11 Days Sober - First Timer

[Mr Vervill]

11 Days Sober - First Timer

3J, Wow. Obviously you're a very strong woman. Keep up the good work. You deserve it.

[TheSunFlower]

11 Days Sober - First Timer

3J...related to your post today. I was looking over some old posts as I was trying to determine my actual sobriety date. It was not that long ago I was in a bad place....and I am amazed that in given the short time I have been sober...that my thinking has changed so much. It almost feels like a lifetime ago.

I never want to back there. One drink is all it takes..no thanks.

[3June2013]

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Five weeks now and I am in control. Working on losing weight now and it's much easier because I'm not drinking my calories!

[3June2013]

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Very proud of my reaction tonight. Our host made a huge deal of bringing a $200 bottle of sparkling wine to our table and all I could think was how do I graciously decline?

[3June2013]

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Sunflower we can never be social drinkers. If we could we wouldn't be here right? That's ok I have found life without AL to be a richer, fuller, calmer happier life!

[3June2013]

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6 weeks today, going good. I've been reading the tool box posts and reflecting on the difference between how I felt when I quit ( scared, anxious, sad) and how I feel now ( in control, happy, healthy). I realize I have almost forgotten that sick feeling in the middle of the night when I woke up in between fitful sleeps with my head spinning, my body sweating and this deep down feeling I was poisoning myself. Or waking up feeling like death and having to pretend I wasn't hung over. I can not forget these things. They are the reason one drink can't happen. I still worry that some big life crisis might come along and derail me. I hope I can get enough time under my belt so that I am string enough when something happens. I guess I am being anxious. I'm reading Heart of Addiction and trying to learn about the root causes of my drinking. Too and it took me 40 years but I guess it's never too late,

[3June2013]

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7 weeks today. I can honestly say a day will go by without my giving AL a thought. I don't torture myself every night on the way home from work any more. I used to think about what I would drink. How much I would drink, then drink more than I planned, every single night. It was a constant battle inside my head. I knew I wanted to moderate but I couldn't. The best thing ever was realizing that if I just quit the battle would be over. Getting through the fear of life without AL is the key. Life after AL is full of joy and gratitude. If only I'd known sooner! If you're reading this and contemplating your relationship with AL trust me, you can find better companions! Jump in the water is perfect!

[witts end]

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good for you 3june2013 we are both getting a handle on this af
I quiet agree al is great

[hazeleyes]

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Good work 3june :goodjob:
Your doing great. It's neat to follow your progress as it so similar to mine.

[SoberSoul]

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3June2013;1534956 wrote: 7 weeks today. I can honestly say a day will go by without my giving AL a thought. I don't torture myself every night on the way home from work any more. I used to think about what I would drink. How much I would drink, then drink more than I planned, every single night. It was a constant battle inside my head. I knew I wanted to moderate but I couldn't. The best thing ever was realizing that if I just quit the battle would be over. Getting through the fear of life without AL is the key. Life after AL is full of joy and gratitude. If only I'd known sooner! If you're reading this and contemplating your relationship with AL trust me, you can find better companions! Jump in the water is perfect!

Hey 3J, I've been following you. I am a fellow Canadian and in my mid-fifties too. The first thing I want to 'correct' you on is that at our age, we are not OLD, we are the new YOUNG.. we have a lot of living left to do... Everything else I agree with LOL...

I am so happy to be A/F since yesterday, the first day of my vacation. It's my umpteenth quit but you are so encouraging and 'real' that I think I'll follow along holding on to your coat tails and hang on for dear life.

When I go for weeks without drinking, I love the nights the best. I love sleeping right through and not waking up feeling sad and angry at myself; sweating away.

And what you said about the should I, shouldn't I inter-brain discussion... a fond farewell to that. We ALWAYS drink more than we planned.

Hope to always be just a few weeks behind you .. forever. Thanks for being my inspiration.:h

[3June2013]

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Rough night

Sober Soul thanks for your support! If I can help you through my ramblings then it makes it all the more worth while!

Last night I had really disturbing dreams. I was drinking, acting inappropriately (in bed with someone I don't even know who), I couldn't go to work, I was a mess. I think it might be due to watching "Rain in my Heart" wow that was an eye opener wasn't it? I know I never drank that much but hey who knows where I was headed?

Yesterday I was feeling pissy. I have three days off, it's beautiful outside, my husband is working, I feel like summer is passing me by because we can't get away together. I was in a really bad mood about it all. I even had romantic thoughts of a glass of wine. Well if I ever feel that way again all I have to do is watch that documentary. Seeing a young man downing full tumblers of wine and then puking them up was enough to put me off wine for a long time!

I guess we are never truly safe though. I thought that being nearly two months AF would mean I wouldn't have these thoughts, these mood swings, these restless nights. Last night I was stuffing myself with chocolate too, I just remembered, it was my reward for not being able to go to the lake or drink I think. Maybe that's why I had the bad dreams and restless sleep. I also went for a run yesterday which gives me a sore back.

Wah wah wah.

I am tiring myself out LOL

I am going to make a plan right now to get to the lake. I will go alone if I have to. I don't want summer to pass me by and make me mad. So I will do what it takes and get out there.

Starting now.

Thanks for letting me rant LOL

[NoSugar]

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Hi, 3Jun

Kind of surprising that all the vagaries of life remain even when we quit drinking, isn't it?

I'm having to realize that some things are Me, not just Me-on-Wine.

I spent a lot of time thinking "If I would only quit drinking, then ...." And all those issues would be straightened out. More magical thinking...

It is much easier to deal with things sober, though, and I love having confidence in my decisions again.

I haven't watched those documentaries yet and given your experience, might just put it OFF a little longer!

I hope today is a better day for you!

:h NS

[witts end]

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hello everyone
I also had a lousy day yesterday.......must be in the air hopefully to-day will be better
I'm still struggling in trying to get motivation .... don't have the confidence yet
keep up the good work you guys

[Scarlett1946]

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Wow 3J. You are SO inspiring!!! I just read all of your posts in this thread and can only hope that I can do half as good!! If I found a little bottle of vodka left over in a cabinet, I'd probably look to make sure nobody was looking and down it. I am good at being sneaky, as well as lying to myself.

Keep inspiring me!!!

[Byrdlady]

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Hey, I just stopped by and thought I'd share this one thought with you....if you have a 'bad' day fighting off AL, it will be followed by a really good day. Don't ask me why, but I never had (have) two bad days in a row. It's a merciful phenomenon! Tomorrow will be a better day! You'll be so glad you made it thru. It's just all part of the journey and it's normal. Hugs all, Byrdie