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[mauritiusdodo]

I have always kind of covered up the fact that i have a problem with AL, my hubby is the only one who truly knows how addicted I am and even he doesn't really know how vital I feel it is to my existence, I know I need to quit and that my drinking is out of control and yet there is still that part of me that doesn't want to, I really truly don't know how to get myself out of this hole I have dug for myself, I have posted on here so many times I have lost count

[paulywogg]

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so what mauri?post as much you want,keep trying til you get it,i read your other thread from jan 1 from the start,i was hoping you were gonna say today was day 30, just keep trying well always be here for you

[pixie]

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Hi Mauri

Welcome back, you will get this as long as you keep trying.

Acceptance is the hardest part. But it's also about taking a leap of faith. You probably cannot imagine your life without AL, because you can't fathom that life will be OK without it. But take that leap, have faith in the AF people here who are saying that life is OK, even much better, once you put AL behind you. At some point you will have nothing to lose, why not take the leap before it gets that far?

Good luck and hope to see you around more.

[Nelz]

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pixie;1454667 wrote: Hi Mauri

Welcome back, you will get this as long as you keep trying.

Acceptance is the hardest part. But it's also about taking a leap of faith. You probably cannot imagine your life without AL, because you can't fathom that life will be OK without it. But take that leap, have faith in the AF people here who are saying that life is OK, even much better, once you put AL behind you. At some point you will have nothing to lose, why not take the leap before it gets that far?

Good luck and hope to see you around more.

Great post, pretty much word for word what I was going to say

Mauri, life is possible without the poison we call AL, it wont be easy, but it will be worth it Attached files [img]/converted_files/2043319=7333-attachment.jpg[/img]

[kuya]

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Hi Mauri.....imagine you were marooned on a desert island right now. Would you want a drink? Of course you would.....but there isn't any.

Four days pass and you are climbing the walls mentally, if only you had a drink you would be thinking, but right now you have to work on surviving. You need food, shelter, clean water. You feel almost suicidal for the want of a drink....but not quite....you want to live and be rescued.

You are now on that island for, say five months.....the length of time I have been sober.....you are over all the cravings, you are physically well and feeling better than you have in years. You swear you are never going to drink again when and if you are rescued.

You ARE rescued. Within hours any basic needs are taken care of and in spite of how good you feel your mind turns to alcohol.....why? Because you didn't WANT to quit in the first place.

You have to REALLY WANT to be sober, WANT to be out of this hell, be desperate to recover.

Right now you know HOW to quit, but you need to really WANT to.

( BTW this scenario happens to people in prison all the time, they come out clean, swear they will stay clean but are using again within hours)

[tree23]

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I agree with Kuya that with any sort of addiction, no matter what circumstance may take the drug or fix away, as soon as the substance is available again, if there is not the psychological desire to quit and abstain, the habit will be picked up again. That is why fad diets, magic pills etc do not work in the long term. I have definitely been able to be AF and NF for months at a time, same as I have only eaten 800 calories a day for months at a time. But after a while a trigger would come along, or I'd think "I've got this" and then I'd be at the bottom of another bottle and pack of smokes and 20 lbs heavier. For me, being AF is something I WANT, not just NEED to do. Being AF is the gateway for all the other things I want and need in my life to feel any joy, happiness, fulfillment. I am grateful that my AL habit hasn't irrevocably damaged my body or personal relationships and I am grateful for this site, program, and community for helping me find my way out.

[Guitarista]

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tree23;1454710 wrote: Being AF is the gateway for all the other things I want and need in my life to feel any joy, happiness, fulfillment.

Here here.

Go for it MD!

[mauritiusdodo]

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Hi all, just wanted to report that since I last posted I had three af days (last week) snd I am on day three this week, I am so happy I finally have managed to get some af time under my belt I has been hard at my danger point each day but I feel so much better for the effort, I have come to the realisation that it is my choice and when I choose not to drink I feel so strong and positive ! It is so great to drop dh at play group and not feel the need to chew five peices of extra strong gum just in case I breathe al fumes!!!

[patrice]

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Hey Mauri

Way to go!!

Patrice

[Glass Half Empty]

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That's a great attitude Mauri! Keep looking at the positives. You'll be so proud of yourself the more AF time you get. :goodjob:

[martye]

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mauritiusdodo;1454646 wrote: I have always kind of covered up the fact that i have a problem with AL, my hubby is the only one who truly knows how addicted I am and even he doesn't really know how vital I feel it is to my existence, I know I need to quit and that my drinking is out of control and yet there is still that part of me that doesn't want to, I really truly don't know how to get myself out of this hole I have dug for myself, I have posted on here so many times I have lost count

I am always very blunt on these forums so please dont take offence.

It is very obvious from your post that you are not ready to quit. In fact I think you posted so people could tell you how hard it is to quit therefor reinforcing to you just how hard it is so you continue to drink.

I took you post as not a cry for help but a post to give you an excuse to continue drinking.

You know you need to quit, then stand up, toughen up be a man and proclaim I no longer want booze in my life. When you do this and 110% mean it you will stop. Until you do this you will continue to find every excuse in the book to drink even posting a ?cry for help? on this forum.

Stop F***in around. Man up! Go see you doc, get your head and heart in the right position and quit the poison!

[daisy45]

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Hey Mauri; good to see you back! I have been back about a week now trying to get started again. So today I start over.

[mauritiusdodo]

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No offence taken in fact quite the opposite, you have made me laugh out loud :H I am not asking for any help I just find it useful to post in here sometimes and since this is an open forum I don't see any harm in it, I have every excuse in the book to drink yes and I use them alll however I am still trying, I am not looking for anyone to give me more fuel to add to my fire!! :thanks: for your input though

PS I am actually a lady not a Man

martye;1461915 wrote: I am always very blunt on these forums so please dont take offence.

It is very obvious from your post that you are not ready to quit. In fact I think you posted so people could tell you how hard it is to quit therefor reinforcing to you just how hard it is so you continue to drink.

I took you post as not a cry for help but a post to give you an excuse to continue drinking.

You know you need to quit, then stand up, toughen up be a man and proclaim I no longer want booze in my life. When you do this and 110% mean it you will stop. Until you do this you will continue to find every excuse in the book to drink even posting a ?cry for help? on this forum.

Stop F***in around. Man up! Go see you doc, get your head and heart in the right position and quit the poison!

[mauritiusdodo]

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daisy45;1461926 wrote: Hey Mauri; good to see you back! I have been back about a week now trying to get started again. So today I start over.

Hi hun, great to see you hope this time goes really well for you, how is your Dad doing? (text me if you don't want to post xx)

[mauritiusdodo]

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Patrice and Glass half thanks