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[Lotus34]

Hello all!
I'm so happy to have found this site. I'm trying to decide on what to do with myself and my drinking habits. I'm a wine lover. Aka wino... I guess? I try to convince myself I don't have a problem and that I can control this bad habit, but it's becoming increasingly obvious I can't. I'm not a daily drinker, and never during the day drinker. I would say I drink 4 nights a week on average and on those nights it's usually 4-6 glasses of wine. It's enough to get me tipsy and consequently hungover the next day. I'm getting tired of the roller coaster ride.
I found this site by the article about the 30 day trial. Giving 30 days between myself and alcohol sounds like the perfect place to start. However, I feel like I want more time to think about it and convince myself it's what I need to do. Half of me feels up for the challenge, the other half feels like I deserve to drink in moderation. Either way I'm going to give myself till Friday and see how I feel. Maybe by then I'll have mustered up the guts to do the 30 days.

Question for those of you who have partners who drink. How do you cope? Do you try to bring them on board with you?
Thanks,
Lotus

[Breezy Momma]

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Welcome Lotus

I am on day 3 on this wonderful site and 5 days AF ( alcohol free). You will get nothing but great advice and acceptance here!! I was directed to a book called Kick the Drink Easily by Jason Vale. Have downloaded it and it is very eye opening. Worth a look! Good luck in your journey.

:welcome:

[Phin]

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Welcome!!!

I find make smaller goals helps. I am aiming for 30days but am going for a week at a time. I been AF for 7 days now.

[Lotus34]

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Thanks so much for responding to my post!
Breezy, I'm going to check that book out.
Phin, I like the idea of small goals. I've done we'll with overcoming other addictions with small goals.

I'm looking forward to waking up tomorrow without a headache and extreme exhaustion.
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[New Day]

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Welcome Lotus. Yes, small goals are the way to go so you don't overwhelm yourself. Take it one day at a time. There are a few of us who started New Year's Day with a 30 day goal, but we celebrate each day that we are AF.....one at a time.
I was also a wine drinker......but it was every day ....and had escalated to a bottle and a half, and too often 2 bottles each day. I just had enough and was tired of sneaking my wine in and trying to pretend I was just sipping on a glass.....but every time I had a chance, I was topping up my glass. I was terrified that it would be too long before everyone was out of the room before I could fill up again. To that end, I began to hide wine up in my bedroom, where I would disappear to ...."to go read". It was getting too much of an effort to drink. Sad but true. You will find lots of support in the Newbies Nest thread as well. Please join us if you'd like....there's plenty of room!

[paulywogg]

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hi lotus,welcome to this site,its a cool place to be tons of support and advice,youll like it here

[Kradle123]

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Hi Lotus!! And :welcome:
You found such a great place to start your challenge. 30 days is doable! Please visit the newbie nest. They have the thirty day challenge there and I alo think they have smaller ones like the seven day.

Sorry instill can't link to the tool box on my iPad

My Husband doesn't drink but I assure you that has its whole set of challenges as well!

Stay close:l

[Lavande]

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Hello & welcome Lotus!

Here's the link to the https://www.mywayout.org/community/f1...box-27556.html
Choose all the great ideas you need to put together a good working plan for yourself.
Have you read the MWO book yet? You can download it right from the Health store here on the site.

Right now I wouldn't worry about anything or anyone but yourself! Your focuse needs to be on your quit. Perhaps your partner will want to follow suit If not it doesn't really matter because you need tol do the right thing for you.

Wishing you the best!
Lav

[bettygirl]

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from one wino to another, WELCOME!

[kuya]

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On the question of quitting or moderating, if you can't quit for 30 days, you can't moderate.

So jump on in and get 30 days sobriety, then you can ask that question again

[Lotus34]

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Wow! Kuya... Thank you for saying that. It really woke me up to how simple it is!

Thank you all so much. I checked out the tool box and I'm going to download the book tomorrow while my son is napping. I have a two year old beautiful little toddler who I love more than anything in this world. Who does not deserve a wino mom. And I can't wait to wake up tomorrow with him and not be hungover in the slightest!

This is a wonderful place and I'm so inspired now to become AF! Tonight I know I will not drink. Eat.... Yes. But no drinking for this girl.

Thank you again to everyone who posted to my thread so far. It is seriously an overwhing sense of support.

[merry]

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welcome lotus
I also was a drinker like you didn't do it every night but just about never drank during the day but i had other issues as well that triggered of the drinking
I come from a family that do drink my husband can't go a night without a drink he would come home from work via the bottle oh and always with a drink in hand
funny thing is i haven't told him about my not drinking but he seems to be drinking more
the worse time is when we have people over and they all drink can be quiet boring watching others drink
but last week I just sneaked off to bed and watched tv
my biggest problem is sleeping at night ....the body is used to the alcohol to put me to sleep ...
but will work through it ......sorry rambling on here
anyway welcome

[Lotus34]

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Hi Merry,
Your background sounds so much like mine. My parents are wine enthusiasts and helped introduce me to drinking at a fairly young age. Like 16-17. Then of course I met a man who's habit matched mine and we got married three years ago. He always texts me on his way home and asks if I "need anything"? Even if I've resigned to not drink that night, it's quite a temptation at 6:00pm to know I could be enjoying a glass of Chardonnay with dinner. Of course we know its not just "a" glass. Therefore my innocent wine with dinner lifestyle turned into an almost daily habit that was beginning to affect me in negative ways. It sure creeped up on me.

Last night was a success! No alcohol. I feel awesome this morning.
Woke up at 4am wide awake, popped a Benadryl and slet till 8:00am. So 9+ hours of sleep and I'm ready to take on the day. AF. At Lear I know today I will not drink. :-)

[Breezy Momma]

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Welcome aboard!

Lotus - I also am a wino. Very hard not to have my drink with dinner and when making dinner. My husband is on a rotating shift where he is out of town for 7 days and then back for 7 days. He doesn't drink when he's gone (no prob for him!). When he comes back he will social drink but doesn't bother him to not drink at all. He gets home tonight and I have been AF the whole time he's gone. He had suggested I just quit for 30 days to help with my weight loss. I can't seem to loose these last 10 lbs to get to my goal. He had no idea that this is HARD for me to quit and I haven't really discussed it. We always have a drink together when he gets back and go out socially and drink. So far I am 6 days AF. I need strength for this week ahead!! Good luck to you and it's wonderful you are getting "clear" for your baby!!

[Kiwi-Lass]

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:new: Im with you guys, pre-dinner glass of wine girl - which rarely stops at one. Ive battled for years really. Coming from a family of regular drinkers, I never saw it as a problem for years - until I decided to cut-back and realised how hard it was... thats when i knew it was a problem and not something I was in control of. Ive given up several times; (always in pregnancy - thats easy!) 6 week stints here and there, my greatest acheivemnt was after reading Allen Carr's book and I did 8 months sober - but I foolishly thought that after that amount of time, Id be ok to have a social drink again.... 9 months later Im back here again... Im AF day 12 today. Ive always gone sober alone, so Im hoping being on a support forum like this maybe what helps me this time. Somedays Im more confident that others