Binge drinker needs help

[Popeye]

Binge drinker needs help

Hello phelen and ylfa.
It's good to have you with us.

[betty boop]

Binge drinker needs help

Hi Eve & Phelen, :welcome:

You both have found a fabulous place, read and post, there is so much good advice on here from people who have actually been there, we are not just 'do gooders' who tell you what you should do ......

Once again welcome and I look forward to seeing more of you both ....

[lorisunshine]

Binge drinker needs help

Hello Eve, Phelen and ylfa,
welcome to MWO. Keep reading and posting and coming back here as often as you can. It is a wonderfully supportive global family. As for me, I have tried the moderation route and failed miserably. Everybody is different and I personally need to be Alcohol free, because I don't know when to quit.
I am looking forward to read a lot more from you.
Welcome again.
Lori

[phelen]

Binge drinker needs help

Thanks to all

Many thanks to all who responded to my original post. Just so I have a starting point, I have had no drinks since last Saturday (3 days ago). This has been easy since I have had a terrible cold the whole time! I know it will be more difficult once the cold lifts and weekend comes.

I have ordered the Topamax and plan to start it once it comes, about 10 days away. I am only about 5'2" and 116 lbs...am hoping to stabilize at a lower dose...the 200-300 mgs seems like alot to me- any advice from the short gals out there?

I find the hardest thing being sober is the fantastic amount of regret and remorse I have for the moments I did not maintain well, or conversations I had and wonder if the person knew I was toasted...I am so embarrassed for myself. Cannot even confide some of this to my husband, I am so ashamed. Hindsight is 20-20 I know, but just wish I had taken my problem more seriously sooner...

Take care all, and sleep well!
Phelen

[lorisunshine]

Binge drinker needs help

Phelen, dearest, you have to forgive yourself before you can move on. Yesterday is water under the bridge, tomorrow has not come yet, you can only deal with today and now. Be nice to yourself first.
Hugs Lori

[cassy]

Binge drinker needs help

Hi Phelen

Many of us have a drinking recorsd of donkeys years!! Be kind yo yourself and dont beat yourself up....Boy if we all got out the past and examined it we wouldnt leave the house again.
Just get going on your AF plan and ...Day 3 is FANTASTIC. Your confidence and self esteem will grow at you remain sober for longer and longer...dont worry what the longterm plan is for now..you have just enough light to take the next step..which is today. So maybe it will help to post again tomorrow//Day 4??
But even if you slip..come back here for support.
Slipping doesnt put you back to square one..its like falling off the bike...you jump back on at the point you fell off ..not back to the start point!!

GOOD LUCK..KEEEP POSTING..WALK HAPPILY THROUGH TODAY KNOWING YOU HAVE DECIDED TO PUT THE CRAP BEHIND YOU..........WHO WANTS GUILT FOREVER...DUMP IT AND FORGIVE YOURSELF!!


Regards Cassy

[emerald_07]

Binge drinker needs help

Eve, I wish you goodluck.

[Eve11]

Binge drinker needs help

Phelen...I relate!

Phelen,
I can totally relate to what you've said. I was at a cousin's wedding a few years back and my uncle told my spouse that I should listen to a tape recorder of myself when I've been drinking. How embarrassing is that.
I've had too many times of waking up and forgetting what I said, sometimes even what I did. One time I woke up and I had been sleeping on the dining room floor. What was that about? Couldn't even make it to the bed!
My kids are getting to the age where they are aware now of things going on and being a role model as a drunk (slurring speech, stumbling, etc.) is something I don't want to be.
Thanks to everyone for their posts and encouragement. So far I've been meeting my goal of moderation. No alcohol on week-nights and only 1 (2 at the most) on the week-end.