Feeling bad after admittind drinking to GP

[neney]

Hi there,
Went to G.P this arvy after cutting down on alcohol and felt tingly feeling in my face and head. I panicked and thought I better tell a G.P. Did I feel like a stupid, irresponsible Mother and person. She commented that I had quite a problem which made me feel even worse about myself. Right now I feel pretty yuck thinking about how I have made a mess of my life. She said I should go to see a drug and alcohol place and go to a proper detox centre. Right now out of 10 being feeling great to 1 been crap, i feel at a 1-2. The shame I feel, exposing the truth was really hard and I feel like crying from a mixture of stupidity feelings, irresponsibility and how that Doctor must have viewed me as a person. I feel like a shameful human being. She wants to do a blood test- great more fear, what damage have I actually done-instills me with incredible fear. Just needed to vent and tell you how I feel.:upset:

[nottoday]

Feeling bad after admittind drinking to GP

Hi nenes
Just wanted to say welcome
I am new here to only 6 days sober today.
I know how you feel I ended up with the paramedics by my bedside last Sunday! All self inflicted by Alcohol. I was so ashamed. I also had to go cap in hand to my GP who was less than sympathetic.
You will get some fantastic advice from lovely and wise senior members here in the nest, they helped me so much when I was at my lowest.

All the best Notts

[Nelz]

Feeling bad after admittind drinking to GP

There is nothing to be ashamed of.......you fall in the group of people that can not drink AL, join the club of millions.

The difference is you are ready for a change, and you have taken a first step. If I was you, Id run with it. You will be better of with AL out of your life...I promise.

Welcome to the cool kids club.............:H

[Guitarista]

Feeling bad after admittind drinking to GP

G'day Neney,

Good job seeing your doc. The blood test is a good idea. It will help give you a platform from which to work forward from. Do not feel ashamed or wear any blame. You have done nothing wrong.

Do what you have to do to get yourself healthy again.

Go for it friend and take back your precious life and self respect.

Love yourself. You are special. Let the healing begin.

G bloke.

[kuya]

Feeling bad after admittind drinking to GP

Neney.....first of all that was a horrible way for a doctor to treat you. Her job is to treat disease however caused, with no judgement. In the confines of the consult room it is bullying. Wherever you live in the western world approx 7% are alcoholic with even more problem drinkers.

Vote with your feet if you can, change doctors and make a formal complaint.

You can't have confidence in someone you do not trust IMO.

I am a medical professional and never judge my clients ......everyone on earth is doing the best they presently know how.

:l

I am amending this post, having read Jackie's reply I think I was too harsh on your doctor and read too much into your original post. As Jackie says she probably lacks the skills to deal with this and is doing the best she can.

[JackieClaire]

Feeling bad after admittind drinking to GP

Neneym
We haven't met so hello to you.

I remember my very first visit to my GP where I admitted I was drinking a little too much. I then proceeded to cry and snot into the box of hankies she had on her desk. Once she actually found out how much I was drinking and she realised it was beyond a little too much, that was when she realised that it was was above her expertise so recommended me to a day patient de-tox at an alcohol treatment centre.There I was de-toxed using valium (diazapam), was given a key worker and a counsellor.

Yep I came out of there feeling like the worst mother, sister, wife you name it I was the worst at it and on a scale of one to 10, I scored about minus 20. But and this is a big BUT I got put on the road to alcohol freedom. I hate to say this but that first time failed, as did a few others but in the end I realised I much prefered the AF life than the booze sodden existence I was living.

Have a wee think about what she said. I very much doubt she was being judgemental (they've heard worse) it was probably quite a surprise to her when your records show no previous alcohol abuse.

My wee suggestion would be to give her another ring, talk through the treatment options and be willing to work with her and the de-tox centre. It's something you'll never regret.

[Oneredshoe]

Feeling bad after admittind drinking to GP

Hi neney....I am sorry that you had this experience with your Doctor today. I couldn't agree more with Kuya! Please don't allow your Doctor to make you feel awful right now. You are taking the steps to become AF and that is what matters the most. You really may want to heed Kuyas advice and find a new Doctor, one that you feel more comfortable with. For now, wipe off your tears and put a smile on your face, you have no reason to be ashamed. You should be proud of yourself because it takes a lot of courage to travel down the path of AF living!

[martye]

Feeling bad after admittind drinking to GP

Hi and welcome!

Please don’t feel scared or ashamed. The doctor wants to help you.
Instead feel proud and empowered that you are taking the first steps to freedom.

[Siren136]

Feeling bad after admittind drinking to GP

My first thought was along the same lines as JC's post. How much of what your doctor said did you hear through your 'filter', the one where you already think you're a horrible person for not being able to control your drinking. When hearing things through this filter you are primed to take a lot of statements as disparaging because it reinforces your self-loathing. It's masochistic and I know I do it a lot.

Re-examine what your doctor actually said and see if maybe you assigned more shame to her statements than was intended. And if you think she was inappropriate, then do as Kuya said and find a new one.

You will only feel shame and self-loathing if you continue to look back and live in the past. Instead of that, look ahead to the future with no alcohol and see the abundance of wonderful things to come from living AF.

[FlyAway]

Feeling bad after admittind drinking to GP

Hi Neney and welcome to MWO.

Our society has such f*cked up thoughts when it comes to alcohol. We're pounded with the message drink drink drink from the time we are small. Drinking is cool, drinking is what adults do, drinking is how you unwind, etc. People think something is wrong with you if you don't drink. "He doesn't drink? What is he an alcoholic?" How ironic that someone who doesn't drink is thought to have a problem! Yet if you admit to having a problem with alcohol you're viewed as a pariah to society! It's shameful to say you're addicted. But if you're addicted to cigarettes that's okay. Fecked up thinking I tell you.

If your GP thinks less of you for having a drink problem, that's her issue. You did the right thing by going and asking for help. You have nothing to be ashamed of. Get the help you need however you can and this will all be behind you real soon. :l

[Oneredshoe]

Feeling bad after admittind drinking to GP

Hi neney....everyone here has given you some very good sound advice. Being honest with your Doctor was very smart and very brave. You have nothing to be ashamed of, you should be proud of yourself for taking the steps to becoming AF. I am sending you a hug and a tissue....now wipe away your tears, put on a fresh coat of mascara and try to put a smile on your face because you are strong, you are brave! Above all you are NOT a horrible person because you struggle with alcohol!

[Mootsbill]

Feeling bad after admittind drinking to GP

Hey, every single person on this forum has felt your shame, more times than we care to remember :0) you are not alone and you are in the right lace sp yippee for that.
Look into detox treatment, and when you are through use this site as a tool to stay sober. Nobody says it's easy but it's got to be easier than how you feel now eh?
Good luck and chin up xxx

[neney]

Feeling bad after admittind drinking to GP

Thanks everyone for your wonderful support, I must remember to never abandon myself when i feel ashamed. I can be so strong when I feel good, then don't want to stand beside myself when I expose the parts of me that I judge. I am in a much better frame of mind and am determined to go to the follow up appoint with self pride for wanting to change rather than worrying what someone else may think of me.
THANK YOU ALL SO MUCH=YOU ARE GEMS!!!!!:goodjob:

[Byrdlady]

Feeling bad after admittind drinking to GP

Neney....hop on over to the Newbie's Nest (link below) ...that's where I got the support and tools I needed to turn my life around!! We have folks in all stages of their quit! Also in in my signature line, find the link to the Tool Box. There are 100's of tips and coping skills to help you with those first challenging days! You have come a long way in a short time...you should be PROUD of yourself. Sober is the new drunk!!! Yay for us, right?? If I can do it, I know you can too!!! Byrdie

[Alcoholic]

Feeling bad after admittind drinking to GP

Nenny:

if you went to see your doctor because of a broken arm, and she says you had to go see a surgeon, you wouldn't feel offended or ashamed, right? It sounds like she was simply trying to referring you to a specialist who would know how to treat you w more expertise than her, that's all....