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[Snowflake]

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Monday Check In

HI ALL

Free - Yes, Hurrah! - Congratulations, you are facing huge challenges each and every day with the business you are in – but you are coping wonderfully and taking the right attitude; I really and I really mean really ADMIRE YOUR STRENGTH – Well Done! And I bet that “long-suffering husband and dog” will both appreciate the newly manicured, pedicured and toned beauty that comes home to them – I’m sure you must be feeling a lot better after all your pampering and work outs! I must remind myself to do the same one of these days – I’ve never taken the time out to have a massage and never had a pedicure – I’ll have to keep it in mind

NoSugar – Thanks for your kind wishes and also thanks for popping in from time to time and checking up on us – it is much appreciated. So glad to see that your cravings are getting later and later and that they are not so intense, and yes with time – I’m sure they will disappear – that’s what the Senior Members say – so well done. Yes, isn’t it great to waken up feeling good in the morning, I was only thinking that again this morning and also, I now have a pleasant drive to work – I’m not having anxiety attacks, thinking and wondering about the night before. It used to be a long suffering day for me as I wouldn’t see my husband until the evening and depending on how warm he was to me or not I would know if I had been good or not so good the night before – what stress to put oneself through! I see that you are AF for over a month now – well done – that’s brilliant!

Boozer – Welcome - what a great name! – I see that you are busy on the boards, so no need to introduce you to anything, you have settled right in – so welcome on board, and good luck with your journey. You managed a good 6 weeks in 2012 – so you know the drill. Like you I was a bottle or two of wine an evening, the only way I could stop having two bottles was to buy only one!

Day 15 today for me, I am still playing it very slow and safe – sort of locking myself up at home after work with lots of water and not socializing at all. I had a friend just left a message asking me and the family for aperos/dinner later on this week, and I will have to come up with an excuse as I’m not strong enough to handle that yet – I know I would be saying – “oh well, tonight won’t hurt” – so I will decline the invitation (sad I know but that is how I am coping at the moment). I should also be going away for the weekend – and I’m wary about that also – but I will think about that at the middle of the week. I don’t know what my long-term plan is (Yes, it contradicts my quote - I really should change it) – all I know is it is one day at a time for the moment.

Thinking of you, BRAVO to all and good luck for today/tonight - We can all do it - And we have to check in tomorrow - don't forget!

Snowflake
AF – DAY 15

[4thekids]

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Welcome Boozer! Of course the madness will end. You can make it end. Don't look back. Each start is a new start and it is a separate decision. We are happy to have you! I myself am only on Day 8. You should be very proud of 7 wks Af free. Try to beat it this time.

How is the rest of the crew today? How did everyone's weekends go? Weekends have usually been a disaster for drinking for me!. Did you all make it? Sober22113 - how are things? Free at last? Patrice?

[Snowflake]

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Monday Check-In

HI ALL

Free - Yes, Hurrah! - Congratulations, you are facing huge challenges each and every day with the business you are in – but you are coping wonderfully and taking the right attitude; I really and I really mean really ADMIRE YOUR STRENGTH – Well Done! And I bet that “long-suffering husband and dog” will both appreciate the newly manicured, pedicured and toned beauty that comes home to them – I’m sure you must be feeling a lot better after all your pampering and work outs! I must remind myself to do the same one of these days – I’ve never taken the time out to have a massage and never had a pedicure – I’ll have to keep it in mind!

NoSugar – Thanks for your kind wishes and also thanks for popping in from time to time and checking up on us – it is much appreciated. So glad to see that your cravings are getting later and later and that they are not so intense, and yes with time – I’m sure they will disappear – that’s what the Senior Members say – so well done. Yes, isn’t it great to waken up feeling good in the morning, I was only thinking that again this morning and also, I now have a pleasant drive to work – I’m not having anxiety attacks, thinking and wondering about the night before. It used to be a long suffering day for me as I wouldn’t see my husband until the evening and depending on how warm he was to me or not I would know if I had been good or not so good the night before – what stress to put oneself through! I see that you are AF for over a month now – well done – that’s brilliant!

4thekids – Nice to hear from you - A huge congratulations on Day 8 and also congrats. on making it through the w/e – Way to Go!

Boozer – Welcome - what a great name! – I see that you are busy on the boards, so no need to introduce you to anything, you have settled right in – so welcome on board, and good luck with your journey. You managed a good 6 weeks in 2012 – so you know the drill. Like you I was a bottle or two of wine an evening, the only way I could stop having two bottles was to buy only one!

Day 15 today for me, I am still playing it very slow and safe – sort of locking myself up at home after work with lots of water and not socializing at all. I had a friend just left a message asking me and the family for aperos/dinner later on this week, and I will have to come up with an excuse as I’m not strong enough to handle that yet – I know I would be saying – “oh well, tonight won’t hurt” – so I will decline the invitation (sad I know but that is how I am coping at the moment). I should also be going away for the weekend – and I’m wary about that also – but I will think about that at the middle of the week. I don’t know what my long-term plan is (Yes, it contradicts my quote - I really should change it) – all I know is it is one day at a time for the moment.

Thinking of you, BRAVO to all and good luck for today/tonight - We can all do it - And we have to check in tomorrow - don't forget!:l

Snowflake
AF – DAY 15

[I'm Strong and in Control]

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Day 1

Thanks for creating this thread. I woke up yet again after guzzling two bottles of wine last night and calling in sick this morning. Another wasted day in my wasted life due to me being wasted. I know I watched the Oscars but could have gone outside and painted the street and stripped for the homeless people for all I remember. I'm alone and lonely. My husband travels a lot. I drink whether he's here or not. I avoid friends and family because I want to get drunk. I'm so in love with my husband and I have such a good life - why do I want to get drunk all the time! I'm afraid. I'm hopeless and desperate. I feel like there is some action or something I should do to get better and I don't know what it is. . .I am afraid to tell my doctor that I can't control my drinking or how often I drink. I've been here before - remorseful, ashamed and hoping to begin anew. I don't feel like this is a new beginning - I already know I'm not going to make it. I can say I'm not going to drink today and believe it - yet I know that once I string a few days together, I'll be opening the wine again before the week is out. Someone please say something that gives me a hand up.

[Sober22113]

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I'm Strong and in Control;1468953 wrote: Thanks for creating this thread. I woke up yet again after guzzling two bottles of wine last night and calling in sick this morning. Another wasted day in my wasted life due to me being wasted. I know I watched the Oscars but could have gone outside and painted the street and stripped for the homeless people for all I remember. I'm alone and lonely. My husband travels a lot. I drink whether he's here or not. I avoid friends and family because I want to get drunk. I'm so in love with my husband and I have such a good life - why do I want to get drunk all the time! I'm afraid. I'm hopeless and desperate. I feel like there is some action or something I should do to get better and I don't know what it is. . .I am afraid to tell my doctor that I can't control my drinking or how often I drink. I've been here before - remorseful, ashamed and hoping to begin anew. I don't feel like this is a new beginning - I already know I'm not going to make it. I can say I'm not going to drink today and believe it - yet I know that once I string a few days together, I'll be opening the wine again before the week is out. Someone please say something that gives me a hand up.

Hi There,
I know exactly how you feel. I have now completed day 4 of being AF. I even made it past the weekend. That's big. I know you can do it too. You just have to get past a couple of days, then it does get a easier. I would start thinking about drinking wine at 3:00 in the afternoon and would curve my activities at night around my drinking wine. Once I have one glass, that isn't enough. I would drink a whole bottle at night. You are so right about another "wasted" day. There is so much you can do when you are not wasted. Even thought it's only been 4 days, I feel so alive and productive. I'm so sick of waking up the next day and not remember pieces of my night....or the kids will remind me that they told me that last night and I don't remember at all and have to pretend like I do. The hardest part for me is between 5-8 at night. I miss having a glass of wine while I'm cooking dinner or watching some t.v. But you have to fight past it. What it all boils down to is AL being a habit. Just like smoking cigarettes is a habit. You have to replace the habit with something else. Something healthier. Go for a walk, exercise, have a cup of tea or coffee, etc. I find a glass of Cherry 7-Up works for me at night. It's sweet and bubbly and satisfying. All I know is that I have tried and tried to kick the drinking habit and I would do it for a little bit and something would stress me out or I would just give in to a glass of wine and that's all it takes to go back to the daily habit. I have to abstain. I know that I can't have any....cause I can't stop at one. I want to live a productive life and alchol is defintely getting in my way and I won't allow that to happen anymore. You can do it too!

[free at last]

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Dear All -- just walked into my hotel room and what was there -- a bottle of really nice red wine. Why am I presented with even more temptations, especially when I am feeling so good. I immediately went for the Pringles in the mini bar as some form of comfort.

My plan is to pack the wine in my briefcase to give to a colleague at work tomorrow. Head for the gym and spend as much time there as possible.

Having group support helps but this really sucks. I am sure the hotel means well, why not a coupon for a massage?

[free at last]

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Dear Strong and In Control -- I just read your post and wanted to respond. I know exactly how you feel -- I have a great husband, job, apartment, life. And yet, I drink to excess, to a point of not remembering conversations or what I watched on television the night before. It is as if in some way I am trying to screw up what I have. All I know if you have to work through cravings and temptations. I just came back to my hotel room to a bottle of wine. Normally, I would have dropped my goal of being AF and opened the bottle. Now, I am going to try to make it past this new hurdle.

Exercise, water, yoga, meditation, the tapes sold through this website, emailing others on this websit. Do whatever you can to get through the evening and start again tomorrow.

Check in tomorrow with us.

[NoSugar]

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free at last;1468987 wrote: Dear All -- just walked into my hotel room and what was there -- a bottle of really nice red wine. Why am I presented with even more temptations, especially when I am feeling so good. I immediately went for the Pringles in the mini bar as some form of comfort.

My plan is to pack the wine in my briefcase to give to a colleague at work tomorrow. Head for the gym and spend as much time there as possible.

Having group support helps but this really sucks. I am sure the hotel means well, why not a coupon for a massage?

Do you PROMISE to give it to your colleague????

If you arent' positive you'll be able to resist during the "tempting time", PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE DUMP IT NOW!!!!!!!!!!!

[free at last]

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Dear No Sugar -- great advice. An entire bottle of wine dumped down the bathroom sink. Gone is the temptation. Also congrats on your month AF.

Snowflake -- thanks for starting this thread and congrats on 15 days. I am five days behind you, and expect to keep it that way.

In Control -- hope you saw my note. Come up with a plan for the day/evening and take it ODAT.

To everyone else -- my thoughts are with you as we work to remove alcohol from our lives.

Ok, time to hit the gym, as I still have to get past ordering wine with my dinner. Will check in tomorrow.

[Snowflake]

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Second Monday Check In

Very quick few lines....

Welcome Strong – I can relate to everything you are saying, it’s me (and most of us here) all over again, and I feel your pain, but little by little it can get better, I promise you! I don’t have time to stop at the moment, but please check into the Newbies Nest and the Great Tool Box (Links at the end of my post) and you will also be welcomed there with open arms, round the clock, with amazing people with amazing advice. For the meantime, please stay strong and please, please do not touch the first drink, think of something else, do something else, and believe you me – you will really appreciate tomorrow morning – the start of Your Day 2 AF, I am thinking of you and wishing you strength.

Sober – Glad that you are doing well, and that you managed to get through the W/E and thanks so much for jumping in and giving great advice to Strong. I read your mail and this stuck out the most for me, as it was just me all over again:

“I'm so sick of waking up the next day and not remember pieces of my night....or the kids will remind me that they told me that last night and I don't remember at all and have to pretend like I do.”

Really terrible to admit, but that’s what the Al does when we can't stop – UGH. Last, but not least, Congratulations on your 4 AF days, you should be feeling so proud of yourelf, well done!

Free – I can’t believe the hurdles you have to go through – who can imagine a bottle of wine waiting for you – it makes me ill just to think about it – I could cry for you, it’s just one challenge after another for you! But, BRAVO – You poured it down the sink – YAHOO – you won that round fair and square! Hope that you have a great work out and that you have a great AF Dinner! Thanks for all your advice on the Thread also, it’s much appreciated. Sending lots of courage to you and yes – please stay with me – and I’ll stay with you. Thinking of you!

Snowflake :l
AF - DAY 15
https://www.mywayout.org/community/f1...box-27556.html tool box
https://www.mywayout.org/community/f1...est-30074.html newbie nest

[4thekids]

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I'm Strong: I have found that a good half of the battle is changing your thinking about drinking which I admit is very hard. If you feel happy to stop drinking versus continuing to depress and disappoint yourself, and you resolve that life will get better without it, you will feel better about stopping.

I also think that taking vitamins and mineral supplements to replenish all that has been depleted be drinking helps a lot! I now take a zinc, vitamin B complex, and a vitamin C and D supplement which seems to curb cravings for me. Try kudzu too. I can't tell if it has helped or not but the vitamins certainly have.

Try to believe in yourself and hang in there.

[hadit]

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Good Morning Everyone. Just a quick post say Hi and to thank you all for your warm welcome! Its 7.50 am in Oz and I am about to run off to work so will post again later. I to am like so many of us. Have everything I want, a beautiful wife, 3 kids, a house and a job I am passionate about. I work with disabled kids. BUT i am an alcoholic and just hate what it has taken from me. My wife deserves better. She doesn,t need a bum drunk in her life,but she sticks by me no matter what. I don,t know how long she can do that. Got through Day 1 OK. Hope you are all doing well.:thanks::thanks: Catch u later!

[whitemarshmom]

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Checking in I gave in over the weekend.. but now im back to square 1 Snowflake , your post sounds like mine “I'm so sick of waking up the next day and not remember pieces of my night....or the kids will remind me that they told me that last night and I don't remember at all and have to pretend like I do.”

My DH and I have been at odds for years now.. he blames the drinking, * he also drinks" I blame the drinking on him being an AHOLE...! He told me last night, he has been keeping notes and documenting the things i have done while drunk... I plan on finding and destroying it.. We want to be separated.. But I cant afford to move out.... and i know he will be mean and bitter and spiteful.... and try and take the kids from me.. My poor 8 year old son.. wrote a note last night, it read please stop figthing, just do what you want to do. This is such a sad sad situation....which makes me want to drink more

[NoSugar]

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whitemarshmom;1469595 wrote: . This is such a sad sad situation....which makes me want to drink more

Hi, WMM
It is a very sad situation and I am very sorry it is like this for you and your family right now. Please keep reading all over this site, including in the Newbies Nest, where there are stories similar to yours. The important thing is, all of the responses to all of these situations are the same: It will not be better if you drink. There are no answers at the bottoms of bottles.
Hiding from pain is so tempting but it still is there and after drinking, you can't at all deal with it.
Please keep reading - someone may have written just the thing that helps you get on and stay on this path to an AF life.

All the best to you, - NS

PS If you haven't been there , there is a link to the Newbies Nest in my signature.

[Jagman]

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Hi, it's my first day at school as well today. And,like you I hold down a job and all looks ok from the outside but I get drunk most nights of the week. My wife wasn't as understanding as your husband so we split but I still thought I was ok.
Last night sitting in on my own I had 1 and a half bottles of red and half a bottle of whisky. I didn't make it in to work today which hasn't happened before and I really want to get my life back. The amount if time I waste through drinking is something else that really bothers me. So, I'm aiming for 30 days without out a drink. Good luck to us both I say.
I've never tried this on line support but hopefully it will help.:welcome: