June free from AL

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June free from AL

Still riding the AF wave, thanks to the monthly June site hoping to ride this wave into July, one day by one day! Keep up the positive thoughts everyone!!!:l

[FreeFly]

June free from AL

Morning Juners, yet another beautiful morning here in the UK - day 7 of the sun shining! :yay: And into week 3 AF :rays: Wishing all a super sunny day

[Miley]

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Good morning! Day no 7 and I feel good!

Hope everyone has a great day!

[ronnie]

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Comming to the end of day 6 and i think i will treat myself to a mars bar looking forward to day 7 xxxxxx

[jenniech]

June free from AL

Goodmorning!!!
When I was in college, I had pretty much just one good close friend/room mate who I shared everything with. And let me tell you, we could PARTY. Every night we went out. To be honest, it was REALLY fun for about 80% of the time. That is pretty good in my book.....

When we got out of college, we both lived in New York City - she was on the east side and I was on the west side. She had a serious live in boyfriend, I did not. So, naturally, we still spent a lot of time together, but I branched out a bit because she was living with her boyfriend. We still both partied like there was no tomorrow. I think it was then that I decided my life was going no where if I continued to live to party....the party-ing was getting kind of old. So, I put myself back in school and got a career.

Fast forward to today: I got married, had kids and have a full time career. I have a very happy home relatively speaking.....and I am an alcoholic who wants to live a sober life. My friend got married, got divorced, never had kids, moved around and never really developed a career....she still drinks like there is no tomorrow and smokes pot alcoholically as well.

Two summers ago, I vacations on Martha's Vineyard which is where she was living at the time. I invited her over. She came and plopped herself on the beach and proceeded to drink all day. I had to "host" the day so I hung out with her but we really had NOTHING to talk about. She made no attempt to get to know my kids and pretty much talked about herself the whole time. So, last summer when we went to the Vineyard again for vacation, I didn't call her. I did not want to waste my precious vacation days hosting her - especially since I was struggling not to drink.

So, she has de-friended me on facebook. Quite an immature thing to do. It bothers me to some extent, but I really don't need friends like that in my life. Her life is SO SMALL. I feel like she has never gotten past the party lifestyle and it has stunted her growth. There is so much more to life than a bottle(s) of wine. So, I feel kind of sad about it, but it is time to move on. So I am just going to let it be. I will not reach out to her or call her anymore. I can't because it would be so unhealthy for me.

I wonder how many other friends will be going by the wayside because I am sober?

[NoSugar]

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Miley;1516269 wrote: Good morning! Day no 7 and I feel good!

Hope everyone has a great day!

CONGRATULATIONS, MILEY!!!

Keep it going - You are so worth it!

:h:h:h

[Miley]

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Jenni

I also lost friends when I started not drinking/partying so much. I started thinking that they weren't real friends anyway. Honestly I don't miss them. I know I am doing the right thing and if they don't like it, they can go to hell. You may lose other friends as well but you will be better off.

Martha's Vineyard is such a beautiful place. As you discovered last summer, it's a lot nicer without dealing with someone else's drama.

[Miley]

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Thanks NS!

[paulywogg]

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yeah i have no friends anymore,the true few i had got sick of babysitting me,the others were drinking buddies,oh well

[thelaststraw]

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Yes, no "friends", - but who wants "friends" who can't even remember spending time with you 'cuz they were in a blackout the whole time.

-S-

[witts end]

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Hey miley think of the ones you are going to pick up because your sober
never know some of your old ones may come back now your af
lets do week 2 no regrets and no looking back ....full steam ahead af

[ronnie]

June free from AL

Day 7 for me here
I believe that people/friends come and go in your life for a reason. The friends that you meet while staying a/f will see the real you and know that you are a decent honest person.
After work i am going to treat myself with the money that i would of used to buy my booze. ........watch out shops here i come xxxxxxx
Hope you all have a great a/f day xxxxxxx

[NoSugar]

June free from AL

ronnie;1516561 wrote: Day 7 for me here
I believe that people/friends come and go in your life for a reason. The friends that you meet while staying a/f will see the real you and know that you are a decent honest person.
After work i am going to treat myself with the money that i would of used to buy my booze. ........watch out shops here i come xxxxxxx
Hope you all have a great a/f day xxxxxxx

CONGRATULATIONS TO YOU RONNIE!!!

I agree with you about A/F friends --- I wish I could bring some of the friends I have made her into my real life. The anonymity has allowed us to open up and I like what I've seen! And I have really loved not pretending to be someone I'm not .

Keep up the good work - it is worth whatever it takes!!!

[jenniech]

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HOORAY FOR RONNIE!!

You are entitled to the 7 day prize for staying sober each and every day of the week. You are on your way girl!!!

:moon:

[Live_Love_Learn]

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I agree with you Ronnie and NoSugar! Its so great to be honest with yourself and others here, how many of us have been too afraid to tell people because we were scared they would judge us??
Its Friday WOOHOOOOOO!!!!!!!!! I've got my parents visiting- this will be the test!! they normally drive me to my old friend Scotch LOL! I think I'm equipped though and ready to handle them!!!!!!
Day 18 for me and I think I've even noticed my gut is a bit smaller, the booze belly may be finally going away HEHE!