, doesn?t depend on feeling special?all it depends on is the ability to treat yourself like a human being who deserves love and care. In other words, all it takes to practice self-compassion is to start acting like your own best friend.

At this point, you can probably recognize the sound of your harsh inner critic?that awful voice that tells you you?re too lazy, fat, undisciplined, whatever. But Neff says you?re mistaken in thinking that this voice is driving you to do better. ?We?ve been taught that we need to be harsh with ourselves in order to get ourselves going, whereas the truth is just the opposite,? she says. When you attack yourself, you actually make it harder to succeed. That?s because self-criticism releases the stress hormone cortisol, sending you into a state of stress that?s similar to feeling physically threatened. A common reaction to constant self-imposed stress is depression, which kills your motivation.

That?s where self-compassion comes in. When you feel reassured that failure isn?t the end of the world and that you?re not alone in failing, you?re actually in a position to try harder. ?People who are more self-compassionate are actually more motivated and more likely to pick themselves up when they do fail,? says Neff.

The good news is that being a good friend to yourself is easier than it sounds. Neff offers these tips to incorporate self-compassion into your everyday life:

Let yourself feel bad
Self-compassion means recognizing that negative emotions, as much as they suck, are a normal part of being human. That means letting yourself feel them. ?You want to make yourself safe enough to have whatever your natural reaction is,? says Neff. If that means making your ugliest cry face and punching your pillow for an hour, go ahead. Self-compassion doesn?t mean wallowing in self-pity, however. It means always keeping your best interest at heart, and it?s in no one?s best interest for you to don your PJ?s and not leave your house for an entire week.
RELATED:7 Steps to a Healthier Attitude

Tell your inner critic to move along
Chances are, you wouldn?t say the same things to a friend that you say to yourself when you?re feeling down. (Examples: ?stop being a baby,? ?you always screw up,? or ?why are you such a failure??) Neff says it?s time to question why you continue to say those things to yourself. The next time a judgmental thought pops into your head, understand that your inner critic is just trying to help you. Unfortunately, it?s not helpful. Take the high road and thank that inner voice for trying to help. Then dismiss it and move on.
RELATED: Silence Your Inner Critic ? For Good

Write yourself a love letter
A study at York University showed that writing yourself a comforting letter every day for a week can make you feel happier for up to six months. Pen yourself a pick-me-up, but write it from the perspective of a loving friend or relative. ?What would you say to yourself in this situation using a very kind, compassionate, and understanding voice?? asks Neff. She recommends coming back and reading your letter from time to time to reinforce the effect.
RELATED: Women?s Health Readers Share: ?What I Love About My Body?

Treat yourself
Failure is not the time to punish yourself, says Neff. Try the opposite approach and give yourself a small treat, like a bubble bath or a cup of frozen yogurt, instead. Giving yourself a boost can actually make failure less frightening, which means you?ll be more likely to take risks in the future. ?If you know that it?s safe to fail, you will be less afraid of failure,? says Neff. That means you?ll be quicker to dust yourself off and try again.
RELATED: How to Create a Relaxing At-Home Spa Experience

Invent a self-soothing gesture
As mammals, we?ve actually evolved to respond to a gentle, warm touch with a lowering of cortisol and a release of soothing oxytocin, says Neff. This happens even when the touch is our own. ?Use some sort of physical gesture to express care, compassion, and soothing,? says Neff. It could be anything from placing your hand over your heart to patting yourself on the leg. Once you?ve invented your gesture, you can whip it out in the middle of a stressful situation. ?Once you calm your body down, it?s actually easier for your mind to follow suit,? says Neff.
RELATED: Do This With Your Hands To Relieve Stress

Be your own cheerleader
Try speaking to yourself out loud the way you would to a close friend. When you verbally comfort yourself in the midst of a painful feeling, ?it?s simultaneously acknowledging and validating that you are feeling it,? says Neff. Acknowledging your feeling keeps you safe from denial, and validating it reminds you that it?s totally normal to feel this way. If it feels awkward to mumble to yourself out loud, just say the comforting words in your head.
RELATED: How to Find a Good Therapist

[Slaythefear]

2013 Daily Encouragement Thread

March 4, 2013...Dealing with life

When Life's Unfair: How to Deal with Fines for Being Alive
How do you best respond to life's unjust setbacks?
Published on April 19, 2011 by Leon F. Seltzer, Ph.D. in Evolution of the Self

You're minding your own business. Taken all due precautions. Haven't had any mental lapse. Been responsible and conscientious. Certainly, haven't hurt anyone, or done anything wrong. In a word, you're innocent. . . .

Then, out of the blue, someone at the supermarket abruptly turns into your aisle, sneezes in your face--and you end up with a bad case of flu. Or dutifully following a traffic signal, you stop at a light that just turned red--and are promptly rear-ended. Or you meticulously plan a family re-union picnic--only to see the special occasion ruined by a most unseasonable, and never forecast, storm. Or jogging at twilight, listening to your i-pod, you trip on a barely visible sidewalk crack--and fracture an ankle. Or your broker (who came highly recommended from your most trustworthy friends) designs for you a portfolio of equities, almost all of which turn out to be duds.


Get the picture? Although I've yet to encounter the term, I've come to view all such mishaps, or setbacks, as simply "fines for being alive." They're fines you can pretty much count on having to pay--if only by virtue of occupying space on planet Earth. From time to time, and without advanced warning, life will deal you a slight, an insult, an undeserved blow of some sort that you can hardly help but experience as totally unjust. It's like suddenly being relegated to a penalty box, without having committed the slightest foul.

And why do I find this concept so intriguing? Simply because--personally and as a therapist--I've come to believe that discovering how to accept the bad things that gratuitously happen to you--that is, to take them in stride--is absolutely crucial if you're to achieve a steady, virtually unshakeable, state of well-being.

Let's face it. There are an abundance of things over which you can exert only limited control. So if you're to overcome the various barriers that temporarily block you from objects of your desire, it's critical to learn how to maintain emotional poise in the face of them. Even though these obstacles may temporarily deter you, you still need to hold onto your composure and doggedly continue to pursue your goals. Sure, your progress may be impeded, but it doesn't really have to end. Although your destination may be reached later than you'd hoped, as long as you don't falter you'll get there all the same. When, through no fault of your own, things just don't seem to be going your way, it's essential that you figure out how not to lose your way.

There are times in our life when we may feel besieged by events seemingly contrived, almost demonically, to overwhelm us. Nonetheless, our capacity for control during these times--our ultimate power--is to expand our space to include such disappointments, challenges, provocations, and demands. And, despite such adversity, to hang tough and resolutely adhere to our life path.

How easy--or difficult--is this to do? In general, I'd say the ability to adapt to life's frustrations varies in proportion to your personal evolution. Adjusting or accommodating to below-the-belt blows of "outrageous fortune" hardly hinges on some inborn personality trait either. For the most part, it simply reflects how much you've been able to learn from painful lessons in your past. And being able to make allowances for--and come to terms with--all that interferes with your desires doesn't really come naturally. It's something that requires conscious cultivation. So when something blatantly unfair happens to you, be ever-mindful of how (between your ears) you process it.

You need to carefully mull over how you're going to respond to anything keenly felt as an injustice. Succumbing to the temptation to react with impulsive anger may offer the immediate consolation of feeling righteous, self-righteous, or morally superior. But the associated costs of taking this low road to "re-empowerment" is that it inevitably sacrifices your inner tranquility, your peace of mind. And the more you invest your vital stores of energy in getting back at whatever you perceive as having harmed you, the more likely you are to turn immediate setbacks into chronic limitations and constraints. In which case your choosing (however unwittingly) not to "get on with it," not to move forward in your life's journey, becomes no one's responsibility but your own. Inadvertently, it's you yourself that have blocked the way to personal satisfaction and fulfillment.

So, when you're suddenly taken aback by one of life's periodic fines, how can you best respond?

Here are my three "A's" for quickly moving beyond the unwelcome obstacles that, fortuitously, may have landed squarely on your path:

Assess. Ask yourself just how serious this particular "fine" is. Might you be exaggerating its importance? In the moment, that unwelcome "tariff" (or "life tax") may feel awful--perhaps even catastrophic. But, upon painstaking reflection, is it possibly not that much more than an annoyance, or inconvenience? Finally, how much of your life (if any) do you actually want or need to devote to it?

Accept. Just acknowledge that you've been fined for, well, nothing. Remind yourself that it makes little sense to stew over whatever misfortune you've unexpectedly been subject to. Make up your mind not to let it bother you any more than absolutely necessary.

Act. Now that you've decided not to waste your mental and emotional energy by obsessing upon or brooding over your bad luck--or by ruminating about how you might retaliate--what's the best action to take? How can you best cope with this setback? Might you work around it? Do you need temporarily to put something aside to effectively deal with it? Would it help to get a friend, or professional, to assist you? . . . Or might it suffice simply to let out a single, extended, self-compassionate sigh--and then, life-affirmingly, begin to put it all behind you?

And--once you've become proficient in implementing this fairly straightforward problem-resolution procedure--go ahead and give yourself an "A," too (!).

[NoSugar]

2013 Daily Encouragement Thread

Slay - I followed you to this thread.

Hi, Slay

I was wondering where my quit-pal was and found you here.

Then, I saw you posted this in the NN today:

Originally Posted by kuya
We drink firstly because we are alienated from our true selves and therefore feel isolated, then the alcohol causes further isolation and prevents us maturing.

ALL addiction is escape from self, not circumstances. We arrest our own maturity and because we lack maturity ordinary circumstances of life overwhelm us and it becomes a never ending cycle.

To stop this we must get sober THEN restart our maturation. The circumstances of our lives then become just LIFE.

This is soooooooooooo true! This belongs in the tool box with other comments about stalled maturity and the fact that we haven't been developing our coping skills. Before I disappeared into my curled ball for a few days, I had mentioned this concept to DD, I believe. I like the way you put it Kuya! (Nice to see you back, btw) When we choose to escape the problems with AL, we really do lose focus on the fact that problems are, indeed, just Life. I'm not dealing with my problem so well. For a bit of time I think I am and then I break down again. It's just an enormously unfair situation and I am really struggling to accept it and not have it tearing me apart inside. I think some of what we believe to be PAWS or just the cycle of becoming AF has to do with this inability to handle the stress of life. We haven't been using our coping muscles adequately. Granted, my losses right now are big ones, so how much of my curling up in a ball is my inability to deal with life straight up and how much is attributed to it being a very harsh situation? Not sure.


I've read posts like these over the last few weeks in the NN and didn't really think they applied to me. Actually, I sometimes didn't know what you and Kuya and others were even talking about and to some extent still don't. I'm pretty literal, to say the least. And I didn't really think I needed this type of encouragement so hadn't looked at this thread until now.

I was wrong on all counts.

Thanks for leading me here.

NS

[Kradle123]

2013 Daily Encouragement Thread

This is soooooooooooo true! This belongs in the tool box with other comments about stalled maturity and the fact that we haven't been developing our coping skills. Before I disappeared into my curled ball for a few days, I had mentioned this concept to DD, I believe. I like the way you put it Kuya! (Nice to see you back, btw) When we choose to escape the problems with AL, we really do lose focus on the fact that problems are, indeed, just Life. I'm not dealing with my problem so well. For a bit of time I think I am and then I break down again. It's just an enormously unfair situation and I am really struggling to accept it and not have it tearing me apart inside. I think some of what we believe to be PAWS or just the cycle of becoming AF has to do with this inability to handle the stress of life. We haven't been using our coping muscles adequately. Granted, my losses right now are big ones, so how much of my curling up in a ball is my inability to deal with life straight up and how much is attributed to it being a very harsh situation? Not sure.



NS:

Thank you so much for reposting Kuya's post and adding your own personal take.

This is almost exactly where I find myself today. Big, awful losses and no real coping skills other than Rum And Tonic which of course is no skill required...I found it difficult to just get out of bed this morning...can only describe it as feeing very , "heavy" ...and I'm not drinking! :upset:

Anyway, I am making my determination not to allow people or circumstance get in the way of myself again. It has to end now. It just does. Too much at stake this time. Sending love and hugs to you.
We can do this together!!

:h:l

[NoSugar]

2013 Daily Encouragement Thread

FallenAngel;1471614 wrote:

What you do with now



It is not your fault. But it is your responsibility.

The choices you have made have brought you to where you are now. And so have other factors that are completely beyond your control.

There?s nothing to be gained by blaming yourself for the way your life has unfolded. There?s everything to be gained by actively taking full responsibility for the way your life proceeds.

The route you traveled to this point no longer matters, for nothing can be done to change it. What truly matters is what you do with now.

Life is always unpredictable, yet there?s something you can count on. The more sincerely and diligently you give yourself to the living of it, the more life will go your way.

In this moment is every possibility. Take responsibility for it all, and bring the best of those possibilities to life.

? Ralph Marston

Hi Slay and Fallen Angel,

I have read your thread completely this evening. Even though you weren't always getting the daily feedback that helps validate your efforts, thanks to you this gift was waiting for me to find just when I needed it.

I chose this post to reply to because it relates to where I am right now. I like all of the Marston quotes. Where do you follow him? I saw he was on Twitter but of course those are short.

I plan to visit this thread each day. A lack of response sometimes will mean that it touched me but there was nothing more to add to the perfect words.

Thank you, NoSugar

[kuya]

2013 Daily Encouragement Thread

I wasted many years of my life drinking at the unfairness of 'life tax'. So strange to now value those 'taxes' more than easier events.

That which does not destroy you does, indeed, make you stronger.

Slay, what you are going through emotionally ATM is a mixture of PAWS and reality. You would not be normal if the current events did NOT depress you but the removal of alcohol causes mood swings of its own.

Ride it out, blame everything on the life circumstances as this should make the alcohol factor seem less.

By the time the life matters are resolved you will be contentedly sober and your sense of victory all the sweeter. Moving on from the recent events AND alcohol will be joyous

[Slaythefear]

2013 Daily Encouragement Thread

March 5, 2013...Getting Free of the Undertow

This one is very powerful. Some of you may find some valuable insight in this article; although you may need to read it over several times while letting pieces of it sink in.


When unfair things happen in life and business: How to get free of the undertow
Posted on September 17, 2012 by Molly

Photo by Mark Kortum via Flickr

I?ve been noticing lately a tendency to attach to the drama of Miles?s accident. It?s as though I?m not satisfied that the Universe has sufficiently acknowledged the unfairness of it all.

It?s like part of me is holding out for a bigger fuss.

The same thing can happen in our businesses.

You work your tail off to get ready for a major art show, then you get sick. You lose the fee you paid, the time and money and creativity you put into displays and take-aways, not to mention potential income.

Or you spend a bundle on a marketing course, do your homework, and three months later you?re not making any more than you were to begin with.

Or you finally get ahead financially, and then your computer dies.

There are lots of variations, and I imagine you get my point.

It?s easy to attach to the drama of unfairness
Something in us insists that things should come to a halt until either fairness has been restored or there?s been a pretty darn big fuss made in recognition of our victimization.

Because it is about victimization. In spite of being committed to not playing the victim role, it can overtake us. And paradoxically, it?s our very commitment to NOT playing the victim that can get in the way of stepping out of that role and getting on with things.

It begins honorably
If you?ve come to a point in your evolution where you?re committed to not playing the victim, you may respond very well after the initial shock of an incredibly unfair situation. You may show up and deal with what?s in front of you with quite a bit of strength and grace.

And that is a wonderful thing.

But then the external drama subsides. And that?s when?in spite of knowing better?we can be pulled into the undertow of victimization.

Drama has momentum
Drama has a certain momentum that doesn?t necessarily go away when a crisis is past. Part of this is physiological. Our bodies can get stuck in a feedback loop in which hyper-vigilance perceives threats in ordinary things, recruiting fight or flight systems, which reinforces hyper-vigilance.

When our bodies are caught in that loop, it?s only natural for our minds to come up with stories to explain the experience.

The stories lie beneath the surface
If we believed in being victims, we?d recognize those stories. But because we don?t, our stories often lie beneath the surface.

In the undertow.

Which makes letting go of them tricky.

Still, being somewhat evolved, sooner or later we see that we?re caught in the undertow.

And we judge ourselves for that.

Judging ourselves for being caught in drama is like swimming against the undertow, desperately striving to reach the shore. If we persist, we?ll only exhaust ourselves and get into greater danger.

Instead, we need to swim with the current.

How to swim out of an undertow
The thing about undertows is that they are usually rather narrow. (Just like our dramas. Even though they seem real, we can sense the edges.)

So the key to survival is to swim with the current until it subsides. Then we can swim to shore.

Compassion keeps us afloat
Just as we need to swim with the undertow, when we see we?re caught in a drama, we need to be with it before we can get out of it.

That takes compassion. Compassion keeps us afloat until we are free of the current.

(Compassion is not approval of the drama any more than swimming with an undertow is approving of the current. Approval is not at issue here.)

Strategies for reaching shore
When we?re finally free of the current, we turn towards shore. We may find that we face quite a swim! Here are the strategies I?m using for my own swim home.

Meditation.
Exercise.
Keep things as simple and simpler still.
Keep returning to the next thing at hand no matter how often or how far my attention strays, and do so without beating myself about the head and shoulders.

You may want support for meditation
When you?ve been in crisis mode, you may benefit from supported meditation. Numerous written and audio guides are available. At present I?m meditating with MantraWave from my friend Eric Klein. I find the mantra and music soothing and centering, while the binaural beats ease me into a deeper meditative state.

The specific MantraWave meditation that I?m using is called Removing Obstacles. I can?t know how much to attribute to the mantra and how much to life?s unfoldment, but I do know I am quickly becoming more present, focused, and resourceful.

Exercise can rock your world
I?m a huge believer in daily exercise. I ride or run four or five times and do yoga three times most weeks. For some reason, exercise takes me out of the drama. And it takes me out of the fight or flight feedback loop.

I don?t know what the right kind or amount of exercise looks like for you, but I?m pretty darn sure that some exercise will help you get free of the undertow.

Keep it ultra simple
When you?re swimming out of an undertow, simplicity is your friend. This is not the time for elaborate plans or complicated projects. This is the time to conserve your strength, cultivate ease, and move slowly from center as best you can.

Keep coming back to yourself and to the present
When you?re caught in an undertow you?re going to be pulled by two forces: the force of the water and the force of your resistance.

You?ll be pulled into the drama and pulled into denying it.

That?s just reality. When you find yourself pulled off course (spending hours on Facebook or compulsively checking email when you are theoretically working), just come back to the task at hand. And don?t be surprised if you need to do that many times a day.

The undertow isn?t personal
Even though our dramas can feel very personal, and in spite of the fact that we take our responses to them very personally indeed, the undertow isn?t personal. Like our thoughts, we don?t create it, nor can we force it not to occur. It?s a force of nature.

What we can do is compassionately recognize when we?re in the grip of an undertow, when we?ve temporarily attached to a drama, and follow the simple instructions for swimming free.

Have a great week,

[Slaythefear]

2013 Daily Encouragement Thread

Kradle, that was my response to Kuya that NoSugar was posting. I had commented on her post in the NN. I know you are feeling this 'injustice' heaviness as well regarding your situation. These latest articles may help you find your way through what you are feeling. It is a heavy weight to carry if we don't find the proper way to understand it and deal with it.:l

No Sugar, thank you for the comments. I was once posting a daily encouragement on the NN. I decided the first of the year to move it to its own thread so everyone could read it. I actually felt like it wasn't of any use after a time and I was really struggling to get through some days under some pretty painful circumstances. My Angel, and she is 'my angel' started helping me out knowing how deeply I was weighted down in sorrow. She always knows just what to post to feed me and has become a truly GREAT friend. A kind of friend I have not known for many years. I cherish her deeply. I was hoping others would ad to the thread when they found something very helpful that could help others and that others would find benefit in the thread as I often do in articles I post or what FA has posted. It's great to hear it has helped you as I think we often feel like we are talking to the air. lol We all struggle in life with different circumstances and yet similar issues, so hopefully, if not everyday, but at times people can find something of value here.

Kuya, it's nice to see you back and you sound rested. Sometimes we just need a break especially when we give so much our tank gets empty and we need to recharge or get back to handling our own affairs more efficiently .:l I'm going through the stages of grief in several areas and it is not easy, but necessary. We can learn so much about ourselves and the world in the process. I was thinking I should have learned all this already, but life isn't that way. We are always learning. This time period is particularly deep with issues for me. Some are 'unfair' and others I have a hand in by my own behaviors. I am learning so much about me right now and this much learning usually requires a deep dose of pain unfortunately. I have been very blessed that an angel came along just when I really needed one as I was in a very deep and dark place. Some days I descend back that way and others I feel I am seeing more light. Today, I feel sunshine again as I am making a decision I can act on now. When we keep jumping back on the fence or on each side of it, that is crazymaking behavior. Something FA said to me last night in an email regarding today's encouragement really hit me and I believe I'm ready to make a decision and act on it. We must be active and decisive to get to that place of peace. Thanks for your words of encouragement. :l:h

Fight for your happiness!

Love,

Slay

[FallenAngel]

2013 Daily Encouragement Thread

NoSugar;1472805 wrote: Hi Slay and Fallen Angel,

I have read your thread completely this evening. Even though you weren't always getting the daily feedback that helps validate your efforts, thanks to you this gift was waiting for me to find just when I needed it.

I chose this post to reply to because it relates to where I am right now. I like all of the Marston quotes. Where do you follow him?

Hello NoSugar & thank you so much for your comments, I'm so glad that we have able to give you some good inspirational quotes that you have found useful.
I find Ralph Marston's quotes at The Daily Motivator. One of my favorite sites for inspiring thoughts.




Do you realize?



Do you understand where you are right now? You are in a place, a time, and a set of circumstances toward which you?ve been moving your entire life.

Do you realize the enormous opportunity that now exists? You are more experienced and better prepared than ever before.

Each past failure is now a positive and valuable lesson that you?ve learned about what works and what doesn?t. All the disappointments you?ve ever known have now combined together to create a powerful and meaningful determination that permeates your life.

By this point in your life, your dreams and desires are more in line with who you truly are than they?ve ever been before. And now you?re perfectly positioned to actually achieve them.

Do you realize how truly unique and powerful this very moment is? This is the moment when you can begin to fulfill your greatest possibilities.

This is the moment you?ve been working your way toward for a long time. You are here at last, so fill your world with the lifetime of richness that you?re able to give.

? Ralph Marston

[FallenAngel]

2013 Daily Encouragement Thread

March 7th



Confident thoughts




What if a thousand people were to come up to you today and express serious doubts about what you are doing and your ability to get it done? Think of how much your confidence would be shaken.

Now imagine how stunningly different it would be if a thousand people today were to offer you a word of encouragement, and to express enthusiasm for what you?re doing. You?d be so completely confident that nothing could stop you.

In fact, you will receive a thousand opinions today. But the vast majority of them won?t come from strangers. They will come from someone you have believed and trusted all your life. They will come from you.

In every moment, in each thought you think, you have the opportunity to express confidence in yourself and in the value of what you?re doing. The power of those thoughts can add up very quickly.

Every moment you are thinking something, and you can choose what those thoughts will be. So choose the ones that will lift you up and push you positively forward.

? Ralph Marston

[Slaythefear]

2013 Daily Encouragement Thread

FallenAngel;1473945 wrote:

Confident thoughts




What if a thousand people were to come up to you today and express serious doubts about what you are doing and your ability to get it done? Think of how much your confidence would be shaken.

Now imagine how stunningly different it would be if a thousand people today were to offer you a word of encouragement, and to express enthusiasm for what you?re doing. You?d be so completely confident that nothing could stop you.

In fact, you will receive a thousand opinions today. But the vast majority of them won?t come from strangers. They will come from someone you have believed and trusted all your life. They will come from you.

In every moment, in each thought you think, you have the opportunity to express confidence in yourself and in the value of what you?re doing. The power of those thoughts can add up very quickly.

Every moment you are thinking something, and you can choose what those thoughts will be. So choose the ones that will lift you up and push you positively forward.

? Ralph Marston

PERFECT as usual! It's as if you were reading my mind this morning. My affirmations for the last few days have been centered there. It helps. RULE THAT MIND! DON'T LET IT RULE YOU!

Love ya, FA!:l

[NoSugar]

2013 Daily Encouragement Thread

FallenAngel,

I like this this quote and see that it is another from R Marston.

It seems to me that the power of MWO is here:

FallenAngel;1473945 wrote:
Now imagine how stunningly different it would be if a thousand people today were to offer you a word of encouragement, and to express enthusiasm for what you?re doing. You?d be so completely confident that nothing could stop you.

I have felt so supported on this forum and because of that, so committed to what I need to be doing.
All of you have made me feel like nothing can stop me and that is an awesome power.

-NS