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    #106
    No fooling -- April 2013 AF

    Thanks, Running Aussie. I know I have to get to a long period of AF time, and 30 days is the start. Today when my neighbor asked if I want to stop by for a drink, the "no thanks" came out fairly quickly. When my DH asked if I wanted to go out for dinner tonight "no thanks" again came out almost as fast. I will try to read and post daily to keep myself accountable.
    Free at Last
    "What you seek is seeking you." -- Rumi

    Highly recommend this video
    http://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability.html

    July 19, 2013 -- the beginning of being Free at Last

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      #107
      No fooling -- April 2013 AF

      Congratulations Running Aussie, on 7 days. Bet you are feeling good, yes?
      Free at Last
      "What you seek is seeking you." -- Rumi

      Highly recommend this video
      http://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability.html

      July 19, 2013 -- the beginning of being Free at Last

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        #108
        No fooling -- April 2013 AF

        free at last;1488129 wrote: Thanks, Running Aussie. I know I have to get to a long period of AF time, and 30 days is the start. Today when my neighbor asked if I want to stop by for a drink, the "no thanks" came out fairly quickly. When my DH asked if I wanted to go out for dinner tonight "no thanks" again came out almost as fast. I will try to read and post daily to keep myself accountable.
        Yah, I know posting has helped me heaps. I was tossing around saying no thanks to my birthday parties today. I feel like I'm strong and weak all at once. I have decided to go but to declare I'm having an alcohol free April for my health and weight. That's a bit easier on my ego than declaring I'm an alco and can never drink with you again. But then I think I'm setting myself up for a temporary AF commitment. And am I thinking to much or should I just do what I need to do to get through this day then I can figure out tomorrow when it arrives.

        Ok. Enough ranting. Just helps to talk it out and my husbands not on board with chatting about it yet. He came home adter happy hour and was annoyed that we weren't having Friday drinks last night. The good news is that already he is drinking less since I stopped! And that's a start.

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          #109
          No fooling -- April 2013 AF

          free at last;1488130 wrote: Congratulations Running Aussie, on 7 days. Bet you are feeling good, yes?
          I do feel good but I know I'll be feeling a lot better at the 14 day mark! Still have the cold/flu symptoms, fatigued and foggy. I am hoping one day I feel so great that I get hooked on feeling good and never want to drink or smoke again.

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            #110
            No fooling -- April 2013 AF

            I am still telling people I'm not drinking because of training and wanting to lose weight. Worry about what to tell them later. You can always say ever since you quit it just gives you a headache so you just avoid it. Just get through today.

            Sorry the hub isn't that supportive - I can relate. Mine isn't either.
            Well it's all right now. I've learned my lesson well. You see you can't please everyone, so you've got to please yourself.

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              #111
              No fooling -- April 2013 AF

              So I went to both bday parties and came home AF. I had a few 'no fun' whines but otherwise it was ok. The ice cold pear cider was pretty tempting though!

              How did everyone else go this weekend?

              Good night, RA

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                #112
                No fooling -- April 2013 AF

                Free at Last: I needed to give myself permission to be imperfect in my quit, because if I can't do something perfectly, I usually give up on it. Forgive yourself, and get back on track. You've made great progress!

                And Running Aussie, congrats on staring down the pear cider! You must have felt great resisting temptation, and driving home with a clear head. I, too, got mixed reactions from two people close to me when I told them I was moving toward abstinence. If I'd told them I was quitting heroin, they'd have been overjoyed. Why is quitting alcohol, a horribly destructive drug, seen negatively? Enjoy your weekends, Abbers!
                Friedabee is "free to be!"

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                  #113
                  No fooling -- April 2013 AF

                  Thanks, Friedabee, for your thoughts. In addition to giving myself permission to be imperfect, it may also be able giving myself permission to succeed at this. And, it's about defining myself in a different way--someone who doesn't drink.

                  Running Aussie -- great job on facing the demons and still being social.
                  Free at Last
                  "What you seek is seeking you." -- Rumi

                  Highly recommend this video
                  http://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability.html

                  July 19, 2013 -- the beginning of being Free at Last

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                    #114
                    No fooling -- April 2013 AF

                    Friedabee, I totally know what you mean, I used to be one of those hostesses who always made sure that someone had a drink in their hand, I know it was because of my upbringing, I think that "drinking and socializing" is just the norm and we need to create our new normal........ not easy but necessary (in my case at least!)
                    On a mission, and the only option is success. My family and I deserve a better life, an AF life.:h

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                      #115
                      No fooling -- April 2013 AF

                      The new norm

                      Halo, you were being a good hostess! You probably also had AF drinks on hand for those who wanted them. I've referred to the Carr/Vale books and their discussion of the alcohol lie. Becoming and staying AF requires a 180 degree shift in our thinking about what the drug is and how it affects our lives. I'm not good at moderating, so it's abstinence for me! Have a great weekend, Halo!
                      Friedabee is "free to be!"

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                        #116
                        No fooling -- April 2013 AF

                        Hi all! Sounded like Triple A's are getting big wins this weekend! I just left a bar/restaurant having a yummy dinner and no AL. Everyone else had beer but I stuck with iced tea. I don't feel deprived at all.
                        Well it's all right now. I've learned my lesson well. You see you can't please everyone, so you've got to please yourself.

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                          #117
                          No fooling -- April 2013 AF

                          Wow. I'm sitting in a Mexican restaurant waiting for my fajitas to go and I am SO CRAVING a margarita. There are nine other patronages here and I'm the only one without a drink in hand. Eeeck. I wish they would hurry up. I imagine my husband will be drinking beer when I get home with lunch. I thought I was going great guns. I'm on the way home from a work out. What the hell!?!?!?!?!

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                            #118
                            No fooling -- April 2013 AF

                            Running Aussie;1488595 wrote: Wow. I'm sitting in a Mexican restaurant waiting for my fajitas to go and I am SO CRAVING a margarita. There are nine other patronages here and I'm the only one without a drink in hand. Eeeck. I wish they would hurry up. I imagine my husband will be drinking beer when I get home with lunch. I thought I was going great guns. I'm on the way home from a work out. What the hell!?!?!?!?!
                            This is a trigger you weren't prepared for, RA. Just breathe through it. Is it one with free tortillas and salsa? Eat up!! Can you get a non-AL margarita?

                            I can chat if you want. Stay strong!!
                            Well it's all right now. I've learned my lesson well. You see you can't please everyone, so you've got to please yourself.

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                              #119
                              No fooling -- April 2013 AF

                              Luckily my food came and I headed for the door. I texted my husband while I was there and his response was so matter of fact "yeah have a margarita while you are waiting" what is wrong with this man!? I have told him 20 times now that I'm not drinking in April. So I get home with the takeaway and he has set the veranda table with plates and our special funky wine glasses. Sigh. I just don't get him.

                              Thanks so much siren. I read your MSG and came to my bed room and breathed deeply. I ate as much as I could and then filled my fancy glass with sparkling mineral water.

                              K. All good. Now I'm going to try to work on those assignments.

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                                #120
                                No fooling -- April 2013 AF

                                Good job, RA -- that must have been really tough to say no to. Good on you!
                                Free at Last
                                "What you seek is seeking you." -- Rumi

                                Highly recommend this video
                                http://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability.html

                                July 19, 2013 -- the beginning of being Free at Last

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