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    #76
    No fooling -- April 2013 AF

    I had my own little pity party today MS. Just a bad day at work - I felt like everyone was attacking me. I laid my head down on my desk and cried for a while. I've only done that once before. I had a quick, automatic thought that a drink would make me feel better, but it went away almost as quick. I went and made myself a cup of tea and took a moment for myself.

    YAY Day 3 - I think it's the lack of sleep, at least for me.
    Well it's all right now. I've learned my lesson well. You see you can't please everyone, so you've got to please yourself.

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      #77
      No fooling -- April 2013 AF

      Mein Sonnenschein;1487271 wrote: Wow, after reading through everyone's posts I can totally relate to everyone on Day 3! First, yay us on Day 3! I was an emotional rollercoaster today... had to sit and have a pity-party cry for about 10 minutes today... had intense cravings around 4pm... squashed the cravings with Diet Coke and potato chips (stuff I would normally NOT eat)... now I feel better. Whew. Day 1 and 2 were luckily easy for me so I'm not sure why Day 3 is sneaking up on me. But... in the past I would give in and I'M NOT GOING TO THIS TIME. I want those 30 days and more. I also want to be a pleasant person to be around, I want my health and sanity. I've also been having an awful time with sleep. Did someone say that is normal after first quitting AL? I know that consuming AL keeps you awake, but does abstaining do the same thing (initially)?
      Guten abend, Sonnenschein! Wie geht es Ihnen? Okay, that's it for my high school German. There is something about day 3...the AL leaving the system. I've read that insomnia during withdrawal from a depressant such as AL could be called "rebound insomnia," as the nervous system wakes up from a long semisleep. When I was doing my first great "quit," I gave myself permission to eat whatever I wanted, even things I usually avoided! Didn't want to feel deprived, and wanted to feel full and satisfied. That did nothing for my weight loss goals, however, so it's back on track. Congrats on attaining day 3, and good luck.
      Friedabee is "free to be!"

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        #78
        No fooling -- April 2013 AF

        Evening April abbers - day 3 done and dusted today for me - just in me pjs waiting for corry to start

        Full of a cold - so all I want is lemsip and water and comfort food - a fleeting thought if some al would help the cold symptoms but had some chocolate and a drink and it left me !!! Awesome !!!

        I've had a day off work today cos of this cold - which would normally have seen me on the grog from about 5pm - I'm so proud oft myself and looking forward to day 4

        Good luck to all of us April abbers
        Trying again from 22nd September 2014 Keeping it simple. Keeping it real.

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          #79
          No fooling -- April 2013 AF

          Good work Quest! A day off scares me. Even though I work from home I'm constantly busy. If I had a cold or some reason not to be busy I'm afraid I would be white knuckling all day. Even before I quit I would wonder if I would behave or just give in and drink all day.

          For some reason, 30 days seems like a lot, but being here with you all, going for the whole month of April doesn't seem overwhelming.
          Well it's all right now. I've learned my lesson well. You see you can't please everyone, so you've got to please yourself.

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            #80
            No fooling -- April 2013 AF

            friedabee;1487287 wrote: Guten abend, Sonnenschein! Wie geht es Ihnen? Okay, that's it for my high school German. There is something about day 3...the AL leaving the system. I've read that insomnia during withdrawal from a depressant such as AL could be called "rebound insomnia," as the nervous system wakes up from a long semisleep. When I was doing my first great "quit," I gave myself permission to eat whatever I wanted, even things I usually avoided! Didn't want to feel deprived, and wanted to feel full and satisfied. That did nothing for my weight loss goals, however, so it's back on track. Congrats on attaining day 3, and good luck.
            Friedabee... Hallo! Mir gehts gut! Danke f?r fragen! It's always good for me to practice my German as well (American living in Germany). Nice chatting German with you!

            Regarding the sleeping, that is good to know. Usually when I have a hangover I can not sleep so I was very surprised that I could not sleep after a sober day. Hopefully this will get better.

            I'm happy that my fav junk food squashed my cravings but right after I ate almost an entire bag of potato chips I felt so sluggish! I had thought that by treating myself with food I would not normally eat, I could stave off the AL easier. Maybe I should try a healthy snack instead? I'm a bit nervous about the "eat" concept as I've had body image issues in the past (I used to do classical ballet). But... I'm still going to try it because it's better than AL!!!
            Would you like you, if you met you?

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              #81
              No fooling -- April 2013 AF

              Dear April Abbers -- by my count, we are at least 18 people working toward a common goal -- the month of April AF. First off, and I know this from my own experience, have a plan for the triggers.

              We have several from the 311 gang who tried for 30 consecutive days starting 3/11/13. I made it to 12 days and then had a relapse. Picked myself up, started AF living again, gave into the evening wine, but started AF living again. What I learned is that each time I have tried to go for 30 days, I am getting more and more days AF during the 30 day period and fewer days drinking. Halfway, Halo and I'm On My Way are still going strong -- you go girls!

              Sounds like cooking is a major trigger for several people (including me). I've been filling wine glasses with seltzer water and also having my DH join me in the kitchen (usually my decompression time, but with his company, I am not drinking).

              Sounds like others are having trouble sleeping, and feeling run-down. Remember, we are recovering from an illness. And, our bodies are not used to the decrease sugar intake. No Sugar has the best advise, make certain you are eating properly. Sometimes a craving is really all about hunger.

              For those who are looking for a place to settle in -- do stay with us for the month. It's not forever, but will help start developing habits, friendships, and reinforce your decision to go AF for one month (if not longer).

              Finally, how do I experience cravings -- they come on my like a landslide. I feel as though I am going to be buried alive if I don't get that glass of wine. When that happens, I try to surf the craving, to stay above whatever is bringing to a dark place where poison seems to be the answer.

              Soon it will be my difficult hours -- my plan is food, a walk, lots of water, and the hypnosis tape. Think about your plan and commit to it.

              Look forward to hearing how April 3 was for everyone.
              Free at Last
              "What you seek is seeking you." -- Rumi

              Highly recommend this video
              http://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability.html

              July 19, 2013 -- the beginning of being Free at Last

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                #82
                No fooling -- April 2013 AF

                Mein Sonnenschein;1487347 wrote: Friedabee... Hallo! Mir gehts gut! Danke f?r fragen! It's always good for me to practice my German as well (American living in Germany). Nice chatting German with you!

                Regarding the sleeping, that is good to know. Usually when I have a hangover I can not sleep so I was very surprised that I could not sleep after a sober day. Hopefully this will get better.

                I'm happy that my fav junk food squashed my cravings but right after I ate almost an entire bag of potato chips I felt so sluggish! I had thought that by treating myself with food I would not normally eat, I could stave off the AL easier. Maybe I should try a healthy snack instead? I'm a bit nervous about the "eat" concept as I've had body image issues in the past (I used to do classical ballet). But... I'm still going to try it because it's better than AL!!!
                That was fun! Just yesterday I was contemplating investing in a Rosetta Stone Spanish program. I've dabbled in the language, and thought it would be a great evening diversion from you know what.

                I hear you on the eating. After years of drinking wine and snacking, I have about 20 lbs. to deal with. P'raps you could treat yourself a bit at dinner time, just until the worst of it passes, and then enjoy the calorie deficit from not imbibing. I find a stevia sweetened cup of ginger tea so relaxing, and a real treat compared to what I was                 drinking. Tsch?ss!
                Friedabee is "free to be!"

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                  #83
                  No fooling -- April 2013 AF

                  April 3 is going well for me. Three weeks ago I was just getting started and I wish everyone the best of luck on the AF journey. My life is falling into place, but I remember well how tough that first week was for me. You can do this. Yes, you can!

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                    #84
                    No fooling -- April 2013 AF

                    Hi everybody! What a wonderful little group we
                    have going here...a little on-line party (af course!)! I've had a lovely time reading how everyone is doing and the advice is great! I love your 'consequence questions' Fridabe and have written them down in my little notebook (a book I carry everywhere with my.plan, tips, quotes, any thing that keeps me on track- it's really helps me to stay motivated). And let me know if u decide to learn Spainsh, I' English but I live in Spain so you can practise with me

                    Well...it seems that we are an emotional bunch at the moment! I'm on day 18 and really powerful emotions keep hitting me like a ton of bricks!! Yesterday i was on a train and started crying- for almost an hour! I don't even know what made me so upset! Crazy! But I did feel good afterwards...felt like I'd been holding it in for a long time!!


                    Sorry about your friend running aussie- hopefully she'll come back to u and be supportive I have a friend visiting on the 26th and i feel bad that i should be excited but we've never had af time together so i'more than a little nervous!

                    Siren, I was the same as you...saving my 'real' drinking for when my husband wasn't around. I startex to resent him for this and I'm happy that I can see him as a husband again, and not just a barrier between me and my next drink.

                    Ok, thanks in advance for letting me have a waffle!
                    Well done everyone- we're over the hump!!



                    the 26th...
                    'The surest way not to fail is to determine to succeed'
                    Richard Brinsley Sheridan

                    1st goal: 7 days
                    2nd goal: 30 days
                    3rd goal: 3 months

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                      #85
                      No fooling -- April 2013 AF

                      oops, i almost forgot...WELCOME WOBBLE!!!
                      i'm happy u found us and I hope u stick around!!
                      'The surest way not to fail is to determine to succeed'
                      Richard Brinsley Sheridan

                      1st goal: 7 days
                      2nd goal: 30 days
                      3rd goal: 3 months

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                        #86
                        No fooling -- April 2013 AF

                        prettytulip;1487456 wrote: Hi everybody! What a wonderful little group we
                        have going here...a little on-line party (af course!)! I've had a lovely time reading how everyone is doing and the advice is great! I love your 'consequence questions' Fridabe and have written them down in my little notebook (a book I carry everywhere with my.plan, tips, quotes, any thing that keeps me on track- it's really helps me to stay motivated). And let me know if u decide to learn Spainsh, I' English but I live in Spain so you can practise with me
                        Aww, I'm so glad my questions were helpful to you, prettytulip! Muchas gracias! I use the think-through strategy to remind myself that AL does nothing for me. It's all bad, all the time, now that I've been away from it awhile.

                        Must be lovely living in Spain! I visited Cuba about ten years ago, and had a chance to use my (limited) Spanish. What fun! Have a great AF night!
                        Friedabee is "free to be!"

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                          #87
                          No fooling -- April 2013 AF

                          Hi and thanks for the welcomes. Gotta get a grip this end. Been asking about antabuse in the meds section and seriously considering it now. Keep f'ing up. Really don't know who I am anymore - just a Wobblehead. I can go a while and it feels sooo good. Wish I didn't wobble!

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                            #88
                            No fooling -- April 2013 AF

                            i love the anecdote to your name wobblehead!! and why do we all have these wobbly moments.....??? all.i know is that the people and advice here have really helped me to straighten myself out when i felt a wobble coming on! you're in the right place so stick aroud and share as much or as little as you feel comfortable with x

                            Living in Spain is great Friedabee i'm british and my husband is from cairo so the lifestyleis a nice happy medium for the both of us here (and none of us have in laws round the corner ) keep at it with the spanish and save the money u would be spending on alcohol to start a spain/cuba fund
                            'The surest way not to fail is to determine to succeed'
                            Richard Brinsley Sheridan

                            1st goal: 7 days
                            2nd goal: 30 days
                            3rd goal: 3 months

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                              #89
                              No fooling -- April 2013 AF

                              Hey PT, seems it's your time of year to be blooming Thanks I shall stick around and see how you guys do it.

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                                #90
                                No fooling -- April 2013 AF

                                Well day 4 begins for me - and I'm feeling good !!!

                                Good luck April abbers xxx
                                Trying again from 22nd September 2014 Keeping it simple. Keeping it real.

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