Hi all

[Teabobaggins]

I'm starting to believe I have a problem. I don't drink during the day, but every night. I start every day with a hangover. I'm ashamed of the things I do, I drink alone, I binge eat when I'm drinking. I have no idea how to stop, or to start to stop. My relationship is suffering. Please, if you have any advice, help me!

[Alicat]

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Welcome! yup,your story sounds pretty much just like me,I just joined a few days ago so am a newbie too.Except I undereat when I'm drinking,usually because I'm too ill to face food,though a bottle of wine can always be forced down.Have you told anyone you plan to quit yet? I just confided in one close friend and my partner,it was scary but I'm so glad I did now,they have been great.And everybody here have been so supportive too,So I'd advise you to log on here whenever you feel like a drink and read some stories or just say hi,it's working for me so far! Good luck,glad you joined

[Teabobaggins]

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Thanks Alicat, knowing other people are going through the same thing is a help. I haven't told anyone, and as it is I guess I am kidding myself that nobody knows about my problem... Thanks, I will try and tell my partner, and I will keep this forum open when I am online. And good luck to you too.

[MossRose]

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Hi Tea and welcome. Glad you found your way here. I'm a newbie too, so can't offer any sage advice but I can tell you that joining MWO was a great decision. If you post in the newbies nest, you'll get some much needed advice and support. Keep reading and posting. And yes...you do have an idea of how to stop. You are here, right? That means you are ready to change your life. Starting each day with a hangover is miserable. Been there. You can do this. We'll be there for you.

[broken halo]

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Teabobaggins;1548119 wrote: I'm starting to believe I have a problem. I don't drink during the day, but every night. I start every day with a hangover. I'm ashamed of the things I do, I drink alone, I binge eat when I'm drinking. I have no idea how to stop, or to start to stop. My relationship is suffering. Please, if you have any advice, help me!

Hello Teabo and welcome

You have found a good place, starting every day with a hangover isn't good. You have asked for advice. Mine would be to change the pattern tomorrow. One day without AL. Do that, then take it from there. How much are you drinking? Will you need help to come off it? There are loads of threads here that can help you. Please join the Newbies Nest and have a look at the toolbox. You sound miserable and unhappy Teabo, I know the feeling and was talking about it to a friend earlier. It doesn't have to be that way, there is hope, and there is always a way out. It's far from easy, but it's possible. :l

[Alicat]

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No problem,it's tough.Especially if you are drinking alone,people usually aren't aware of the extent of the problem.My friend was a little surprised when I told her I want to quit as I think she always just saw me as a bit of a "party girl".If you don't want to tell anyone you don't have to of course,I just felt the need to.I've been telling colleagues that I have plans to avoid after work drinks but that can only work so long,so am going with the "having a healthy month" lie next Let us know how you are getting on

[Teabobaggins]

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I don't drink spirits often but about 2 litres of wine per night, sometimes 3 or 4 if it is the weekend. I am unhappy and thank you for the support and advice. Thanks Moss, thanks Broken. I'm feeling really overwhelmed and don't know where to start... I will check out the Newbies Nest and toolbox. and tomorrow I will try and go without AL.

[Teabobaggins]

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Alicat;1548128 wrote: No problem,it's tough.Especially if you are drinking alone,people usually aren't aware of the extent of the problem.My friend was a little surprised when I told her I want to quit as I think she always just saw me as a bit of a "party girl".If you don't want to tell anyone you don't have to of course,I just felt the need to.I've been telling colleagues that I have plans to avoid after work drinks but that can only work so long,so am going with the "having a healthy month" lie next Let us know how you are getting on

See, that's it, I don't think anyone knows, I'm just "the fun girl" at work. It's so messed up, they encourage me to have drinks because they have no idea, admitting my problem will be so hard. I have been on here for half an hour and I'm already experiencing so much support, thank you all.

[Teabobaggins]

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I have to go to bed - I'm in Europe and it's 23:04 here. Please wish me luck for an AL free day tomorrow.

[MossRose]

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Tea - there are so many of us here that are "at-home, alone drinkers." It makes it tough to reach out and ask for help. But you were brave enough to do just that. As BH said - maybe just one day AF. See how it goes, and build from there. I know it's scary, but you can do this.

My only other advice is to eat A LOT (keeps the blood sugar steady) and drink water. You are definitely dehydrated if you wake up with hangovers every day. Hang in there and keep posting.

[Teabobaggins]

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Moss - the moment I realised I have a problem was when I ordered 10€ worth of takeaway food - with 4 bottles of wine. At home alobe is my biggest issue. Again, thank you so much. I go to sleep now with a new hope. I'll be back tomorrow after work I guess - I hope.

[MossRose]

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Get a good night's sleep, Tea. And post again in the morning. We're in different time zones, but promise to get back to you as soon as possible. Stay strong.

[witts end]

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tea
how are you going it really is hard at first but it does get better but you can do it I also was a wine drinker ....casks they held the most .......bottles ran out 2 quick and also bottles made you realise how much you did drink a night .......I would do 2 a week sometimes into the 3rd and mostly it was when I was a lone hubby would go to bed and leave me ........but that didn't always work for I would go up thinking I was a sleep only to find out the next morning I wasn't.......anyway thats all in the past now .......HOPEFULLY I
have conquered it

[pinoak]

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My partner and I open up the whisky at 11am; a bottle per day each; we don't come across as drunk; stick to our own devices and sort of enjoy our lives; I also do not suffer from hangovers; however I do feel the kidneys complaining and have frequently suffered from stomach cramps and dt's; have started with the bac and am at 140 mg per day; lost a good friend 2 years ago who drank himself literally to death and am concerned about my health.

[Teabobaggins]

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Morning. So here I am, slept through my alarm again, but my cat woke me up... :/