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    #106
    Who's Working It? -- AF May starts today

    Up at 4:50 am to go to the gym, even if you didn't get there, you are still up!.....just another activity that would never happen if one was still drinking and had a massive hangover. Thanks for the reminder on why an AF life rocks!
    On a mission, and the only option is success. My family and I deserve a better life, an AF life.:h

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      #107
      Who's Working It? -- AF May starts today

      Hello everyone hope you?re all doing OK.

      Jenni - just getting out of bed at 4.50 am sounds like a mammoth achievement to me!! Since I've been AF, I can hardly drag myself out of bed at 8 am!! I've been trying to go to the gym with my daughter a couple of times a week when she gets home from college - ache like billyo!! :H

      Anyway, I decided to experiment with AF wine yesterday and thought I would share my experience. My councillor had recommended it (although I said I didn?t think that route is right for me ? I want to learn to live without wine, not trick myself into replacements!).

      I brought a bottle of Fre (which is a Californian Red with AL removed) and was pleasantly surprised that it did actually taste like red wine and wasn?t too bad at all. However, it was an eye-opener for me because I always kidded myself that I drink wine because I love the taste and not because of the effect of AL ? and now I know this isn?t true.

      I drank one large glass and it felt like I was drinking wine and drank it quickly. I poured a second glass, but didn?t really want to drink it. I wasn?t thirsty and I wasn?t getting the usual AL buzz so I just sipped it slowly over an hour or so and didn?t want any more after that. The rest of the bottle is sitting in the fridge and it isn?t calling to me and making me want to drink it. I wonder if this is how a ?normal? drinker feels?

      So I now know for a fact that I never truly drank wine in copious amounts because I loved the taste ? it was just for that addictive, destructive buzz. So from now on I?ll just stick to my ginger beer!
      Never put off to tomorrow what you can achieve today!

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        #108
        Who's Working It? -- AF May starts today

        The good news: I found my keys!!! I retraced my steps from the night before and found them.....If I had tried retracing hungover after losing them while drunk the night before it never would have happened and I would have been in a complete panic. I would have turned my house upside down trying to find them because while drinking, there is no WAY I could retrace my steps!! And I would have been late to work....but that did not happen because I could REMEMBER what I did the night before!!

        Bad news? So very very tired.......Now if that is my worst complaint right now when I used to be white knuckling the witching hour, I'd say that is pretty good bad news!!!!!

        :H
        I just won't anymore

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          #109
          Who's Working It? -- AF May starts today

          Hi all, just a quick check in to say all is well with me. I have been working LONG days 6am to 11pm with very limited email access. Will be on holiday for two weeks, in remote areas so again, limited email access. Will check in when I can. Stay strong!
          Free at Last
          "What you seek is seeking you." -- Rumi

          Highly recommend this video
          http://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability.html

          July 19, 2013 -- the beginning of being Free at Last

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            #110
            Who's Working It? -- AF May starts today

            free at last;1503713 wrote: Hi all, just a quick check in to say all is well with me. I have been working LONG days 6am to 11pm with very limited email access. Will be on holiday for two weeks, in remote areas so again, limited email access. Will check in when I can. Stay strong!
            Glad to hear that you are fine, Free! Enjoy your vacation!

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              #111
              Who's Working It? -- AF May starts today

              Keep up the good fight free, does anyone you know travel as much as you do!? Hope you get some down time for you! Jenniech happy that you found your keys, the amount of times I lost things because of being drunk are too nurmeous to count, just another reason for an AF life! Sending good thoughts everbody's way! Have an awesome weekend
              On a mission, and the only option is success. My family and I deserve a better life, an AF life.:h

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                #112
                Who's Working It? -- AF May starts today

                So Day 12 starts for me now, and it's still really cruisy. Although I've had many occasions when a drink would have come in 'handy' (especially over the last four days!) I have not had any heavy-duty cravings or warped (toxic) thoughts to challenge me.

                Yet in a way, it's the ease with which this has all happened that is giving me the impetus to keep going. On one hand my 'rational' mind is calculating that, sure, I can have a drink then jump back on the wagon again tomorrow. No great dramas, right??

                WRONG. Y'see, my naysayer-self is just incredibly bloody grateful that, for whatever reason, this part of my journey has been easy, but there are NO GUARANTEES it would pan this way ever again. One drink, and I could be back on my arse again with any future attempt to become AF just wrought with serious issues. I don't trust myself and I sure as hell don't trust alcohol.

                So if it's ok with you Mr Cab Shiraz, me and my mind and body will just keep trucking on as we are, thanks ever so much for your offers anyway. Go use your wiles and magnetic charm on someone else, I've seen the dark side of your personality and it's really ugly. It's over between us mate. Don't come grovelling at my doorstep, and if I see you on the street, I'll just ignore you, got it????? :H

                Oh, and HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY for all the mums in Australia today. :h :h :h

                kambob
                Remember: A craving will never last as long as a hangover, and you'll never wake up wishing you'd drank the night before. (Thank you K9Lover)

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                  #113
                  Who's Working It? -- AF May starts today

                  Hello Kambob, I am just out of Melb. Good to see you are beating the beast. Sav Blanc used to be my best friend and then he turned on me relentlessly. No more, he can get F.................D! No more will he take away from me the happiness I should have had over many years of drinking! Alcohol is soooo glamourtised. Its everywhere. I saw a billboard yesterday with a young couple celebrating with bubbles. Then I thought, thats where it all started with me!!! Keep up the good fight Kam

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                    #114
                    Who's Working It? -- AF May starts today

                    I LOVE your post Kambob!! Just what I wanted to read!!!
                    :thanks:
                    I just won't anymore

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                      #115
                      Who's Working It? -- AF May starts today

                      I need to make an apology: I didn't realise it was also Mother's Day in the US as well as other parts of the world. So I'd like to amend my previous post to wish ALL MUMS a a terrific Sunday, no matter where you live!

                      Been thinking (with a relatively clear head for once) about the language we use around AL. The popular perception is that we, as alcoholics, abuse alcohol. What? We abuse alcohol??

                      Let's clear this up once and for all. Alcohol is not a 'victim' of our abuse: it abuses us                      , with as much pain (emotional and physical) as a dysfunctional partner erupting in violent outbursts. Actually, it may be worse, because at least you are not blamed* if your partner is a psycho....but we hold all the blame for being regularly beaten and shamed by our beloved AL.

                      Yet AL (like most drugs) doesn't go all out schizo on everyone. It's selective about who it picks to fall victim to its power. The first time, it's like meeting a really cool person at a party who makes us feel fantastic about ourselves. EVERYBODY loves this 'person', he relaxes us, encourages us to be witty, allows us to feel like we are the most amazing person in the room! What's not to love?? :H

                      But where most people can leave the party at the end of the night and have a laugh about the brazen Mr AL Fantastic, we begin to obsess about him.....eventually inviting him back to our home to continue the relationship. And that's where his true nature emerges...we all know the story, suffice to say that he sets about to destroy our lives and the lives of those we love and care for. Sometimes the abuse is so bad the victims die at his hand. No more Mr Nice Guy...he's an all-round bastard actually.

                      Yet when we try to confide in those who still think that AL is just the cool guy at the party, they look at us funny! That's not the AL that they know, there must be something wrong with us! Yeah, there is                       something wrong with us, but y'know, we didn't choose                       to be alcoholics. Our first drinks were probably the same as those of the rest of the human race...but at some point, AL sucked us in to his powerful grasp, and we became prisoners to that power.

                      Now this isn't to say we don't have choices: if we didn't ultimately choose to kick him out of our lives, we wouldn't be here would we? But in those earlier days, we didn't have a choice at all, that is the illness that is alcoholism. And nobody knows who is vulnerable and who is not....AL isn't all that fussy about his life partners.

                      It's Day 13 of my escape. May all of us continue to run like mad until we don't need to continually look over our shoulder. :thanks:

                      kambob

                      *I understand that many victims of partner violence ARE blamed for their role in the violence.

                      Apologies for the use of 'he' to describe AL..insert whichever gender term suits your situation!
                      Remember: A craving will never last as long as a hangover, and you'll never wake up wishing you'd drank the night before. (Thank you K9Lover)

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                        #116
                        Who's Working It? -- AF May starts today

                        Fantastic post, Kambob! Thanks!

                        It makes me wonder how this all came about - essentially throughout the world.

                        Most populations that don't actively promote alcohol (and then blame AL's victim, as you pointed out), ban it ( e.g. Muslims). So clearly, many people are aware of its horrible power yet perversely encourage intake.

                        I feel great about jumping this ship. I wish the whole thing would sink and quit screwing up lives!


                        :h NS

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                          #117
                          Who's Working It? -- AF May starts today

                          a lover gone bad...
                          I just won't anymore

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                            #118
                            Who's Working It? -- AF May starts today

                            a lover gone psychotic! Some really affirming posts in this thread, am more determined that ever to get through May AF. Have a great day :l
                            On a mission, and the only option is success. My family and I deserve a better life, an AF life.:h

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                              #119
                              Who's Working It? -- AF May starts today

                              Yep, i call him Ethan. And his gender is because i'm a hetero female, so he's a nasty boyfriend! Very charismatic but makes me feel like crap!
                              Good wishes to all at MWO,
                              Brandi
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                                #120
                                Who's Working It? -- AF May starts today

                                Hi Kambo,

                                Just read your posts and loved them! I stayed With that wretched party guy way to long....

                                uch:

                                Here is a link to a wonderful post by the most marvelous Mario. It was one of the first posts I read here at MWO and still blows me away.

                                Your great post reminded me of this...

                                https://www.mywayout.org/community/f4...ase-35535.html

                                :l
                                On My Own Way Out Since May 20, 2012
                                *If you think poorly of yourself, you can fail with a clear conscience.
                                https://www.mywayout.org/community/f11/tool-box-27556.html tool box
                                https://www.mywayout.org/community/f19/newbies-nest-30074.html newbie nest

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