Last night my neighbour and his boyfriend had a heavy drinking session, they do every weekend. They don't consider themselves alcoholics but recognise that they drink heavily. (I like them a lot and we have talked openly about drinking).
They both have beautiful homes,and lovely gardens, hold down responsible, interesting and high earning jobs, have five holidays a year, have many beautiful possessions. They are "characters", I enjoy talking with them as they are funny, witty etc (and interesting on some occassions).
Last night was interesting for me as they were out in their garden partying (very late and loudly) while I was in bed reading "Sober for Good" ! they got louder and louder so did their two guests, so did the music. I would never fault them as I have behaved like this in the past too (although in more recent years I isolated). At the end (2.30am) it was rather sad as two of them had fallen asleep, the other two were having a very intense and personal conversation but at such a loud level I could hear every word.
All this made me very reflective as with past boyfriends I too behaved in this way. Everything I did with them revolved round drink, it is the same with my neighbour and his boyfriend, even when they are out gardening they drink beer all day. Whenever they are together they drink.... so how do they really know each other?
I have been single for quite a long time now and that is Ok but it has made me think, if I do ever get into another relationship I would want to be with someone who does not drink or drinks very little.
Also for me drinking at the end spoilt lots of potentially glamorous occassions, like I would be watching a play at the theatre and having to sit with one eye shut as I was seeing double, another time I was on a boat trip looking at historic buildings, this could have been fascinating .... but I drank so much it was hard not to throw up! Recently I did this trip sober and loved it.
Have a lovely alcohol free Sunday everyone,
DD
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