Company needed for Day 1 - Please and Thanks

[NoSugar]

Company needed for Day 1 - Please and Thanks

Jagman;1469612 wrote: Hi, it's my first day at school as well today. And,like you I hold down a job and all looks ok from the outside but I get drunk most nights of the week. My wife wasn't as understanding as your husband so we split but I still thought I was ok.
Last night sitting in on my own I had 1 and a half bottles of red and half a bottle of whisky. I didn't make it in to work today which hasn't happened before and I really want to get my life back. The amount if time I waste through drinking is something else that really bothers me. So, I'm aiming for 30 days without out a drink. Good luck to us both I say.
I've never tried this on line support but hopefully it will help.:welcome:

Jagman, Please head over to the Newbie's Nest. It really is the best place to start and there are so many experienced people there who have been there, done that, and are willing and eager to help.

The link is in my signature.

Welcome and please spend your "day off" reading and reading.

` NS

[Sober22113]

Company needed for Day 1 - Please and Thanks

Well guess what...my husband, who is a social (controlled) drinker. He may have 1 drink a week, if that, bought a bottle of wine last night and brought it home. At first, I was upset with him because he knows that I'm trying to be AF,but then I looked at it as a challenge. I wasn't going to let the wine win! I decided to have some Cherry 7 Up and iron on my daughter's girls scout badges on her vest as well as pay some bills. The urge was there....believe me. But I kept thinking how disappointed I would be in myself if I gave in after working so hard for 5 days being AF. I fought it and fought it, watched a little tv, then before I knew it, it was 10:00 p.m. and time for bed. I felt so proud of myself this morning for my accomplishment. :wd:
To all the newbies: you will feel the same way, I guarentee it. You just have to be strong and get through day 1. Find new things to do. Just keep yourself busy so you don't think about the urge. I know it sounds easier said then done, but I'm living proof. Stay strong.

[Jagman]

Company needed for Day 1 - Please and Thanks

Thats exactly what I've done.

Thanks for you interest and halp

[NoSugar]

Company needed for Day 1 - Please and Thanks

Sober22113;1469663 wrote: Well guess what...my husband, who is a social (controlled) drinker. He may have 1 drink a week, if that, bought a bottle of wine last night and brought it home. At first, I was upset with him because he knows that I'm trying to be AF,but then I looked at it as a challenge. I wasn't going to let the wine win! I decided to have some Cherry 7 Up and iron on my daughter's girls scout badges on her vest as well as pay some bills. The urge was there....believe me. But I kept thinking how disappointed I would be in myself if I gave in after working so hard for 5 days being AF. I fought it and fought it, watched a little tv, then before I knew it, it was 10:00 p.m. and time for bed. I felt so proud of myself this morning for my accomplishment. :wd:
To all the newbies: you will feel the same way, I guarentee it. You just have to be strong and get through day 1. Find new things to do. Just keep yourself busy so you don't think about the urge. I know it sounds easier said then done, but I'm living proof. Stay strong.

Congratulations! Did you tell your husband how difficult it makes things for you to have wine in the house? Is it all gone???? You don't want to have to try and fight that battle 2 nights in a row so if there is any left, could you dump it out now?

Anyway, you did a wonderful thing for yourself last night.

- NS

[free at last]

Company needed for Day 1 - Please and Thanks

Dear Sober 22113, Congrats on getting past the bottle of wine. Same thing happened to me last night -- the hotel left a bottle of really nice red wine in my room to thank me for my business. I immediately posted on this link and No Sugar had great advice -- dump it, which I did. Can now report Day 6AF.

Dear Jagman -- welcome, we are all new in our AF journey but you will find caring people on this site. For me, I have to come up with a plan for how I will handle the next day, especially the hours of 6-9pm, but the craving window seems to shrink with every AF day.

WMM -- it is a vicious cycle we perpetuate. I finally got tired of my husband telling me "we discussed that last night", and then looking at me with sad eyes. I can't tell you that I will be able to completely stop but for now I am working not to start again, if that makes any sense.

Best wishes to everyone on this link -- keep working at it, that is my plan

[Snowflake]

Company needed for Day 1 - Please and Thanks

Quick Post

Thanks Free for looking after everyone, and for welcoming Jagman - Welcome!

Quickie check in from me ? busy day ? I had a little battle tonight in that I had a very challenging day and was glad to see it finished, in the old days I would have rewarded myself with champagne, and the thought was there ? the urge also, but I thought twice about and didn?t give in to it. So I?m more than pleased!

Well done to all for getting through another AF day, speak tomorrow.

Snowflake
AF DAY - 16

[NoSugar]

Company needed for Day 1 - Please and Thanks

free at last;1469790 wrote: Dear Sober 22113, Congrats on getting past the bottle of wine. Same thing happened to me last night -- the hotel left a bottle of really nice red wine in my room to thank me for my business. I immediately posted on this link and No Sugar had great advice -- dump it, which I did. Can now report Day 6AF.

Yeah, I'm the Wine-Dumping Police so ya'll better look out!!!
One of my closest cave-ins this month occurred when guests (with whom I did not drink!) left a "gift" of a bottle of wine...

Luckily I posted about it in the Nest and one of the Wine Police over there set my head straight!!

This is tough enough without having the dang stuff right at hand!

Have a ANOTHER great AF day, NS

[I'm Strong and in Control]

Company needed for Day 1 - Please and Thanks

I'll skip a round, thanks

Just realized that today is Day 2 - yesterday was Day 1!!! I feel like I got an extra prize in my Cracker Jack! A few things helped me today that I thought I'd share. (btw - I couldn't click on some of the links that included the "tool kit" and "things to drink instead of alcohol").

I DID find a chart of "Things to do instead of Drink" which had some great suggestions in 3 different areas ("Relaxing/Leisure", "Creative" and "Productive"). I added to the lists - I start thinking about drinking when I'm bored, stressed or "need to do something fun, stimulating or peaceful." (swiped that off the chart!).

I also found a quick 10-minute morning yoga routine. As soon as I woke up, I meditated for a few minutes, set an intention for my day, and then did yoga. I wasn't hung over, but I recognized a small spark of pride. My best friend always reminds me to "make myself proud". It helps to do that when I'm thinking of stopping for a bottle of wine.

I'm not focusing on 'not drinking', but on being healthier and happier. Looking for things to bring me more of both. Tonight I think its a swim and a sauna after dinner. AND, I'm not going to be blue about being alone.

Just wanted to touch base and let you all know I'm still hanging in there/here. :thanks:

[hadit]

Company needed for Day 1 - Please and Thanks

Well Done Everyone, You are kicking goals. I also had one hell of a day working with kids that have huge behavioural problems. Nearlly caved on the way home and picked up a bottle of wine,but somehow resisted. Got straight onto MWO and now I feel OK. Off for a walk. Cheers everyone and stay positive.

[Snowflake]

Company needed for Day 1 - Please and Thanks

HI TO ALL

HI TO ALL and WELL DONE TO ALL - YAY!

Nice to hear from you both, Strong and Boozer! And so very well done – I told you Day 2 would be great Strong and that you would feel so proud of yourself! Well done on your plan, that’s what Free is focusing on as well – working out and pampering herself – great idea! You are sounding so positive – and yes don’t be blue being alone – you are finding new things to do and in doing that and stopping the AL you will feel better in yourself day by day, even if it is something so simple as curling up with a book, it’s better than giving into the demon AL! I can’t help about the Tool Box, sorry, maybe NoSugar will answer later on or just ask someone in the Newbies Nest – I’m sure someone will be able to help you and there is always someone hovering around there.

Boozer – You are so always so upbeat and you have a very challenging job to deal with and you still resisted last night – another day AF – kudos to you – and yes your wife and kids deserve more – so great going and one day at a time!

I checked in very late last night so nothing new to report here, I know I will be good tonight as I have to check in with you guys tomorrow, so good luck to everyone for today/tonight – let us know how it is going – every story helps one and all, even though you might think it insignificant – some small piece might be helping someone out there – even though they are not a Member on this site – many people in the same boat as us just come to read – so remember to share your thoughts and opinions, it WILL be helping someone, somewhere.

Bye for now and wishing you all courage for today.:l

Snowflake
AF DAY 17

[hadit]

Company needed for Day 1 - Please and Thanks

Thanks Snowflake, and Good night everyone. Its 9.30 pm in OZ and I have a very early start tomorrow.

[NoSugar]

Company needed for Day 1 - Please and Thanks

Toolbox

Hi, and happy AF day or evening to all of you.

I've added the toolbox link to my signature. I also added a post to the toolbox a couple days ago (see last page of the thread - A message from a Newbie to the Super-newbies) about the rules I made for myself that have helped me get to 5 weeks of no dang alcohol in my body! Maybe one or more of my rules would be useful for one of you.

Hope so, NS

[Snowflake]

Company needed for Day 1 - Please and Thanks

THANKS NoSugar

Quickie..... I'm in the middle of cooking dinner, whilst enjoying my lemon water, but just popping in quickly to say "Thanks NS" for all your help, Kuya used to pop in to look after us and I don't quite know where she has gone - but I do miss her! So, thanks so much for seeing that and for taking care of us and guiding us here and also everywhere else at MWO, it is much appreciated. I am looking forward to reading your links when I have a minute.

Have a lovely evening.

Snowflake
AF - Day 17

[NoSugar]

Company needed for Day 1 - Please and Thanks

Snowflake;1470276 wrote: Quickie..... I'm in the middle of cooking dinner, whilst enjoying my lemon water, but just popping in quickly to say "Thanks NS" for all your help, Kuya used to pop in to look after us and I don't quite know where she has gone - but I do miss her! So, thanks so much for seeing that and for taking care of us and guiding us here and also everywhere else at MWO, it is much appreciated. I am looking forward to reading your links when I have a minute.

Have a lovely evening.

Snowflake
AF - Day 17

That was very kind, Snowflake. Thank you.

I also will be glad when Kuya returns. She will be reaching 6 mo AF this Friday so I hope she is here to celebrate! With a mere 5 weeks AF, I sure cannot speak with her gravitas!! And --- I could definitely use more help from her. She and the other wonderful nest mentors are why I have made it this far and oh, man, there still is such a long way to go.

But - I think all of us can do it TOGETHER if we keep reading and posting and reading and posting...

`NS

[hadit]

Company needed for Day 1 - Please and Thanks

Good Morning Gang, Just checking in and about to hit the shower for work. I know today is going to be HARD!! Will check in later.