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[K9Lover]

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Hi Persimmon,

I'm glad you've found your way back to us. Please do not be discouraged. You CAN get sober at ANY age...as long as you're breathing, there is hope! Check out the Newbies Nest and please don't let comments get to you. We'd like to help you!

K9

[spiderwoman]

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HI Persimmon

Not far behind you at 58 and I've managed 103 days off the sauce, just concentrate on getting through today. Wishing you luck

[persimmon]

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I just wrote a lengthy post explaining more about my situation but I was automatically signed before I could post it. Suffice it to say that my situation is an anomaly. I drink moderate amounts of alcohol to control severe pain and I am worried that I am developing a mild tolerance--one or two glasses are now sometimes four in a single night. This is especially onerous in my case because I'm allergic to opioids. None of my doctors are worried about how much I drink but they don't personally know how exhausting severe neurological pain can be and how important alcohol is to people who cannot tolerate traditional pain medications. Three years? That is two years longer than my official prognosis. I'm a good fighter and an optimist, a person rather than a statistic. I might peruse a few more threads to see if the hostility that was directed at me is here is endemic. If it is or, if my situation and wish to moderate my alcohol use are seriously afield from what it appears others are dealing with, it doesn't make sense for me be here. To the person who posted the facetious "Get Well Soon" smilie after I wrote about my illness: I wish you well in your journey and I hope that your healing will lead you to a kinder place.

[Byrdlady]

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Persimmon, that poster is one of my friends, and she does NOT have a crystal ball and did not mean to offend you. She is a caring, wise person who has more empathy in her little finger than most people will see in a lifetime. Perhaps the hostility you speak about is generated. I've never seen a more caring place than this sight, people pulling together for a common goal...this site saves lives. But you have to work with it, not against it. Everyone here wants to help you, we've seen a lot of people come and go, and there are a lot of common elements, but being hostile to people trying to help is not a recipe for success. Good luck. Byrdie

[persimmon]

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I'm out of here. For one thing, I'm not an alcoholic but I am concerned about what appears to be an emerging tolerance. I'm not sure how her hostility was generated; she doesn't know me or much about my situation. Posting a "Get Well Soon" smilie to someone who is terminally ill is ruthless. I don't want it done to me and I don't want to witness others treated in such a horrid manner.

[thelaststraw]

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persimmon;1481212 wrote: I'm out of here. For one thing, I'm not an alcoholic but I am concerned about what appears to be an emerging tolerance. I'm not sure how her hostility was generated; she doesn't know me or much about my situation. Either I'm entirely out to lunch or posting a "Get Well Soon" smilie to someone who is terminally ill is ruthless. I don't want it done to me and I don't want to witness others treated in such a horrid manner.

I am so sorry PERSIMMON,
Please, sometimes the written word can be taken in various levels of misunderstanding. I just was in a tift with a friend, text, of 30 years because of mistaken sarcasim on one party's part, and sensitivity on the other's. It's difficult to translate people's true meaning in text, sometimes.

Please don't go away because of a misunderstanding.

-S-

[red67]

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I am so sorry about your situation. When I answered before I didnt realize your prognosis. If you need the wine to help with the pain I would drink too. Opiates in my opinion are way more damaging then drinking a couple of glasses of wine at night. Do what you need to do to be comfortable. I wish I could be of more assistance but I do wish you the best.

[kuya]

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persimmon;1480764 wrote: I participated on this board many years ago and left because there was so much fighting and character assault. It was hard for me to witness people I'd grown to care about being attacked. I decided to come back out of desperation. I lot of difficult things have happened in my life and I'm now drinking up to a bottle of wine most days. I've gained so much abdominal weight that I look like I'm pregnant. If it ever gets out that I am struggling with an alcohol problem, I will lose my professional license and my ability to support myself. I'm really scared. I don't know where to begin.
persimmon;1480776 wrote: I might be beyond help. I'm sixty.

These are your first and second posts. No mention of ANY illness........ only amount of alcohol consumed, abdominal distension, professional licence concerns and age.

As I said......I am NOT psychic.

[bettygirl]

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one perceived "attack," and i do emphasize perceived, and you are out of here? look at all the positive words of encouragement...every single post in this thread is positive and encouraging to you.
i hope you are able to see that and can find a way to achieve whatever it is you came here for. no matter what it is, you will find support. there is a moderators section, maybe that would be better for you?

i wish you well!

[Hippyman]

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persimmon;1481212 wrote: I'm out of here. For one thing, I'm not an alcoholic but I am concerned about what appears to be an emerging tolerance. I'm not sure how her hostility was generated; she doesn't know me or much about my situation. Posting a "Get Well Soon" smilie to someone who is terminally ill is ruthless. I don't want it done to me and I don't want to witness others treated in such a horrid manner.

Why are you so angry? We are here to try to help people who want to stop drinking alcohol!

[K9Lover]

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Persimmon,
I hope you can see the good comments and forget about ones that may have bothered you. I, too, know the poster that seems to have offended you, and she would NEVER intentionally hurt anyone. She's been here for quite a while and has been nothing but helpful. Please stick around.

K9

[free at last]

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Dear Persimmon,
Am hoping you will read several threads and perhaps see that there is a community of caring people. May I recommend you read the thread on the Starting Out Section "Need Company--Day 1, please and thanks." When Snowflake started, she didn't know if she could go one day without alcohol. Now she is on 40 days. I believe she plans to moderate her consumption but wanted to get a significant amount of AF time under her belt. I know the community of support I received from this thread helped me start, again, and now I am on Day 12 AF. It is a daily struggle, but I plod on. Oh yeah, I'm 54. Been drinking for 35 years, but it has been a problem for 15. Coming to the website, if only to post to myself, has helped me so very much this last month. Take care, Free.

[persimmon]

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It feels important to me to attempt to redress the divisiveness that has surrounded my participation in this community. MWO has an important agenda: saving lives.

I will most likely post my thoughts in several segments. On two occasions I did attempt to provide a more complete picture about why I was here and what was going on in my own life. Both times I found that I had been signed out before I could post what I had written. I was never a fast typist and, due to a collapse on the sidewalk shortly after the New Year, I currently have use of only one hand. Perhaps I exceeded a time limit for writing and submitting a post.

[Tipplerette]

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I am not going to jump in here except to say two things: 1. Welcome Persimmon, I sincerely hope you find a little place here at MWO that is comforting and useful to you and 2. What I would do is type what you have to say on a word doc or a note pad then cut and paste it into MWO. That's what I do when I get wordy and it sure beats the disappointment of losing all your well thought out words. The best of luck.

Tips

[Struggles 106]

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WHAT?

Hey Persimmon

I am sincerely sorry for whatever it is that you have going on. BUT you said several things-FIRST you siad most days you were drinking a bottle of wine a day and struggling with am alcohol problem.
Then you said you are not an alcoholic, that you drink 4 glasses a day sometimes.

You were not clear about your entire situation, in terms of diagnosis/prognosis. You were offered a lot of support and concern here.

But I will say this, and I am serious. If I had a diagnosis with a one year survival prediction, and pain was involved (as you said) I would drink. Simple-I definitely would. If the situation was so dire , and opiods are out, then hell yes I would drink.

But that's just me, something of a fatalist. If you want support to not allow drinking to escalate during the time you have left then you can get that here.