Losing all hope

[dinnysis]

Please help me see a way out of this hell, where is the strength? Do I have it in me to live without putting a glass of vodka on the end of everything?

[Talisman]

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It is SO difficult. But try to hold onto the hope that brought you to this place. Just hold on for a moment at a time; and, with each one that passes without your giving in and drinking, you can be proud of yourself that you have moved forward on your journey ... even if you sink again, you have made progress. Try to be strong. I am thinking of you and praying for you.
:h

[dinnysis]

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Thank you so much for response Talisman, I appreciate your help.

[Byrdlady]

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Dinn, I've looked back over your posts here....why don't you head on back to the Newbie's Nest...the link is in my signature line below. It's a busy place and you will find great support there, IF you are willing! Getting sober takes work and commitment. If you are ready, we can help! If you were like me, you only had 2 choices....get sober or die drinking. That's it, and it was a HARD choice, but boy howdy am I glad I chose to be sober. Being led thru life by a bottle sucks! Once you get to the NN, read back a couple weeks and get to know us....also, find the link to the Tool Box below...there are 100's of tips and coping skills to help you there. I just looked thru it this past week, and everything you need to know to help yourself is there....and the folks in the NN can then lend support to reinforce it. If you are ready to quit...we can help!! Welcome aboard! Byrdie

[dinnysis]

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Thank you Byrdlady please stay around for me and Talisman too deep down I want to get better.

[lizker]

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You have taken the most important step to recovery. Recognizing
that you have a problem. Each person is uniquely created, so
create a plan that will work for you that you can stick with. Nutrition is
very very important. You can start there with healthy foods and
supplements like omega369. Incooperate an exercise, preferbly cardio
exercises. Stay hooked to mwo. Ask Jesus to help you. Good lucky and God bless

[Talisman]

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Hi Dinnysis

I hope you're ok. I am still thinking of you and sending you love. Let's stick together on this difficult journey.

:l

[kuya]

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dinnysis;1463997 wrote: Please help me see a way out of this hell, where is the strength? Do I have it in me to live without putting a glass of vodka on the end of everything?

I hope you log back in and start your journey.

Come over to the newbies nest and join us.

Like you my poison of choice was vodka, half a bottle a day for 23 years.

Sober now for nearly six months and never been happier. The first week is about the physical withdrawal and after that it is about attitude and changing your mind about alcohol.

I would not normally mention this but an earlier poster, quite inappropriately, presumed that you would be helped by her religious belief. If it is yours too, fine, but for all we know you could be Jewish, Muslim, atheist, Hindu or one of MANY other beliefs.

Let me assure you NO faith is required to quit alcohol, except a leap of faith when those who have achieved sobriety try to show you the way.

This is NOT AA............. no higher powers are required.

[Siren136]

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Hi Dinn, not much to add to the above advice. Except to say that in the early days you don't need to be thinking about the long term. Concentrate on not drinking today, this hour, this minute. Don't worry about forever. Get yourself through the next couple of days sober and then make plans for the future.

[dinnysis]

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Thanks very much to everyone who replied, got to day 4 week before last, sweating, sleepless, but felt so much better during the day than if i had been passed out for 8 hours, think i was just getting over the worst, i know i can do it again, Sunday morning no alcohol in house, so appreciate the support, been to GP and recently started counselling sessions, think that was a trigger, very nice person but suggests cutting down, drinking diary etc, and says I couldn't stop all together as did not get to this stage overnight, suppose some reasoning there folks but.......... don't know what to say now other than I'm not touching drink today.

[kuya]

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If you did 4 days then you can stop cold. I did and it wasn't nearly as hard as I feared. What is the longest sober time since back in 2010 when you were here before?

[dinnysis]

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Hi Kuya, thanks, I think 4 days was the longest, before that it was 2007 when I did 14 days when I went away with a family member who didn't drink, was the best time. Soon as I was back I started again. I think you are right about the fear, Dont know what the heck I'm so scared about, I'm killing myself that should be scary enough to make me get a grip. Not drinking today going to focus on that for now. I've posted in the newbies nest as well, will stay close, thanks for support.

[lizker]

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kuya;1464159 wrote: I hope you log back in and start your journey.

Come over to the newbies nest and join us.

Like you my poison of choice was vodka, half a bottle a day for 23 years.

Sober now for nearly six months and never been happier. The first week is about the physical withdrawal and after that it is about attitude and changing your mind about alcohol.

I would not normally mention this but an earlier poster, quite inappropriately, presumed that you would be helped by her religious belief. If it is yours too, fine, but for all we know you could be Jewish, Muslim, atheist, Hindu or one of MANY other beliefs.

Let me assure you NO faith is required to quit alcohol, except a leap of faith when those who have achieved sobriety try to show you the way.

This is NOT AA............. no higher powers are required.

What is it about God that makes your blood boil?

[kuya]

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dinnysis;1464299 wrote: Hi Kuya, thanks, I think 4 days was the longest, before that it was 2007 when I did 14 days when I went away with a family member who didn't drink, was the best time. Soon as I was back I started again. I think you are right about the fear, Dont know what the heck I'm so scared about, I'm killing myself that should be scary enough to make me get a grip. Not drinking today going to focus on that for now. I've posted in the newbies nest as well, will stay close, thanks for support.

It is the FEAR of quitting that stopped me quitting, when it was, in fact, not hard at all.

My biggest regret is wasting all those years because of fear. I never got over four days in all those years.

Stick close and really work at it this time. It can be done, you just have to change your mind and realise that being sober is normal and drinking alcohol ( for ANYBODY) is wierd. It may be common but so was smoking a few years ago.

Being sober is cool, my friend.

[kuya]

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lizker;1464352 wrote: What is it about God that makes your blood boil?

Lizker ....... GOD does NOT make my blood boil, nor does Santa Claus or the Easter Bunny.

MWO is a secular site. There is a section to declare our beliefs.

If you were to tell a new person that you intend to pray for them, then OK , I suppose, as it is YOUR belief........but to suggest that they pray to Jesus,if they have another faith, or none at all it may well make them leave.

Your arrogant projection that a person coming here for help should seek help from YOUR internalised invisible friends is what makes my blood boil.