I am finally ready but I need help.

[Guitarista]

I am finally ready but I need help.

Hi Moss,

A warm welcome to you.

Thanks for sharing some of your story here. Though our paths have been, and are different, we all have much in common.

Best wishes on your journey friend.

Get yourself a plan you can handle and go for it!

G bloke.

[Kradle123]

I am finally ready but I need help.

Good morning MossRose. First a big :colorwelcome:

Your post was very moving and I saw so much of my own journey in there. You are definitely not alone anymore. That alone, isolated place I think is the most awful part of all this...

But you do sound better already Have you visited the tool box and newbie nest yet? Byrdie hangs out there alot and shes a tough Ol' Bird ... She will never steer you wrong. :h
So reading - posting, reading-posting reading -posting .... Perfect start!
oh and lots of water with big lemon slices and of course...Netflix.

Stay close, sweetie. :l

[Mayzay]

I am finally ready but I need help.

Woops...sorry that should be Good luck and God bless xx

[Wine-no!]

I am finally ready but I need help.

:welcome:MossRose

It's scary taking the first steps but you've done it! You've posted and you're already on your way. Keep posting. I found having a diary thread (such as this one) very helpful and have checked in every day.

Wishing you all the very best. Things will get better now :h

[K9Lover]

I am finally ready but I need help.

Hi MossRose and Welcome!

I can relate to your story, the drinking slowly crept up on me too. I went from getting drunk off 5 beers to needing 12-13 every night to get the same effect. It didn't happen overnight, so don't expect to "heal" overnight either. Like Byrdie said, take it in small chunks of time, days, hours or minutes....just get through them and you'll get stonger every day.

You know what's scarier for me than not drinking? DRINKING!!! At least when I don't drink I don't have to wonder what's gonna happen to me...DUI? Jail? Unknown injuries? Making an ass of myself? Etc, etc, etc...the list goes on forever.

I hope you join us over in the Newbies Nest, there's lost of support and encouragement there. We're glad you're here!

K9

[Unwasted]

I am finally ready but I need help.

Moss Rose,:welcome:

Just another MWOer welcoming you and wishing you well. This place is amazing, which I'm sure you already know. There's just something about being accountable, communicating with others who "get it", and arming ourselves with the wealth of information that is ours for the asking if we just take the time to read here and post.

Don't forget the Newbie's Nest and Toolbox as previously mentioned. Oh, and here's another link you might want to read:

https://www.mywayout.org/community/f9...hen-23467.html


Best to you,
UN:l

[MossRose]

I am finally ready but I need help.

Thank you everyone for the words of support. This is a bit harder than I thought it would be. Dinner is in the oven. I made tea. I have been reading everything in the Newbies Nest tonight and learning a lot. Unwasted, thanks for the link (You know you're an alcoholic when...) OMG ...didn't know if to laugh or cry. I can totally relate to so many of those posts.. I'm off to check out the toolbox now. Again, I just can't say thank you enough.

[halo]

I am finally ready but I need help.

MossRose welcome to the MWO. You will find such a caring and supportive community here, the site has done wonders for me, I no longer feel alone in my battle to achieve a alcohol free life. Wishing you a warm welcome.

[FreeFly]

I am finally ready but I need help.

Hi Moss, a little :welcome: from me too. So glad you decided to jump in. Look forward to getting to know you :l

[free at last]

I am finally ready but I need help.

Dear MossRose,
You are among friends and supporters here. My best advice is to make yourself post your progress every day -- you will be amazed how accountable you feel to complete strangers! We are here for you. Stay close and get through each day AF.

[Kradle123]

I am finally ready but I need help.

Hi MR,
ONe of our wonderful members here had this tattooed on her foot. I was reminded of it as you talked about the hard steps you were taking so ...let's see if I can reproduce it here...

...copy...paste...

Yey! It worked!
:wd:

[MossRose]

I am finally ready but I need help.

Love it!! Thanks, Kradle. I really needed this right now. It was a good day. I spent it with my son. It reminded me of how badly I want to repair our relationship and earn back his trust and respect. But now it is Saturday night and I am home alone, if you know what I mean. So absolutely perfect timing. Yes...one step at a time.

[kuya]

I am finally ready but I need help.

MossRose;1513509 wrote: Thank you everyone for the words of support. This is a bit harder than I thought it would be. Dinner is in the oven. I made tea. I have been reading everything in the Newbies Nest tonight and learning a lot. Unwasted, thanks for the link (You know you're an alcoholic when...) OMG ...didn't know if to laugh or cry. I can totally relate to so many of those posts.. I'm off to check out the toolbox now. Again, I just can't say thank you enough.

MossRose.....I only just saw your thread and once again it struck me how lurking as a guest NEVER gets you sober.

I did it for a couple weeks, then sank back into the bottle until it got so bad I HAD to join in properly...... I knew in my heart and soul it was going to destroy me.

It reminds me of people who study psychology HOPING it will help them overcome their psychological issues by LEARNING about it in others.

3000 people, on average, visit this site EVERY DAY. I would hazard a guess that many, like you, HOPE they will get sober by reading.

It just doesn't work that way though.

The power of writing out your intention, your problems, your history, your fears and SHARING them with fellow human beings has this amazing effect on the pathways of the brain. Addiction is powerful but there is ONE thing in life MORE powerful ......COMPANIONSHIP.

Drinkers keep other drinkers drinking. Sober people keep others sober. A drinker can come here and read forever and NEVER get sober......just like I can now go to a party and NEVER want to drink !

So in spite of the length of time you feel you may have spent here reading......you have only 'been' here a couple days. It will be hard at first but in just a few days you will be a new woman.

Post, post and post some more. Write down the longings of your heart, they are love letters to your future.

:welcome:.....to another companion on the road back to sanity.:h

[MossRose]

I am finally ready but I need help.

Words of wisdom, Kuya. In some ways, I think lurking for so long actually hurt my chances of getting sober. I really thought that I could beat my addiction in private, just be reading, without anyone ever being the wiser. How silly. Yep...just like reading about psychology

Just before joining MWO, I confessed to a dear friend that I have a serious alcohol problem and need to quit drinking. Bless her heart - she was only trying to help - but she kept arguing with me and telling me that I was exaggerating and was just fine. It was weird, because I was sloppy drunk at the time.

That's when I knew I had to reach out to people who would truly get it. I finally feel hope for the first time in decades. I'm here to stay for as long as you'll all have me

[kuya]

I am finally ready but I need help.

We will have you as long as it takes........just remember it doesn't HAVE to be that hard.

Get yourself up to speed on the science, there is a link in my signature.

Alcoholism is a combination of addiction and damaged nutrition. There is no moral element IMO.

The psychological aspects are many and varied but are actually irrelevant and, if they exist, can be tackled AFTER a good period of sobriety is achieved. Most disappear with sobriety as your muddled thinking becomes clear.

For the next little while remember you can do absolutely ANYTHING you want or need to except pick up a drink.

There are so many things you can now do sober that you could not do drunk. While you are getting sober, feeling tired and shaky, make lists of all the things you would like to do when you feel well again.