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[lizker]

Iam on day 36. My best friend's lil gal turns 1 today. Alcohol was a very big
part of our friendship, kinda like those Jersey Shores girls
who enabled each other thro there twisted dysfunction.
My friend invited me to the b/day party two days ago and
dopamine has been shooting thro the roof. I kept telling myself that I can be
I can be around her and not drink but in my heart of hearts that's like
playing with fire. I battled the urge to go for
2 days. Today was extremely trying. I finally turned my phone
off, hit the gym and stayed there for 3hrs, logged 5.5 miles, tried
new machines i've never been on before until I felt the strong urge fade. Iam home sipping
hot coco and the triumphant feeling is awesome. All these to
say these battle is real but it can be won.

[decided]

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[caysea]

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Hi All
Liz so good to realize the trigger and find a positive way to deal with it.
I think one of the biggest problems in our recovery happens when we have a social obligation. We are dealing with trying to function in the world while we are battling al. It is us who has to realize and be objective to the situations we place ourselves in. If we were in rehab the decision would be made for us. We would be removed from the rest of the world for 30 days while we learn ways to deal with life. When we have to make the decision we often don't want to offend others. We are worrying about others instead of ourselves.
I was very selfish at the start of my recovery. I thought about nothing being as important as my recovery. I had to! When you are dealing with a decision about going to a social event I think we have to base that decision on how high on our list of triggers it falls. Then make the decision. Each person has to figure it out for themselves. Do you really belong in a situation that is a 10 on a scale of 1- 10. 10 being the hardest to deal with.
This is part of the hard work we talk about in remaining sober after you have stopped drinking. I will say with time the list of triggers gets smaller and smaller and eventually goes away.

Stay Healthy and Keep Fighting
AF 5-16-08

[limers]

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ah well done Lizker!!! Day 36 is fantastic and another battle won xx

[lizker]

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Decided. I had to learn the hard way on some of the situations
that iam now distancing myself from. Like most people here
this my 5th or 6th try. I relapsed 2 times by allowing myself to
be around this particular friend. I felt obligated to be in her life as
we have been friends for a long time. She was very disappointed that I didn't
attend the party. All I can think of is what if had?

[lizker]

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caysea;1465494 wrote: Hi All
Liz so good to realize the trigger and find a positive way to deal with it.
I think one of the biggest problems in our recovery happens when we have a social obligation. We are dealing with trying to function in the world while we are battling al. It is us who has to realize and be objective to the situations we place ourselves in. If we were in rehab the decision would be made for us. We would be removed from the rest of the world for 30 days while we learn ways to deal with life. When we have to make the decision we often don't want to offend others. We are worrying about others instead of ourselves.
I was very selfish at the start of my recovery. I thought about nothing being as important as my recovery. I had to! When you are dealing with a decision about going to a social event I think we have to base that decision on how high on our list of triggers it falls. Then make the decision. Each person has to figure it out for themselves. Do you really belong in a situation that is a 10 on a scale of 1- 10. 10 being the hardest to deal with.
This is part of the hard work we talk about in remaining sober after you have stopped drinking. I will say with time the list of triggers gets smaller and smaller and eventually goes away.

Stay Healthy and Keep Fighting
AF 5-16-08

That rehab discipline strategy is a really interesting concept.
Matter of fact its a strategy that I've been using. I ask myself
if I was in facility where iam spending $1000 to 2000 a day
to stop drinking, will I even think about touching alc? Or
If I did something real bad as a result of my drinking and
got locked up wouldn't I dry out cold turkey?
If i did serious damage to an organ and couldn't drink anymore
wouldn't I find a way? So why let it get to to those extremes
to learn the discipline. Social obligations are quite challenging
but I know that iam a better friend, sister, aunt..
when iam healthy. That is my main focus right now.I am taking lessons from previous failures
and staying away from anything that can jeopardize this recovery.

[lizker]

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limers;1465610 wrote: ah well done Lizker!!! Day 36 is fantastic and another battle won xx

Thanks LImers. I am on day 39 soon to be 40 as iam getting ready
to go to bed. Had cereal an banana for dinner instead of 6 ice beers.
I still can't believe it. Never thought I could ever get to this place