Not a slip. I chose to drink.

[scottish lass]

Not a slip. I chose to drink.

Hi, I am in the same boat - I see people who seem to manage to quit on their first or second try - and I am sure I am on my 50th try - I just keep trying and I look back on two years ago and realise that I am so much better off than I was. I have had some wine on 8 days out of last 53, and I am going to decide that this is MY success - it is not where I need to be, but it is working for me - it is a huge improvement from 2 years ago where I would have had some wine 53 out of the 53 days. I am also not drinking as much when I do, and I am very aware of it when I do.
I like the quotes in my signature - it works for me - not everyone has patience when I slip/choose to drink, and I have gone away from MWO from time to time - but that doesn't work for me either.
So Red - this journey is all about you - do what you need to do to keep moving forward, and never give up...
Happy to travel along this road with you :l :l SL

[Glass Half Empty]

Not a slip. I chose to drink.

rednose;1467010 wrote:
When I can man up and get 7 days in a row I will
Be back.

Red, that's like saying you won't go to the gym until you get fit, or you won't go to the Dr until you feel better.

You can't shock or disappoint us, or make us tired of your posts, not matter how hard you try. So come back and struggle along with the rest of us.

:l

[NoSugar]

Not a slip. I chose to drink.

Hi, Rednose

Instead of going away entirely, how about hanging in the Newbies Nest rather than hosting your own threads? Maybe that is a source of pressure since for the most part, all of the focus is on you.

Over in the nest, each of your posts will be one of many. Different people will respond with different ideas. You might see something about someone else that is helpful to you. And you could offer support or advice when you see a post from someone that you can relate to.

I think the give-and-take and sense of community in the nest is critical, perhaps especially for those of us who are trying to get going on this AF life. I am concerned that if I stopped posting and reading and reading and posting, I would slip back into familiar, stupid, patterns.

So, take the pressure off yourself and come hang in the nest and put your thoughts there, ok? We don't want you to leave - NS

[TheSunFlower]

Not a slip. I chose to drink.

We all want to quit for good....but, regardless of drinking or not....I would encourage you to post.

[decided]

Not a slip. I chose to drink.

Hey Red...I'm sorry to hear about your loss. Your far from a poor me type! You always take responsability for yourself and your choices and you always get back up. I can only speak for myself but I think that's how most of us see it. I'm terrible when it comes to dealing with loss so I can't offer much advise on that. But I saw you ask "why not drink?" and the only thing I can say to that is "why drink?"... The escape it offers is less than temporary. I know you know this, but I figured I'd mention it anyway.

I can't even remeber how many times I said I was going to stop and found myself drinking again before the day was done. That's why you don't hear about it...I can't count or remember. So far only one of them have worked though and it was the last time I tried...that much I know.

Keep posting out your thought process and feelings, it seems to have helped some. For you so far. I don't think I would have made 7 days if I had waited to start posting...

*hugz

[Hippyman]

Not a slip. I chose to drink.

IMO It takes an alcoholic to help an alcoholic. That's why we are here!

[Kradle123]

Not a slip. I chose to drink.

decided;1468177 wrote: Hey Red...I'm sorry to hear about your loss. Your far from a poor me type! You always take responsability for yourself and your choices and you always get back up. I can only speak for myself but I think that's how most of us see it. I'm terrible when it comes to dealing with loss so I can't offer much advise on that. But I saw you ask "why not drink?" and the only thing I can say to that is "why drink?"... The escape it offers is less than temporary. I know you know this, but I figured I'd mention it anyway.

I can't even remeber how many times I said I was going to stop and found myself drinking again before the day was done. That's why you don't hear about it...I can't count or remember. So far only one of them have worked though and it was the last time I tried...that much I know.

Keep posting out your thought process and feelings, it seems to have helped some. For you so far. I don't think I would have made 7 days if I had waited to start posting...

*hugz

Just wanted to mention perhaps using the colander tool to immediately see your progress. I thought this was a trite tool at first but I got a Maxine Calander (Maxine is that crotchety ol lady Character ) and I truly look forward to sticking a sticker up there.

It like having definitive, empirical evidence that I am doing somthing. To elp myself, make my life better...

Red- I ditto what Glass said completely. I know that when my resolve ebbs, I deliberately move away from MWO because I know staying here will only strengthen my resolve and sometimes I just don't (irrational though it is..) want that.

:l:h

[hadit]

Not a slip. I chose to drink.

Red, I read lots and lots of threads but don,t post that much as I continue to slip and allow AL to ruin my life.I never really feel I can offer much advice on how to quit,unless I can notch up a few AFweeks myself.Still, we can vent our frustrations on MWO and there will allways be someone there to listen. Good Luck in whatever you decide to do!

[NewOne]

Not a slip. I chose to drink.

The same crap is going to be there when you sober up. You'll just have to face it hungover.