thought for the day

[columbia]

hi nesters.........

I TRULY FEEL TODAY THAT I DESERVE TO BE SOBER.........rather than my harmful actions of I DESERVE TO HAVE A DRINK..................mind changing..........indeed........


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[ljeanner]

thought for the day

Quite the mind switch Columbia! :wave:

[ljeanner]

thought for the day

I had an epiphany of sorts this week myself. As someone who has been vulnerable to binge drinking I was thinking a lot about my triggers. Stress is a huge one, but when I dug deeper it isn't just stress in general, but often stress triggered by over-obligating myself, putting other's needs first always or just not setting good enough boundaries for myself. When I dug deeper there, I then realized that I am always worried about what others think of me or that I will disappoint them or that by taking a stand I will be perceived as being selfish. ACK.

I was feeling the pressure from a few situations that weren't serving me very well that I was doing out of obligation. In three cases, I decided to stand up for myself, and as nicely as possible, try to set some boundaries. Let's just say that two out of the three did not go very well. Two people were angry at me. That was a huge trigger. I feel terribly inadequate when I disappoint people. I know where that comes from, but it was so uncomfortable. I did notice when those feelings came up that I wanted to go running down the street to the pub and guzzle a drink. I didn't, of course, but it was unsettling.