So Broken

[spiderwoman]

So Broken

Siren am so sorry you are so low, its rotten when the one person you who should help and care for you doesn't. My other half who is not my husband has been an absolute bastard while I have been trying to do this and it hursts so much.

Be kind to you, go and buy yourself some lovely flowers and chocolate (you should be able to get them discounted now) and put two fingers up to him and try to put up with his second class company and presence until this is done then, feeling stronger you can kick his arse along with ALs into submission, this is how I'm trying to handle a rotten situation.

Sylv x

[DimensionDrifter]

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To: Siren and Jeff

Well I'm no expert... But I remember something I tried some years ago.. Lived with a person that had turned totally against me.. Was sour and cruel 95% of the time.. One day (after being sober for months of course) I decided to just NOT play the game. (Because it does become a silly game played by adults) but with awful side effects! I decided to be obnoxiously sweet (CONSTANTLY)!! and pay no attention to their mellow drama at all! (yes, it's hard to do) but once you have become accustomed to it.. it becomes easy! When it was TO MUCH drama.. I would just leave! Go anywhere, but not stay at home! Come back hours later and continue to be (obnoxiously sweet) LOL! Believe or not after some weeks it worked! They started to return this kindness and knew if they did not! I would just walk out! Give it a try!

[Siren136]

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Thanks everyone. I'm better today, more positive, too. It turns out I was coming down with a cold, so I was a little more emotional than normal last night. I mean, my situation is still crappy but I need to keep dealing with it.

Please rest assured - he is not outwardly cruel to me. He is just indifferent to me, which can be even worse. No real support, no comfort, no affection, etc.

I really appreciate everyone's comments and concern.

[patrice]

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Hi Siren,

I am so glad you are feeling better. Life is not linear, is it!!
And today is another day!

Take care
Patrice
x

[NoSugar]

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I saw on another thread that tomorrow is your birthday, Siren. HAPPY DAY TO YOU!!!

Your idea to begin your AF life on your birthday is perfect! Each year you can have a double celebration!

You can do it and you are worth it!!!

[NewOne]

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Truthfully, I think you have to find the love, support & comfort within yourself. I know it sounds cliche'. But if people don't see you giving it to yourself, they won't give it to you either.

Now I dare you...Double Dog Dare you...to buy some flowers, a nice scented candle, some good smelling bath stuff & a BIG box of chocolates and go soak & suck on chocolates until you are a wrinkled prune & have gained 5 pounds. Threaten the whole household with no dinner for a week if they disturb you because you are having a nice lovely Valentine evening celebration. Alone.

Remember, this is a Double Dog Dare. Not only will it be indulgent but it will be scandelous. Everyone will think you mad. Looney. You've lost it. Plus, it'll be good for a laugh.