7 MONTHS OF SOBRIETY BLOWN

[Mein Sonnenschein]

7 MONTHS OF SOBRIETY BLOWN

Wow, day 11! That is awesome! I have never made it that far. I'm super proud of you! You must be feeling fabulous! Congratulations! :l

[Unwasted]

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Shout out to my to "freebies" FAL - I've read that about meditation and Alzheimers -- also true that people who meditate have more willpower - now that sure can't hurt, can it?!

FF, yoga on a riverbank - can't get much more serene than that, can it?

MS - yes. thanks, I am feeling great - I read a quote by Mary Karr today that I really liked - hope it inspires you guys too:

When I got sober, I thought giving up was saying goodbye to all the fun and all the sparkle, and it turned out to be just the opposite. That?s when the sparkle started for me.

Have a super day everyone...........

xx,
UN :lilheart:

[K9Lover]

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Hi UN!

Just wanted you to know (again) that I'm SO happy you're back! :h

Congrats on day 11...you are coming back strong and I'm proud of you!

Love,
K9

[free at last]

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You sound great Unwasted! Keep going girl, we're with you on this journey.

[Unwasted]

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Thank you K9 - Your support around these parts means A LOT!!!

FAL - we're together on this journey - let's do it! Almost the same amount of days I think.

I ate dinner out last night and wasn't tempted at all - a HUGE milestone for me!! That used to be my biggest trigger - nary a thought of ordering any alcohol - YAY!!!!!!!

This go round I don't feel deprived - I am cautiously VERY optimistic!!! I don't ever want to be smug or complacent though because I know AL is a tricky bastard. The lush part of my brain is being overtaken by my thinking, rational pre-frontal cortex!

xx,
UN:l:l:l

[allswell]

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Super awesome UN!

I'm progressing back to where I was last year where AL had no place in my life. I've eliminated from my circle all drinking acquaintances. I have a detailed plan that I know I can implement and since I've been through the quitting, drinking, quitting again cycle for the past 3 years I've learned a thing or two on who I am and how I can make this decision a permanent one. So yes, I think I'm kicking AL's ass yet we know the complacency issue - one day at a time.

I guess my lush brain has been replaced with a rational, sober, forward thinking mind too! We can do this UN!

[Marhall]

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Hi Guys, I hope you do'nt mind me jumping in.
My story so far is about 10 months ago I realised I was a drunk. Tried to stop, then start then stop. I eventually was/am able to narrow it down to a drink on weekends, and have not 'written myself off' in sometime. The thing is over the past few months, I am feeling so much anxiety after having that drink on the weekends. Guilt, Anxiety, feeling that something bad is going to happen. So why oh why do I continue to drink. It is like I have a mindslip and I buy that bottle of wine, drink it and next day, I realise why I awore off it all the previous week. I Know I have to give it away altogether, so here I am, putting it in writing. I have an event tomorrow night and I am terrifed. I wo'nt drink, but already I am anxious about what would have happened if I did drink ( does that make sense), and feel ashamed for something I have not yet done. Too many bad memories. I hope I can get through this very soon, It is eating me up.

[Unwasted]

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Alls, you are sounding so wise and strong my friend. Our stories parallel and our timing is almost identical. Well, at least we're finally getting it, eh? Tell me about some more about your plan if you revisit this thread. I think staying away from other drinkers for a good long while is key. Before, my husband was drinking around me. He has stopped, and that's making all the difference in the world. I think eventually it won't be an issue, but I'm steering clear of temptation just to be ultra safe. This is a big change we're making and I think it takes some pretty dramatic changes to pull it off. Sounds like your on the right road, and I'm honored to be right there at your side!:l

Marhall, so glad you joined us. I try to post daily but if there isn't enough activity here and you need additional support, check out the Newbies Nest under Just Starting Out.

It's so interesting that you are talking about anxiety in your post. I had intended to post about the very subject today. I went from totally anxiety ridden to totally anxiety free in just two weeks of not drinking. It's such a dramatic change, that it almost defies logic. I don't remember the effect being this profound before, but I'm so thankful because I felt like I was on the brink of totally losing it. I am now calm and peaceful. Really, I promise, it's a staggering change. I hope the same happens for you. The connection between anxiety and alcohol is strong and commonly known among addiction specialists. Please hang in there because your life can be so much better. If you can just white knuckle it and start putting together chunks of sober time, you can make it.

Visit the Toolbox and Nest. The toolbox has some good information about nutrition, hydration, riding out cravings, etc. I can't post the links from my ipad but I'll post them tomorrow from my other computer.

Drink tons of water, eat lots of healthy foods, rest, read books, post and read here voraciously. We are here for you.

xx,
UN. :lilheart:

[nicelife]

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[FreeFly]

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:hiya: Marhall, good to see you back again. Great advice from Unwasted. Just keep posting hun and stick around. Absolutely true that the anxiety completely subsides after a little time AF. Early days for me too in another quit - we can do this :l

Have to agree with you Un about staying away from other drinkers early on. I don't have any around me and it makes it soo much easier. I have however, arranged to see a friend next weekend and usually stay. Haven't seen her for over a year because of the drinking thing but arranged it when I was indulging again. Now I'm worried. But, will see it as a challenge and not let one night ruin this quit.

Hi to everyone else stopping by

[K9Lover]

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Marhall;1513066 wrote: I wo'nt drink, but already I am anxious about what would have happened if I did drink ( does that make sense), and feel ashamed for something I have not yet done.

I can totally relate!!! I was at the point where I dreaded my actions that I hadn't even done yet...I just KNEW what I would do when I drank. No matter how hard I tried I could not change my drunk behavior, I'd try to hide my phone and keys and laptop so I wouldn't do anything dumb...but I'd always find them...and carry on with my stupidity...it really IS insanity.

We're glad to have you back Marhall...stick close to us!

K9

[Unwasted]

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Nicey, :l backatcha!!

Marhal & K9 - can absolutely relate. I too had gotten to where I really worried about what I might do on a night I was going out.........I had become a bit of a loose cannon and always seemed to say something or do something I knew I wouldn't have done if sober. The good news is that we know this about our lush selves now and it's another nail in the alcohol coffin!

Hey Freefly - good to see you in these parts. You're sounding good, sweetie - glad to be on this journey with you.

Oh, and Marhal, here are the links I wanted to post for you:

https://www.mywayout.org/community/f1...est-30074.html

https://www.mywayout.org/community/f1...box-27556.html

https://www.mywayout.org/community/f9...hen-23467.html

Stay strong everyone.............you'll never wake up wishing you had drunk alcohol the night before as they say!!

[Marhall]

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Thanks guys for the support. UN I have your last time there. Well tonight is the night I go out. I think once I get through this one, I will feel a little stronger. FF you sound real good and positive, and K9 you make me know it can be done. I will be sticking close this time.

[Unwasted]

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You can do it Marhall. I have a challenging upcoming event that I just found out about today, so I know how you're feeling. Stay strong my friend. Always have a glass full of whatever AF thing you're drinking........that way people won't try to fill it up or give you something else.:l

By the way, sorry I don't know what this means:

UN I have your last time there.

Let us know how things went.

xx,
UN:l

[allswell]

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Hello everyone!

Marshall I know it get's tough in social situations but we all have to get through it or nothing changes. If things get tough take a deep breath, get a glass of water, and hang in there. If it get's really tough say your goodbyes and get the hell out of there, OK. I don't go to social situations where there's alcohol anymore but if it's a must showing up late and leaving early is key. We're all in the same boat and we can all do this!