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    No fooling -- April 2013 AF

    Purloined passwords and mysterious messages

    NoSugar;1492295 wrote: Hi, Friedabee.

    I was just thinking about this but in sort of the opposite way --- I'm a little bummed that some things I thought were AL-related (e.g. forgetfulness) might just be ME :H:H:H !

    I must say, though, waking up with a headache that I figure is due to ALlergies not ALcohol is such a relief with no guilt attached. I don't even really mind those headaches .

    Who knows what the Hippyman/Evie situation is. At first it alarmed me because it is just the type of weird thing I was afraid about it terms of joining an online forum. I am glad that I have met several wonderful people who I KNOW are REAL -- this situation is the exception, not the rule. I hope this debacle doesn't frighten off any very new people who just maybe could find their way out if they stick with us.

    Have a great day! NS
    Forgetfulness seems to be a new phase of this wonderful life! At least now I'm not embarrassed to ask, "When did you say we'd get together?" I know it's not due to the AL, it's just a CRS moment (Can't Remember Shoot). That's what iPhone Notes and paper lists are for.

    Yes, feel the same about the H'man situation. If "his" password was purloined, can mine be, too? If so, disregard odd (well, odder than usual) messages from me! :H

    Lovely, misty day here in the southwest. We get so starved for a change of weather that a few clouds in the sky are special and welcomed. Great AF day, everyone!
    Friedabee is "free to be!"

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      No fooling -- April 2013 AF

      Am focusing on trying to gather happy thoughts at the moment, and working on deep breathing (technique courtesy of snap dragon). Currently having thoughts of," What does it even matter ", being AF is so hard and even though I am winning this battle so far, crappy things keep on happening , I know these down thoughts will pass, just hope time is on my side, glad I'm at least feeling this way early in the morning and not during happy hour.... :no:
      On a mission, and the only option is success. My family and I deserve a better life, an AF life.:h

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        No fooling -- April 2013 AF

        halo;1492910 wrote: Am focusing on trying to gather happy thoughts at the moment, and working on deep breathing (technique courtesy of snap dragon). Currently having thoughts of," What does it even matter ", being AF is so hard and even though I am winning this battle so far, crappy things keep on happening , I know these down thoughts will pass, just hope time is on my side, glad I'm at least feeling this way early in the morning and not during happy hour.... :no:
        Hi, Halo.

        I am so sorry you are struggling. I tell myself that while a drink (or several) would temporarily bring relief, the aftermath would be so much worse than whatever negative feeling I'm having at the moment. This is more logical than poetic but I find it helps me .

        Stick with us, Halo!

        :h NS

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          No fooling -- April 2013 AF

          Halo,

          Wishing the best! I have quit counting the days, but April is still AF for me. It is still hard, but I am trying to focus on how good I feel, my great liver panel results, the money I have saved, the ten pounds that I have lost. Should I keep going? Bad stuff has happened too, but I have to stay positive. I drink when I am sad. Have you tried Sam-e? I think it helped me with the depression.

          Best to all.

          hc

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            No fooling -- April 2013 AF

            Hi Halo and Halfway -- great for you for racking up those AF days. Halo, am sending you lots of positive wishes to push past this difficult period. I find fresh air and a walk around the block (during work breaks) enormously helpful. As your DH says, you are doing so well -- do keep it up. You won't regret NOT drinking.

            Am now back in my "temporary" home (a hotel) during my 10 day consulting gig. Have to avoid HALT triggers: Hungry (not an issue, as I am eating like a horse), Lonely or Tired (too big triggers for me). Angry is not usually an issue for me, though I have my moments.

            Keep it up April Abstainers -- we all are making great progress.
            Free at Last
            "What you seek is seeking you." -- Rumi

            Highly recommend this video
            http://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability.html

            July 19, 2013 -- the beginning of being Free at Last

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              No fooling -- April 2013 AF

              Hi All. I hope everyone is having a good AF day. Day 16... halfway over the April hump. I think of you all every day and wish you love and strength during this difficult time... and it is difficult!!! We've all been there. We've all been knocked down by our triggers. Just remember to love your self in these instances and try to remember that "tomorrow is another day" (a la Scarlett O' Hara).

              Frustrated right now. I'm sorry to complain. Had a massive craving this evening but tried to squash it with almond butter (NS - I found some in Germany! Thank you!). This really did the trick for a while but the frustration stays. I think it's a mix of PMS (sorry boys, but it's a real thing) and depression. Now that I'm sober I'm starting to realize how afraid I am of failure. Maybe I was covering that up with the AL? Not sure.

              Sorry to run to quickly but I have a ton more work to do tonight. I really hope you all hand in there, love yourselves and take care! Love and strength to you all!
              Would you like you, if you met you?

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                No fooling -- April 2013 AF

                Dear MS,
                If the cravings continue, please do get back on and post. I just spent more time on MWO than I had intended but realized I really needed to be among a group of people working toward the same goal. I felt as though I needed shoring up for tomorrow, as it will be a day filled with a lot of temptations.
                Now, I must get some endorphines (sp?) kicking in through exercise rather than wine or chocolate!
                Free at Last
                "What you seek is seeking you." -- Rumi

                Highly recommend this video
                http://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability.html

                July 19, 2013 -- the beginning of being Free at Last

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                  No fooling -- April 2013 AF

                  between the hippy fiasco and scand who wants to drink after 14 weeks AF, I need a thread that doesn't mention either one.
                  Can I join?
                  For those struggling, take action - go for a walk, do 50 jumping jacks and 50 sit ups, post on here....whatever it takes to get you mind off the crave....
                  I just won't anymore

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                    No fooling -- April 2013 AF

                    Hi Jenni,
                    Great to see you here. Your sharing your experience at 70+ days is valuable for us who are in early stages of AF days -- it helps us to stay alert, focused, and on guard for any thoughts that can deter us from our path to sobriety. Appreciate your sharing with us how your AF April is coming along.
                    Free at Last
                    "What you seek is seeking you." -- Rumi

                    Highly recommend this video
                    http://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability.html

                    July 19, 2013 -- the beginning of being Free at Last

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                      No fooling -- April 2013 AF

                      jenniech;1493105 wrote: between the hippy fiasco and scand who wants to drink after 14 weeks AF, I need a thread that doesn't mention either one.
                      Can I join?
                      Here Here Jenni! And welcome:welcome:

                      Hope everyone is doing well and has had a good AF day DH (that's Darling Husband right?? Still getting used to all of these acronyms!) has gone to bed and my quiet, alone time is slowly but surely evaporating along with the heavy metal music blaring out from a car on the street!
                      And I don't see this as an excuse to drink!! Wow, just over a month ago this would have been a SOLID reason to break my quit...how things change. Hang in there everyone...the light at the end of the tunnel does get brighter! :yay:
                      'The surest way not to fail is to determine to succeed'
                      Richard Brinsley Sheridan

                      1st goal: 7 days
                      2nd goal: 30 days
                      3rd goal: 3 months

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                        No fooling -- April 2013 AF

                        free at last;1493092 wrote: Dear MS,
                        I felt as though I needed shoring up for tomorrow, as it will be a day filled with a lot of temptations.
                        Now, I must get some endorphines (sp?) kicking in through exercise rather than wine or chocolate!
                        Sending some cyber support your way Free! Try not to think about all of the possible temptations- just deal with them one at a time when/if the arise. You're doing great so far
                        'The surest way not to fail is to determine to succeed'
                        Richard Brinsley Sheridan

                        1st goal: 7 days
                        2nd goal: 30 days
                        3rd goal: 3 months

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                          No fooling -- April 2013 AF

                          Hi, PrettyTulip

                          Did you ever get ahold of some L-glutamine? It doesn't work for everyone but for many is a great tool for getting off alcohol and/or sugar. If there are health food stores where you are, that might be your best bet.

                          Take care, NS

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                            No fooling -- April 2013 AF

                            free at last;1493163 wrote: Hi Jenni,
                            Great to see you here. Your sharing your experience at 70+ days is valuable for us who are in early stages of AF days -- it helps us to stay alert, focused, and on guard for any thoughts that can deter us from our path to sobriety. Appreciate your sharing with us how your AF April is coming along.
                            Hi, Free! How late do you stay up? Or is it already your morning???

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                              No fooling -- April 2013 AF

                              thank you for the warm welcome!!!
                              I have had SO MANY excuses to drink this past week. I have been irritable, lonely, frustrated, bored, excited, sad, happy......you name it. Every reason was a reason if you know what I mean. BUT, I think it through.....OK, so maybe a glass of something would be nice but that would just lead to another and another and then I wouldn't remember the next and the next after that and then I would pass out and wake up in the morning feeling like CRAP.
                              SO STUPID. (and of course, I would get fatter with each drink consumed...and bloated)
                              So, I am not quite white knuckling through these cravings, but I am just thinking about what would happen if I did cave. And, I put it in perspective. I would rather feel uncomfortable during a crave, knowing it will go away, than feel uncomfortable (hungover) in the morning with no way of getting out of that feeling...I would simply have to endure it and not enjoy life. At least during a crave, I can change my thoughts, or move a muscle, or come onto MWO and POOF it goes away. Now THAT is empowering!!!
                              I just won't anymore

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                                No fooling -- April 2013 AF

                                jenniech;1493174 wrote: thank you for the warm welcome!!!
                                I have had SO MANY excuses to drink this past week. I have been irritable, lonely, frustrated, bored, excited, sad, happy......you name it. Every reason was a reason if you know what I mean. BUT, I think it through.....OK, so maybe a glass of something would be nice but that would just lead to another and another and then I wouldn't remember the next and the next after that and then I would pass out and wake up in the morning feeling like CRAP.

                                I agree with you JENNIE - Thinking through to what will be the eventual outcome helps making the decision not to take even the first sip easier. Why oh why couldn't I make that work before I came here?? (It's not like I didn't KNOW what was going to happen!) Oh well, it sure makes me glad I found MWO and all the great people here. :h

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