7 MONTHS OF SOBRIETY BLOWN

[Marhall]

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Lol sorry UN. It was to say I love you last line there
Which was:
Stay strong everyone.............you'll never wake up wishing you had drunk alcohol the night before as they say!!

[FreeFly]

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allswell;1513487 wrote: Marshall I know it get's tough in social situations but we all have to get through it or nothing changes. If things get tough take a deep breath, get a glass of water, and hang in there. If it get's really tough say your goodbyes and get the hell out of there, OK. I don't go to social situations where there's alcohol anymore but if it's a must showing up late and leaving early is key. We're all in the same boat and we can all do this!

Very good point Alls and I shall read this lots before I go to my friend's next Friday. Thank you!

Hi Un - well last night was the hardest for me for some reason. End of a great week and wanted my reward! Spent a good half hour indulging in thoughts of how I would reward myself after 30 days Anyway, the reward, after a thoroughly enjoyable and productive working week, arrived this morning in the form of a 6.30 am natural wake-up clear headed with the sun shining (and that doesn't happen very often around these parts - the sun that is ).

So Marhall, how are you feeling this morning my friend? How did you get on last night?

Have a great Saturday everyone wherever you are :l:l

[free at last]

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Just a note to say that you guys are so encouraging. While I don't post often, I find your words so very helpful. Thanks!

[Unwasted]

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Alls, very good advice in your post - I'll remember the leaving early and having an out part. I too am trying to avoid drinking situations - not easy because it leads to being quite a hermit. I'm working on that!

Marhall, I like that saying too - it floats around the site A LOT - not sure who originated it. Maybe K9. Let us know how it went last night.

FF - last night was hard for me too. I didn't consider drinking but I was just down - blah. Feeling a little better today. I'm trying to just accept the ups and downs of life without thinking I have to obliterate them.

FAL - just post when you can. I know sometimes I just feel like reading and not posting too. I like coming here because it's easy to keep up with you guys. The Nest is a good spot, but there are so many posters I can never get to them individually.

I'm doing something REALLY different for me on the 11th of this month. I'm actually going to a shrink about anxiety. I don't have it all the time, but when I travel it skyrockets. We're planning some trips, so I need to see what my options are. Will let you guys know what I find out. I intend to also discuss alcohol with this person. I'm bound to learn something helpful, eh? I'm just playing it by ear and will decide how "into it" I want to get once I get there. I'll have to click with him and feel like opening up - so we'll see.

Hope you guys don't struggle too much this weekend. Let's just always fast forward to the REAL consequences of drinking so we're not tempted!!

xx,
UN:l

[Juja]

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Leaving early works for me, Unwasted. Staying in the background, and observing works, too. If I get into a good conversation, with lots of laughter, I tend to think "what the heck." I try to keep myself socially reined in.

I'm becoming a hermit, too. I don't want to go out to dinner because that's an especially hard one. DH has a hard time with that, as he likes to go out, so I've taking to cooking more. Ugh. When did I learn that AL and food were inseparable in a restaurant?

Stay strong, everyone.

[allswell]

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Hi everyone,

Hey UN, I think it's great you're going to go out of the comfort zone and get some input from an independent, unbiased adviser. I hope it clicks and you can open up the communication channels at a level you're comfortable with and results in a meaningful exchange. Nothing but good can come from it!

Hey Freefly, all of those pointers were given to me from others on this wonderful site and have been proven true time and again from my experience. There's a wealth of information I've been given here. This place is a Godsend to me.

Have a great rest of weekend everyone.

[Marhall]

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Hi all, all went fantastically. Got to the bar let everyone order in front if me, and got my water. Had a great time. But was floored at how much everyone was putting away. It just was never something I consciously tracked. Felt even better this morning and a little like I have won a little victory to myself, I just had no trust in me. I just need this feeling to stick. No going back.
Have a great day everyone, and thanks for being there. Knowing I wanted to post positively was much encouragement.

[allswell]

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Fantastic stuff Marshall!

[kuya]

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Well done Marshall

'Drunk watching' is VERY entertaining, as well as educational. THAT was US a little while back.......scary huh? :H:H

[FreeFly]

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Marhall;1514037 wrote: Hi all, all went fantastically. Got to the bar let everyone order in front if me, and got my water. Had a great time. But was floored at how much everyone was putting away. It just was never something I consciously tracked. Felt even better this morning and a little like I have won a little victory to myself, I just had no trust in me. I just need this feeling to stick. No going back.
Have a great day everyone, and thanks for being there. Knowing I wanted to post positively was much encouragement.

:yay: Marhall - really happy for you. Now to water that little seed of trust in yourself. Treasure it, nurture it and watch it grow :l:l

[Marhall]

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Thanks guys, yes Kuya it was an eye opener, not even the actions more the inability to say no to another round or replace it with water. I would never have entertained water when on a session.

FF thanks for your support through all this. I hate being a hermit, this was a little victory, i think more for my anxiety, just need to keep it rolling. Just need to remember I am the boss not AL.

[Unwasted]

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Some Super Positive Things Going On Here!

Juja, glad you popped in on this thread! I SO hear you about how hard it is to break the strong association of eating a nice dinner out and alcohol. You know, though.....it wasn't that long ago that I couldn't even imagine not having wine with dinner (in or out). NOW I drink hot Tulsi Chai Tea every night with dinner and it feels natural, just like the glass of wine used to feel. A huge milestone for me! I cook a lot more now too. Sometimes I can really get into it. But, when I start to burn out I just back off and eat a meal or two out. If we eat out, we do it early, like 5 pm (very geriatric of us I know, but hey, whatever works, right?)

Alls, thanks for the words of encouragement about counseling. You know, I'm really looking forward to it, actually. I have never done it, but think it will be great to get perspective from a professional. I trust my own thinking a lot, though, because I do so much reading and research. I've learned that doctors are very fallible, so I don't buy into everything that is standard wisdom. At least that's my attitude about general practitioners. I have several stories that I could share about some of the health care opinions I've had that weren't good! I do think, though, that if one is lucky enough to get a good counselor, it can be invaluable. Really hoping I get lucky! He's booked 2 weeks out, so at least he's busy - guess that's a good sign.

Hey Kuya - nice to see you here! You know, I've been meaning to tell you that I get so much out of your posts! I just saw yesterday that you have 9 months AF! HUGE congrats to you. That's wonderful.

FF! You are sounding stronger every day my friend! You know, we're just 4 days apart on our sobriety date, so I'm counting on you to hang with me!!

Marshall, BUDDY:l. I am so proud of you!! I consider what you did last night a MAJOR show of strength and character. I think you are going to be our inspiration!! IF MARHALL CAN DO THIS,SO CAN WE!! I am so impressed......I just want to come through this computer and give you a big hug. WAY TA GO!!

Have a super AF day everyone! I'm so happy for all of us ---- just feeling some really positive vibes and energy. Let's keep it going.

Oh, FAL, if you stop by - just wanted to say that I hope you're recovering from your jet lag! You just arrived in Japan, I believe? Anyway, best to you:l

[FreeFly]

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:hallo: Alls, Juja & KY missed your previous posts :l

Keep it up Marhall, yes you are the boss! :l

Un, I'm with you :l

Well I'm knackered - been cooking ALL day (Sunday job). Off for a soak.

[1josie]

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Hi I'm just joining after a relapse that lasted several months after 22 years of sobriety . So I am hoping getting back to meetings , a sponsor, and reworking the program and being accountable here every day
At my usual draining time will help. Love reding all Your posts.! what a great group.
I hope to reload my toolbox too

[NoSugar]

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1josie;1514362 wrote: Hi I'm just joining after a relapse that lasted several months after 22 years of sobriety . So I am hoping getting back to meetings , a sponsor, and reworking the program and being accountable here every day
At my usual draining time will help. Love reding all Your posts.! what a great group.
I hope to reload my toolbox too

Hi, 1josie

I hope (and believe) we can help you but I think you can help us -- I will be very interested in learning about as much of your experience as you are willing to share and in hearing any advice you have to offer about the 22 years AF as well as your relapse. I'm so glad you are ready to turn things around again.

:welcome:!

:h NS