I'm new here and very nervous about this experience. I have been ashamed of my excessive drinking for a long time now, but I don't know how to stop. Drinking is the only way I can quiet my anxiety. But now I'm sure my family knows what is going on and they are worried, and the last thing I want to do is worry anyone. The truth is that I'm a violent drunk as well; slamming doors, smashing glasses etc. I just want to be a good person and not this mess but I have no idea how to begin. I'm hoping that joining this community will help so I will not feel so alone anymore.
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Welcome!
I am 3 days new here and 5 days AF (alcohol free). The support and feedback has been awesome! I was recommended a book "Kick the Drink Easily" by Jason Vale and have downloaded and started reading it!! Very eye opening. I would highly recommend it!!
Glad you are here Mein and stay close for lots of support and wisdom!!
:welcome:Live in the "NOW". :h
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Welcome Mein!
You are never alone. I know it seems that way, but now you are here you will find solace in knowing there are others here for you.
I can't tell you how, as I've been trying for about 5 years now, but I am here if you need just to vent. We are all good at listening.
Just take each day as it comes, each hour, or even each minute. You will be ok.Comment
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New and Nervous
:welcome: Mein :l
No need to feel nervous or ashamed! We have all been where you are and we know exactly how you feel. The good news is, that there are plenty of people on this website who can give you the advice and support you need to become sober, if that is what you truly want.
You may want to visit the Newbies Nest, where a lot of folks like to start out and work towards achieving initial goals of having one, then seven, then thirty days Alcohol-free. Lots of support there.
Again, Welcome, Mein! We are so glad you found us:l:heartbeat:
Star:star:
08-13-15
I am only one drink away from never being sober again.Comment
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New and Nervous
Welcome, Mein and Breezy, as long as you don't drink these feelings will go away. You are not a bad person, it is the alcohol that is causing all your problems, like Star suggests visit newbies, also the tools thread. Wishing you well..Comment
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New and Nervous
Hello & welcome Mein!
Glad you decided to join us
Please download the MWO book from the Health store here, it explains the different aspects of the program. You need to make a good working plan for yourself too. Look in the https://www.mywayout.org/community/f1...box-27556.html for lots of great ideas!
Make a strong commitment to stop, make a good plan & stay close to MWO for support - you can do this
Wishing you the best!
LavAF since 03/26/09
NF since 05/19/09
Success comes one day at a time :thumbs:Comment
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New and Nervous
welcome!
there are many people here just like you that will support you in your quest for some peace.
hang out, read alot and don't be afraid to jump in!
peace10-06-2012Comment
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New and Nervous
:welcome: Mein.
First make a plan to stop, go to the toolbox and be armed with what you need. Join others in the Newbies Nest and start getting the alcohol out of your system.
After you do you will find answers to the other problems you mentioned.
Firstly.. Get sober.Comment
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New and Nervous
Been there. I get b***chy after my 3-4th drink. I'm sure my loved ones, and unsuspecting strangers, don't appreciate it too much.
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New and Nervous
welcome mein
we were all new once and some are still trying to lick it
I'm one but am determined to conquer it this time and it's not easy
none of us would have a good alcohol record we have all done things we regret later
but your here and thats the main thing you have come to a good place to start and here is a lot here to help with advise it's up to us as to what we do with it
my goal at the moment is to be jan afComment
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New and Nervous
I am so overwhelmed by all of the supportive messages and good suggestions! I have been alone in this for years. My husband, my family... they all want me to go away and "come back once I am better", which of course makes me feel even more alone. To this day I have not had anyone supportive of the process that I am going through. So I will check out the suggested literature and visit the Newbie's Nest... and hopefully no one will mind me venting from time to time. Two years ago I moved from a large city in the USA to a small town in Germany where I do not fit in at all. Finding the balance between retaining what I know of myself as well as fitting in with the locals has been a huge challenge. I found myself drinking more after I moved here simply because I was bored at social situations in not being able to understand the German language. My German is better now, but, I now have the habit of needing a drink or I can not function in social situations. If I meet with my husband's friends/family without a drink, I have total anxiety. I have been to a few doctors but no one has mentioned that I have social anxiety disorder. So I have no clue what is wrong with me. Anyhoo... thank you again for the support and I hope I can support you all as well! :thanks:Would you like you, if you met you?Comment
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New and Nervous
It seems we have a lot in common, on the anxiety side.
I to was a "door slammer" many doors off their hinges.
Just take each day as it comes. I am only AL 3 days although I find breaking it down to minutes sometimes helps we get through.
You will be in my prayersIf drinking is interfering with your work, you're probably a heavy drinker. If work is interfering with your drinking, you're probably an alcoholic.Comment
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