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[Byrdlady]

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Popping in to see how you are doing! Hope all is well!! B

[NoSugar]

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Starfish1;1453670 wrote: Well, this is worse- I wouldn't eat so my stomach would be empty and I would feel drunk quicker!:huh:

Me too although I did not know it initially and I didn't really want to be drunk - just to feel good.
I think it was the RELIEF of elevating low blood sugar that made my poor brain, which was starving for sugar, get so hooked on that first early evening glass of wine! Alcohol is such a fast hit of sugar ---- it felt great. If for some reason I ate dinner before I had a glass of wine (rare event), I usually didn't end up having any at all or if I did, it was out of habit, not need or desire, and it didn't give me the initial feeling of relief, which I think was was I was going for. But, if I had one, I had more.

It was when I was starting to figure out the entanglement of sugar and alcohol metabolism and my responses to both that I realized what must be going on. I think giving up the sugar switched enough of my metabolism away from burning carbs to make this difficult process of giving up AL somewhat easier. At least I don't have any sugar or carb cravings, which is nice.

Anyway, your post just really hit me as being right on target for me. And I think your advice to everyone on this journey to never be hungry is exactly right.

Good luck, Cathy. I hope we can get to know one another as we get AL out of our lives. I only have 7 days of success so in just a month or so, you and I can be at essentially the same good place!

[Persephone1]

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Just read through the thread and guessing that you must be home by now. Wanted to send you some well wishes and hope that you take good care of yourself and your family tonight. Also, please check in with us anytime...you are not alone.

[FlyAway]

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Check in when you can Cathy. We're thinking of you.

[Rags]

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Welcome Cathy,

You'll get lots of support here.

There may be a few ideas in Toolbox you can use.. Here's the link



https://www.mywayout.org/community/f1...box-27556.html

[kuya]

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Cathy..... I hope you made the evening, but if you didn't don't worry.

I took about a week of posting here and procrastinating before I actually quit. I was so scared and just not ready.
So don't worry or be embarrassed. Just come straight back and start again. Maybe read around and get your brain in the groove so to speak

I wish you courage Cathy......this is doable :l

[cathysgottastop]

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Good morning everyone. And thank you soooo much for you support and encouragement. I made it through the first night! Although I did think of having 1 beer. I told myself. No. You can't do I beer. 1 beer leads to 12. I kept myself busy made dinner and worked on a school projext with my daughter. I did have a message on my answering machine from good friend invite for a superbowl party at their house and of course my immediate thought was. Oh god no I can't do that. As much as I don't want let them down by not going I don't think I'm ready to be around it. I don't think I have the willpower

[cathysgottastop]

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I love the idea of changing furniture. I even thought change myself. Get a new haircxut some new clothes. Throw the old drunk cathy away start fresh. I feel great this am no excederin no visine. Only 1 cup of coffee

[NoSugar]

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cathysgottastop;1454186 wrote: Good morning everyone. And thank you soooo much for you support and encouragement. I made it through the first night! Although I did think of having 1 beer. I told myself. No. You can't do I beer. 1 beer leads to 12. I kept myself busy made dinner and worked on a school projext with my daughter. I did have a message on my answering machine from good friend invite for a superbowl party at their house and of course my immediate thought was. Oh god no I can't do that. As much as I don't want let them down by not going I don't think I'm ready to be around it. I don't think I have the willpower

Good morning, Cathy!

It seems that are 2 camps on this issue I've seen on MWO:
1. Protect yourself from these situations until you feel strong.
2. Face the pressure early on and gain momentum from your success.

It seems both could work, depending on the individual. If you don't feel confident that you will be able to do it, perhaps you should wait on the social challenge to avoid a demoralizing set-back. If you find the challenge of going and not drinking empowering, it could be a really good step towards the AF goal.

Feel free to post your thoughts!! Just writing them down will help you figure out what you should do this time (and in the future). There are so many wise people here at MWO willing to help us out. I am so amazed and appreciative!

[cathysgottastop]

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Thank you soooo much for the great advice. I'm not sure which way to go yet. Most of me says maybe just stay home and watch in my livingroom to avoid any temptations

[Starfish1]

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Congratulations, Cathy!!!! Great Job on getting thru last night AF!!! I am sure it was NOT EASY- but you REALLY have an AMAZING attitude about this.
I think, if you can afford it, the idea of getting new clothes, new "do", etc. Is a great idea!

About the superbowl party- Honestly, I would find some way to sit that one out. I know, for me, personally, it would have been a bad idea to tempt myself that early in the game. Also, I have seen several folks at MWO who have tried to go out too early and just couldn't handle the pressure. Everyone is different, though. I would say, just give it a LOT of thought, and if you do decide to go, have a steadfast plan, bring your own favorite beverage and be full when you arrive. Heck, even if none of your friends tries to get you to drink with them, you will still have to put up with all those beer commercials :upset:
Good luck, Cathy!

[cathysgottastop]

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Hi starfish good morning. I feel deep down that I'm not ready for the party scene. Heck its only been 1 day so far. Id rather stay home and maybe just cook snacks and stick to ice tea. I know there will be a time I have to be social. I'm hooing by sprimg summer I can right now I don't feel strong yet. I knew that as soon as I heard the invite I felt panicky about the situation. I plan to make a pot of stew tonight and homemade bread. Keep myself occupied and busy

[cathysgottastop]

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Just hope I don't get the cravings for it. I feel less confident today. I don't know. Hard to explain.

[NoSugar]

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Starfish1;1454293 wrote: Heck, even if none of your friends tries to get you to drink with them, you will still have to put up with all those beer commercials :upset:
Good luck, Cathy!

Star just mentioned one of my current pet-peeves, Cathy! --- the romantization of alcohol in our media and society in general. Somewhere yesterday I posted about the many fancy wine displays throughout our grocery stores making it so we can't just avoid the one bad aisle! Danger even lurks in the deli!!

Anyway, enjoy the Super Bowl go out of the room and get yourself a satisfying snack when those dang commercials come on -- especially when it is for your poison of choice!

It sounds like the 'don't go and get stronger first' option might be the best one for you.

Good luck ! Are you for one of the teams? I don't have an opinion -- just kind of enjoy the spectacle of it all.

[NoSugar]

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cathysgottastop;1454313 wrote: Just hope I don't get the cravings for it. I feel less confident today. I don't know. Hard to explain.

Keep posting!!!! There will be someone online to help you realize that you are worth this change and stronger than a craving. I will be thinking of you!!!