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Hi
I have abused alcohol for around 30 years. Today the 2nd June I want to start a new chapter of my life. I have no idea how I am going to do this but I neve want to have another hangover in my life. Ever again.
Please give me any advice to help me achieve this- how hard is this going to be. I have a young child of 4 and I want to be around to see her.

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Hi
thanks for the reply. I would drink a bottle of wine each night - sometimes nearly two. On rare occasions I would drink whiskey.I would frequently have hangovers. I am an older Mum had my child in my forties- thank god I hardly drank much during my pregnancy- but after my wonderful daughter was born I slipped back into this way- and I just don't want it anymore but really worry that I will not be able to stop myself but really want to

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I will look at the link now.I can go a couple of days or three without a drink- but then I go back and REWARD myself for that- you are right I just have to come here when I feel the urge to drink. It just has to stop thanks again- just out of curiosity- what stage do you think I am at- were you at this stage that I'm at when you stopped

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Hi support,
There's a group of people trying for an AF June -- we are all taking it one day at a time, with a goal of supporting each other. Why don't you join those two threads? You are among people who understand how alcohol can control our lives, and want to break free from its bondage.

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Hi
I will join now-I have a feeling this site will really help me -thank you

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These words you posted -
........it is progressive - so where you are today will almost certainly be a lot worse in a years time......

They are shocking-they scare me and very very likely true- they have hit a chord with me-I just have to stop- for myself and especially for my child.I hate myself for drinking-and I really don't know why I do- I don't even want to-and have said so often that's it- At lease I have not drunk today- so looking forward to a hangover free day-and I was actually thinking about buying a bottle earlier- phew!

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Hello and :welcome:

You have found an amazing place of support here at MWO. There are lots of folks in all different stages of their sobriety, so you will be in company of those just starting too and those who've 'been there' and can be a source of guidance.

I suggest you read around and see how people who have some time under their belts started out. I believe someone already posted the toolbox link and putting together a 'plan' is priceless.

Personally, I set myself up with tons of good food, movies, books, talks on the phone, long walks, bubble baths and the like for about the first 10 - 15 days. I let myself 'have' anything I wanted ~ except alcohol. Not everyone can set up a personal ICU, but if you can reward yourself with little treats each day that helps. A support circle, like MWO is paramount.

It's sooo worth the effort, you will not regret it. You CAN DO THIS!!! We will be here to cheer you on :yougo:
Take good care & keep checkin' in, k? P.

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support needed;1514557 wrote: These words you posted -
........it is progressive - so where you are today will almost certainly be a lot worse in a years time......

They are shocking-they scare me and very very likely true- they have hit a chord with me-I just have to stop- for myself and especially for my child.I hate myself for drinking-and I really don't know why I do- I don't even want to-and have said so often that's it- At lease I have not drunk today- so looking forward to a hangover free day-and I was actually thinking about buying a bottle earlier- phew!

I KNEW I was past the point of control when I DRANK WHEN I DIDN'T WANT TO.

That, I am afraid IS the definition. I remember the awful compulsion, EVERY night, to go buy booze I DID NOT WANT.

The fear, the misery, the slavery of it was terrifying.

Now I am 9 months sober, loving my life again and NEVER wanting a drink.

This CAN be you......trust what we tell you. Be brave, put down the glass and never look back.

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Hi
I have just woken up on Sunday monday morning and this first thing I am doing is visiting this site-just to feel near people like me-got through yesterday- I am going to get through today with no AL- am starting juicing and hopefully repair my body over this next year-plus my mind and soul.No more regrets- just hard action to start with.This site is great

[Mayzay]

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Hi SN - and welcome. Your situation sounds so like mine. I am in my mid 40s with 2 year old daughter and was drinking bottle of wine + a night and hating doing it but no matter how I felt in the morning the wine-demon would start whispering around 6pm and by 8 I'd find myself opening my evening bottle. This site is fab-so much advice and such inspirational folk. The biggest thing though is the desire to stop-my 1st post on here was when I was feeling really down and sorry for myself and one of the responses made me really think about do I want to stop or just moan and continue. I am having an AF June & would love your company on it. You CAN do it! Watch out for day 3/4-try to battle and ride through the craving....we're with you! Blessings Mx

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Day 2 without Alcohol and I now want to get to day 3- reading the boards-knowing I am not alone and this addiction affects lots of people from all walks of life......:thanks: for this site. I want to use it everyday-----reading and learning and growing into who I am- just beginning to lead a normal life again-I am living in hope and with determination. I WANT THIS

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Another day with Alcohol- thanks God- looking forward to another day WITHOUT a hangover -I really like this site-

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Hi Mayzay- I will join you for June. Our stories are similar- I think now i just want to do it. I feel in a different space somehow. Any doubts I am going online and going to read the posts. They just help. I don't want to ruin my life any more and especially my daughters. So far I have hidden it- but a couple of recent events made me realize enough is enough.

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p.s.
I will watch out for day 2 and 3 - they have always been my downfall. Tx Mayzay

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Right- day 3 is starting. I am going to succeed today. I want to and I am going to. All of you have no idea what this support is meaning to me.You have warned me of day 3 and 4 and I am LISTENING- I also know it from my past. But today is today and today is going to be different. Huge day of work ahead of me and I am looking forward to it with no hangover. Thank you all so so much