drinking Alone

[lorisunshine]

drinking Alone

Oh yes, I can relate to all that has been said. Drank alone in order to hide the fact. When my daughter finally got up the nerve to ask me on the phone, if I had been drinking, it dawned on me that I was only kidding myself. They knew just by the way my answers came out. How dumb is that. And welcome to Chef as well.
And like Betty said, keep reading and posting and you won't have time for the drink.
Hugs Lori

[DidItForMe]

drinking Alone

Hello Chef and welcome to MWO. You will find many people here who feel the same things you do. It's a tough road, but with the help of the folks here, it is made a bit easier. Keep reading and posting. have you read the book? It is awesome and full of tools to help you. However you decide to work it out, we are here for you!

[Julia_01]

drinking Alone

Hi.... Im new............ I relate so much to this, I have 8 replies, how do I open them? xxx Julia xx

[abby1]

drinking Alone

Oh yes..... the drinking alone situation....
Been there done that.... When my husband would call me from out of town and ask me if I had been drinking (obviously) slurred words at all. I would respond, "Of course not,
the kids are here with me.
Now that my drinking went from social to serious problem, it is not funny anymore
Abby

[tea]

drinking Alone

Oh there is truly something wrong with me in the head.... I clicked on 'new posts' saw this and thought YEESS my favourite topic, must share......only I already have... groan.

Lxx

[sri]

drinking Alone

I drank alone often -- probably because no one was there to bug me about how much I was drinking. I used to pray no one would call me -- but I did email people while drinking - very stupid given I said some stupid things.....

[tea]

drinking Alone

Hi SRI, yes I was first a 'phone pest', then a 'text pest' then an 'e-mail' pest and now.... a 'posting pest'..... No really, I haven't done 'that' yet, well maybe once or twice on a Friday night (really peculiar why a Friday in preference to say a Saturday but, ho hum, there we have it). Anyway, the horror of what you have said is the same no matter if it is phone/text or whatever....... Wish I would learn.

L

[tea]

drinking Alone

Unbelievable how this thread has 'popped' up again - or is the expression 'bumped up' again. I have just re-read it properly and wanted to share that my colleague texted me on Sunday to ask if i was okay with her coming in late on Monday ( we work flexi but one of us has to be there for the core hours 9-5), I said course it is ok, I will defo be at work for 9, anyway she went on to confide in me (?) that she was having a particularly bad weekend with hubby (we all know them so well!) and it was Sunday afternoon and she was having a cup of coffee - but it wasn't coffee it was red wine.... the hilarious thing was ... well not hilarious really but to us (dare I say us... okay then ME) was that she genuinely thought she had 'invented' the drinking out of a cup/mug old chestnut.... yawn... and really thought that I would find this hysterical and clearly never have heard of it before???? Well, EVERYONE knows that I invented that one !!??

Just thought someone might also find that funny.

L xx

[julie001]

drinking Alone

Hi all,

I used to love drinking out when I was in my 20's and 30's. It didn't seem to be a problem then. Friday night out, dancing, drinking. I got tipsy, usually had a designated driver. I never thought abut alcohol during the week. Here and there if I had an invite from a friend. Usually, we just had a few tappers of beer and catch on our lives. After my divorce, I started drinking more to relieve stress and to forget about my miserable situation. That the devil that is drinking snuck up on me and basically took over my life.When I remarried a wonderful man, my lifestyle changed. The hubby is a real homebody. So the occasional weekend outs where I managed to control my drinking and have fun and blow off steam were no more. Drinking alone then became a way to fill in stress and boredom. Yes, even being married to a very good man, I found myself bored with our lifestyle changes and no longer had the outlets (occasionally nights out) to look forward. It's crept up on these past few years. Now I'm more of a drink alone person. For many of the same reasons. Most important probably because by this point, I didn't want to here the criticism I would get from my hubby about my drinking. He only very occasional drinks and can easily control his consumption. MY GOAL IS TO STOP DRINKING ALONE! It will be the biggest challenge of all because those glasses of wine have became a key ingredient in my relaxing time. Oops! Sorry. I'm rambling. Basically, I'm an alone drinker, but would love to drink with moderation. Thanks for listening to me as I've been going on and on.

Julie

[ModerationNow]

drinking Alone

I'm an alone drinker too. I could drink beer all day long. What makes me feel very guilty is the fact that after drinking 6-8 beers during the day, I can still put away another 6-8 at night when my hubby comes home. So, while he enjoys 6 beers after work, I'm working on my 12th to 16th beer. It's scary even writing this down now...I am currently working on the not dronking alone part and hopefully just drink up to 4 beers at night with hubby.
Oh, I'm also guilty of the PWI (phoning while intoxicated) and EWI (emailing while intoxicated). My last one was to hubby's family ranting about how they love our kids less than the other kids in the family. :rolleyes
Very embarrassing. They think I'm crazy and of course a bitch. It's also too late to apologize for all the crap I said because I keep doing it...I usually enjoy my first and second beer alone, after that I can't stop and I start feeling more and more guilty...I can't control my drinking when I'm alone. I CAN however control it while in company. I still have to learn to have 1 AF day a week though. This is tough.
Good luck to everyone.

[Lorelei]

drinking Alone

I must be in the minority here. I usually drink in public, I never wanted to drink alone because drinking alone would indicate I had a "problem". The funny thing is, I'd invent reasons to go out and drink and then drove which is a much bigger problem than if I were to have stayed home and drank. If I am particularly wasted I will continue drinking at home and call people - usually my boyfriend.

[betty boop]

drinking Alone

Moderation I did that too, drank all day then all night. Does your hubby know??? Once mine was out in the open it was easier, but what got really frustrating was when he would accuse me of drinking when I hadn't .....

Tea you are wrong!!! I invented the red wine in a mug idea!!!!

Doesn't taste the same though does it LOL

[ModerationNow]

drinking Alone

betty boop;127500 wrote: Moderation I did that too, drank all day then all night. Does your hubby know??? Once mine was out in the open it was easier, but what got really frustrating was when he would accuse me of drinking when I hadn't .....

Tea you are wrong!!! I invented the red wine in a mug idea!!!!

Doesn't taste the same though does it LOL

Betty boop,
My hubby knows but doesn't say anything unless I act irratic or something...
NO, I invented the BEER IN THE MUG idea for car trips!

[wwbarb]

drinking Alone

Used to be an alone drinker, then a drunk dialer. Now, I'm an alone eater. I honestly don't think about a drink until either I know my hubby is at the bar, I drive past the street the bar is at or I hear the ice hitting the glass while he is making himself a drink.

I am going to go live in a cave all by myself.

[trixietrack]

drinking Alone

I love going to the local dive and getting drunk sitting by myself or with the local drunks.
it does gets expensive though.

A few years ago I would sit alone and throw back a bottle and a half of wine on an empty stomach while listening to music and staring at my art. I was doing that every single night of the week. One time I even decided to go out after being super drunk , some guy on the street yelled at me to go home and put my drunk ass in bed.

Now i feel weird if my boyfriend comes home and finds me and a bunch of empty bottles. he's not the type to tolerate me while blitz out my mind
better that way
trix