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[babygirl_scott]

So I truly hate drinking....not really, but yea I do!

I quit smoking 4 years ago using quitnet.com and chantix for a month, but drinking just seems to be harder and I don't know why....

My counselor who helped me through my abusive relationship and therefore divroce is the one who RUNS the substance abuse program and the office I go to. She doesn't know I have fallen back into the old ways. I'd like to blame stress, I'd like to blame anything really, but it's so not true. It's me. It's in my genes, my aunt died at 42 due to drinking! I don't want to be that...

I am starting today, pledgling to not drink for today (and it's a friday). I don't know if there's daily pledges here, if so please direct me to them. The daily pledging seemed to help with the smoking as far as holding myself accountable to others, virtual or not.

So please wish me luck on this new journey. :new:

[whitemarshmom]

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Good Luck Baby Girl Scott.. Welcome! i am just starting out again myself, Today is day 3 for me..I have found so much support here. It makes it a whole lot more bearable when you can talk to other people who are going thru exactly what you are going thru.

[mama bear]

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just talk to us...the Newbies Nest is a great palce to start
we have all been where you are
I blamed stress, a friend's suicide, being broke, job, you name it
Ultimately, I had to admit it was me...plain and simple
We are here for you sweetie
I post regularly in the One Step at a Time thread....you are welcome to join our little family there
where ever you post....JUST DO IT!!
hugs
mama

[Kradle123]

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mama bear;1506963 wrote: just talk to us...the Newbies Nest is a great palce to start
we have all been where you are
I blamed stress, a friend's suicide, being broke, job, you name it
Ultimately, I had to admit it was me...plain and simple
We are here for you sweetie
I post regularly in the One Step at a Time thread....you are welcome to join our little family there
where ever you post....JUST DO IT!!
hugs
mama

Ditto over here too, Babygirl :l

The link to the nest and tool box is in my signature as well...

Stay close. Lots of help here :h

[lvn122900]

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Welcome Babygirl!
We alcoholics tend to find all the excuses to drink (stress, a bad marriage, not leading the life we wanted, etc etc) but as you so nicely put it, there are none. It's our decision to drink. Many people go through hardships and don't have our problem.
Having said all this, it's pretty courageous of you to start on a Friday! ;-)
I myself registered a few days ago and I have a very good feeling about this website, I am even talking about it even in my European country!
Wish you the best of luck, have a good weekend. And remember we are "here" for eachother, especially when nobody else is.
S.

[briseus]

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Hey Babygirl,

I agree with everyone else as well. I find any excuse in the book to drink. I've been through them all in the past! I then wake up the next morning and tell myself "no more drinking tonight" and I am determined for most of the day, that is until 5pm rolls around and everything goes out the window.
Just stick close to here. That's what I have to do. I just need to get over that one day; the first day! And I am so much more determined and optimistic. But it's that first day that kicks my ass.
Keep posting and good luck!

Bri.

[bimble01]

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hi,
totally relate to your story,i lapsed with smoking after 3 years!!which im gutted about!!so well done!! i to drank a lot every day!im on day 2 and believe me i never ever thought id be able to go 1 nte xx

[YouKayBee]

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People used to ask me "Why do you drink", as if there has to be some underlying trauma/stress or whatever. It's an addictive substance, which alcoholics get used to relying on and there's always a reason to drink, even if you have to make one up.

One day at a time is a very useful technique which can be applied to all sorts of things in life.