I just admitted to my wife

[Jay-J]

I just admitted to my wife that I have been drinking behind her back. It feels good to do so. I think I am on my way. That was a good first step.

I had to do it. I feel relieved.

Thank you.

[almost free]

I just admitted to my wife

Hi Jay-J. Welcome to My Way Out. You've come to a wonderful place. You will find many wonderful people here from all over the world, offering their encouragement, support and friendship. Join us over in the Newbie's Nest, under "Just Starting Out'. It is a great place to start, where there are lots other people just like you, some starting out, some starting over. Read back a bit and get to know us. Post, so we can get to know you, too. It sounds like you are already on your way. You've taken a big first step. We look forward to getting to know you. So glad you joined us!

[bettygirl]

I just admitted to my wife

awesome jay! what a relief, huh?

i admitted that to my husband in the emergency room when i went into withdrawals...i was so ashamed and embarrased, and he had no idea i had been drinking (again)...i have been sober for almost 5 moths now...YOU CAN DO IT!

[Jay-J]

I just admitted to my wife

Thank you Betty. Yes. it does feel good. But I have a lot of anxiety now because, she doesn't believe that I want to end my drinking. I cried wolf too many times. I wish I can get her to believe my sincerity this time a round. I really feel bad. Like a betrayal. It's the same a "fooling around" and and being unfaithful.

:upset:

[Nelz]

I just admitted to my wife

Jay-J;1472454 wrote: Thank you Betty. Yes. it does feel good. But I have a lot of anxiety now because, she doesn't believe that I want to end my drinking. I cried wolf too many times. I wish I can get her to believe my sincerity this time a round. I really feel bad. Like a betrayal. It's the same a "fooling around" and and being unfaithful
:upset:

First off, welcome to the club! As stated, you will find people in any and every stage and place in their journey, with great advice. Pick and choose whatever tools/advice that will help "you", this is not a one size fits all.

Second, GREAT job telling the wifey, accountability will go a llllllllong way in helping you beat the beast.

Third, use this as your motivating factor, when you can pull this off, you will really start to shine in her eyes. Set some small goals, allow her to see them(I always suggest one day, seven days, thirty days and so on). When you start hitting those goals you will both feel empowered, and it is a "fininte" target, something that can be achieved, not merely saying "Ill never drink again" The pride you will get from the success will build on itself, and make it a little easier to keep trying.

[nonamegirl]

I just admitted to my wife

Congratulations Jay-J!

I had to admit to my husband that even though I had promised him I'd always be honest with him, I had gone back to hiding the bottle again. Sure hurts the self-esteem, doesn't it? But I think that Nelz' idea about setting small goals in order to achieve success right away is a great one. You can do this thing. You've come to the right place. We all really do understand, 'cause we've all been there.

[Sharky]

I just admitted to my wife

Jay-
I just did the same thing with my wife. Feel exactly like you wth the anxiety, Been drinking all weekend and need to stop starting today, I hope I can succeed. You as well. Lots of great folks on this board. Great lessons.

[Wagoneer]

I just admitted to my wife

Good for you Jay. That is so hard. We are all hear for you. I am 6 days after going on and off the wagon more than I care to admit. It only gets harder to quit when you start again...I am the poster child. Best wishes to you this place has saved many a life. Myself included.

[Jay-J]

I just admitted to my wife

It's so nice to have people who understand and have to deal with this. I'm really getting the support needed to battle this demon. I hope we all succeed.

Today is the start of Day 2. I'm feeling good and confident and wifey is not as angry with me today. I will go to the office and have a good day.

Best regards. Will check back later.

[Byrdlady]

I just admitted to my wife

Hey J! Welcome to day 2! I wanted to invite you over to the Newbie's Nest...the link is in my signature line below. Also, I'd like to urge you to read thru the Tool Box...its link is there as well. I'm sober 2 years, thanks to this place!! It really does help to have the support of others when you are going against what seems so natural to us. Going AF in a world filled with it takes some skills...that's why we are here. Hope you'll join us in the Nest...when you click on it, go to the last page, that's the most current, you might want to go back a few days to get to know us and then just jump in. We are all ears!! There's nothing we haven't seen/heard/done!!! Welcome aboard!! Byrdie

[mama bear]

I just admitted to my wife

nothing keeps me sober more than the fear of disappointing my family......again
Good Job!

[Jay-J]

I just admitted to my wife

mama bear;1472749 wrote: nothing keeps me sober more than the fear of disappointing my family......again
Good Job!

That is a good motivator. I will put that in my toolbox.

Thank you.

[Jay-J]

I just admitted to my wife

Byrdlady;1472746 wrote: Hey J! Welcome to day 2! I wanted to invite you over to the Newbie's Nest...the link is in my signature line below. Also, I'd like to urge you to read thru the Tool Box...its link is there as well. I'm sober 2 years, thanks to this place!! It really does help to have the support of others when you are going against what seems so natural to us. Going AF in a world filled with it takes some skills...that's why we are here. Hope you'll join us in the Nest...when you click on it, go to the last page, that's the most current, you might want to go back a few days to get to know us and then just jump in. We are all ears!! There's nothing we haven't seen/heard/done!!! Welcome aboard!! Byrdie

OK, I'll have a look.

Thank you.