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    Miley;1523125 wrote: I have to say last night was an awful struggle. I managed tovget through it but it was tough. I honestly didn't want to drink but was having a craning.....very confusing.
    Miley
    jenniech;1523297 wrote:
    Miley
    That is EXACTLY the problem I keep having. Not wanting to drink but having a craving.....So, I chalk it up to my body not quite adjusted yet to AF life. I mean, I DID drink HEAVILY for many many years so I don't blame my body for being confused.

    The important thing is, my mind says NO because I think it through...I visualize the results of what would happen if I did pick up. Definitely not worth it.

    Good job in not listening to those cravings!!!
    This seems to me like a really important part of it -- we can get to the point where intellectually and logically we are done with drinking. Forever. But that doesn't mean that we will never have a thought, urge, longing, craving, or whatever for our favorite drink. They seem to become less frequent and maybe in time they go away. Until then, we just have to be able to deal with them whether they come every afternoon at 4 pm, like they did for me at the beginning, or they appear unexpectedly just when you thought you were free.

    I try to look at those responses for what they are - just feelings. Neurons firing. Feelings do not have to lead to actions. The part of the brain that generates those feelings is the part that dominated my life for too long and I'm not going to let it be in charge again. This is one area of my life where I'm not going to try to tame my control-freak personality. I want
    my rational self to take the drive to drink, evaluate it, play the situation forward, and make the decision not to drink. After you do it enough times and successfully navigate enough "firsts without drinking", that process goes from taking several minutes to being almost instantaneous --- almost like the thought was not even there.

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      June free from AL

      free at last;1523359 wrote: Hi all, I depart for another 2.5 weeks of travel-related work. Will post when I can.
      Have a good trip, Free. We'll be happy to hear from you whenever you have a chance to post. I think of you whenever I order and enjoy SW&L !

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        June free from AL

        I try to look at those responses for what they are - just feelings. Neurons firing. Feelings do not have to lead to actions. The part of the brain that generates those feelings is the part that dominated my life for too long and I'm not going to let it be in charge again. This is one area of my life where I'm not going to try to tame my control-freak personality. I want my rational self to take the drive to drink, evaluate it, play the situation forward, and make the decision not to drink. After you do it enough times and successfully navigate enough "firsts without drinking", that process goes from taking several minutes to being almost instantaneous --- almost like the thought was not even there.

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          June free from AL

          Have a good trip free, we will be here when you get back!!! Stay strong on your trip
          On a mission, and the only option is success. My family and I deserve a better life, an AF life.:h

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            June free from AL

            NO sugar: you summed it up PERFECTLY. That should go in the tool box!!!!!

            Update on my tyson: he seems to be holding up....but he is vomiting huge amounts of liquid (sorry to gross you out). However, it only happens once or twice a day and other than that, he is full of love for us...We are taking his illness a day at a time....today is ok
            I just won't anymore

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              June free from AL

              hello everyone still here

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                June free from AL

                Witts end we are still here as well. Before you know it the month of June will be behind us! A whole month AF, and I can assure you it does get easier, getting through those first 30 days was grueling, as those days/weeks/months add up it seems that I get stronger and am more able to cope. Here's to passing on some strength, I feel like I get alot from others who post!

                Keep it going!!!
                On a mission, and the only option is success. My family and I deserve a better life, an AF life.:h

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                  June free from AL

                  Hi all, just arrived at my hotel. When the man checking me in said "we'll have your complimentary bottle of wine brought right up." I said "Not necessary, but thank you." Now off for a swim and dinner.
                  Free at Last
                  "What you seek is seeking you." -- Rumi

                  Highly recommend this video
                  http://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability.html

                  July 19, 2013 -- the beginning of being Free at Last

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                    June free from AL

                    free at last;1523828 wrote: Hi all, just arrived at my hotel. When the man checking me in said "we'll have your complimentary bottle of wine brought right up." I said "Not necessary, but thank you." Now off for a swim and dinner.
                    How nice not to have to go through the opening/dumping steps !

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                      June free from AL

                      wow good for you free
                      yes the month of june is closing down
                      I have 26 days up my sleeve feeling great

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                        June free from AL

                        Halo, I think it's going to be your turn to start the July thread. This really does help and I'll sign up.

                        Witts End, you are doing so well.
                        Free at Last
                        "What you seek is seeking you." -- Rumi

                        Highly recommend this video
                        http://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability.html

                        July 19, 2013 -- the beginning of being Free at Last

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                          June free from AL

                          Sounds good free, I'll start one up! I love the monthly threads because they break down my AF time into a goal I feel like I can attain. I truly want to live an AF life but the thought of never, ever seems like such a daunting task.

                          Being able to say hey this month I'm going to be AF, and then once accomplishing that feat, committing to the next month AF seems to be something I know I can achieve . It all starts with those small steps.

                          Great work free, keep the front stroke going!!!
                          On a mission, and the only option is success. My family and I deserve a better life, an AF life.:h

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                            June free from AL

                            I want to write something encouraging. How's this?... Be Encouraged. Smiley face.

                            Blah, not so good. Sorry, I'm blah this morning. I think hubby is my trigger. There, it's written down.

                            -S-
                            P.S. finished day 12. rah.

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                              June free from AL

                              LOL laststraw
                              been there, felt that!!!
                              I just won't anymore

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                                June free from AL

                                Hey Juners.....

                                Day 27 for me today and something strange happened this morning that bothered me so I want to share. I went to the gym with my friend and neighbor this morning. I haven't really seen her during the past month. I have been going to the gym regularly and she just started back.

                                The whole experience was strange.....after we left the gym on the way home, we were talking about health and I shared that I hadn't had a drink in almost 30 days. Her reaction was not that positive. She was not happy for me and started talking about how she used to go the first 3 months of the year AF...I can tell you, this must have been years ago because her and her husband are both heavy drinkers.

                                I just haven't experienced this type or response yet and to be honest, it was kind of a bummer. I had to come home and shake off the negativity. We haven't been hanging out much for awhile...honestly because hanging around them has been a big trigger for me and I stopped when I started to work on my drinking issues about a year ago (she doesn't know this)

                                Also, I really wanted a drink last night. I am stressed at work and I gave it some serious consideration. I pushed through it....thank God. This has taught me that I DON't have to give in to every craving, which has been a huge issue for me.

                                Anyway, thanks for letting me vent. Hope everyone has a fantastic day....I'll check in later.
                                Miley

                                "The moment you are ready to quit is usually the moment right before a miracle happens..don't give up"
                                [COLOR=Magenta]Joyfully AF Since 1/22/14

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