Hola!

[sanchez]

New neebie here and have really felt the sense of community. Just starting my journey to an AF life. Right now mostly getting info and joining forums for support. Have a meeting with my counselor on Monday and also going to try the Last Call program. Curious if anyone on this forum has tried that and would be interested in results achieved.

Day one today without wine or beer. So far so good; oneday at a time...
Thank you!
:thanks:

[paulywogg]

Hola!

welcome to mwo sanchez! you sound super positive,read around some,if you have any questions never hesitate to ask,theres usually somebody around,great job on no alcohol today

[Mr Vervill]

Hola!

Welcome, and drop into the Newbie's nest thread my friend. You'll get plenty of support there.

[NoSugar]

Hola!

Hi, Sanchez and :welcome: !

You have found a great place to make this great life change. If you haven't read in the Newbies Nest yet, the link is given below. That is a good place to hang out at the beginning. The toolbox is full of tips for success so that is a thread to check out, too.

Hope to see you over in the Nest!

[Lavande]

Hola!

Hello & welcome to MWO sanchez!

Glad you found us & decided to join.
You already know this is a free program & it definitely works provided you are ready to do some work & make some major changes in your life.

Before you sign up for the Last Call program think about downloading the MWO book from the Health store here on the site. It explains the different aspects of this program & you can choose what works for you. Kudzu is available & many people here have used it successfully.

The recommended vitamin supplements are designed to help your body heal. The Hypno CDs were invaluable for me I really believe they helped me learn to relax without AL & to change my thinking about it all together.

Wishing you the best in your journey!

Lav

[broken halo]

Hola!

Welcome Sanchez, you have come to the right place! I haven't heard much about Last call, sorry. Well done on making a life changing decision, and well done on day 1!

[witts end]

Hola!

Welcome Sanchez glad you have come to join us
It is hard at first .....but you can do it .....it is do- able as others will say
Have a good af night and come back to- morrow

[Joemero]

Hola!

Welcome Sanchez! Just know that you can do this. I started June 30th, and am holding strong. What worked for me were small goals, I focused on 7 days, and only that. Then 14, then 30 etc. I felt that after 7 days, my cravings went down to where I could get a better grip on this, and after 14 you'll feel much stronger. It's not easy, but nothing worthwhile in life is. You have to work at it Stick around!

[sanchez]

Hola!

Thank you Everyone!

Thanks for the welcome and the support already. I'm going to download the pdf MWO book and also have a look at the vitamins/supplements. I'm sure my body is deprived of many good nutrients.

Made it through day 1 with a very sleepless night. Chills and insomnia mostly but I don't think (and I don't even know why I say this) that maybe I won't go through an awful withdrawal. As I was awake last night was surfing the Inet to find more information and came across an article talking about alcohol dependency versus alcohol abuse. Albeit the user ends up in an awful place, but I would classify myself as an alcohol abuser. I don't get up and have a craving for a drink first thing in the morning. In fact, I can go most of the day - it's around the 4:00-5:00 timeframe that my mind says - hey you deserve to wind-down so have a bottle or two of wine. And then I pass out or at least brown-out to the point I don't remember what I did or said or even watched on TV.

Or, it's those events that could be good or bad and they become less significant as the acohol abuse increases. So, maybe 10 years ago, I would have had a glass or two of champaigne after receiving a raise or a promotion. Fast forward to now and I may break open a bottle or two of wine for teaching my puppy how to sit. Another example, when my father died unexpectedly, 13 years ago, I went through a lot of wine and beer as an escape but at that time I didn't think I had a real problem. Fast forward to now, and I'll open a bottle of wine because I ran out of gas. Does this make sense? Less significant events and greater quantities of wine.

A real issue I'm having is a lack of support at home. When I asked my husband for help, he said "call your brother." He is not supporting me on this - I'm on my own so I thank God I found this web-site. Plus I'm going to see a counselor on Monday, one that I went to for marital problems prior.

This may be TMI for this early in my posting days, but the vicious cycle of over-drinking, getting verbally abused then by my husband because of it, then over-drinking again the next night and so on - it's creating a cycle that is ugly all the way around. At first I thought I wanted to taper down, but not sure that's possible for me. I think abstinence is going to be best for me - in the long run.

I like the small goals with going for 7 days, then 14, then 21 and will keep a log. I'm determined to do this. My marriage is in trouble anyway, so I don't think me being sober is going to fix that - that's an issue I'll just have to set aside for now and deal with later. Right now it's about me for once!

Went to the tool kit yesterday too and found some really good hints and tips in there.
Thank you again for the wonderful support. Looking forward to getting to know you all better and maybe one day I too can offer up some hints and tips that worked for me. See thinking positive! :thanks:

Sanchez

[free at last]

Hola!

Hi Sanchez,
Welcome -- you have found a wonderfully supportive community here. There is also an AF thread for the month of August. In addition to Newbies' nest, you might want to read through that. Also, I try to read the threads of people who have achieved several months of sobriety -- that helps keep me motivated. Stay close and post often.

[paulywogg]

Hola!

hi sanchez,all i can say is you have to get sober for you,my hubs really isnt on board with me quitting either,he doesnt think i have a problem,i think he misses his drinking buddy,but it bothers me to drink so im quitting for me,glad you made it through day one,it only gets better just keep going

[broken halo]

Hola!

well done on day 7 sanchez! :l

[free at last]

Hola!

Hi Sanchez, how is it going for you?

[sanchez]

Hola!

Thanks BH and Free!
Almost through day 7 with only a few hours yet to go. Feeling good, head is clear, my eyes are even clearer. Still not sleeping very good, however, when I do get into a deep sleep I'm having the weirdest dreams! Did you all do that? Strange disease this is - the tricks it plays on your mind even in your sleep are evil!
Thanks for the well wishes and concern. Still just taking one day at a time...

[Wine-no!]

Hola!

Hola my AF buddy! I can't believe that just yesterday I was thinking how 8 August was a boring day to quit... I didn't plan to, I had just had enough and on 7 August had half a bottle of wine and just thought 'why am I doing this? I am not enjoying this! This has to stop!' so I quit the next day.... Then I look at your profile and realise (of course), it was 8/8! What a cool date! Yeah! So we are the 8/8 club.

Anyway, I totally agree with you about alcohol dependence... I never accepted I was addicted as I didn't have physical cravings etc. but now realise the addiction can be mental, emotional and/or physical and I definitely have the first two. More is covered in the book 'The Sober Revolution'. Understanding that I am still addicted despite not having the physical cravings/withdrawal symptoms YET has completely changed my mind set.

Anyway, here's to day 8 from 8/8! X