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[Tom321]

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No libraries, unfortunately, i like the suggestion though. I'm actually a pretty avid book collector. I should probably just handcuff myself to the desk, lol

[sanchez]

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Any place to volunteer at lunchtime or when the urge hits. Walk dogs at local shelter, volunteer at a foodbank or tutor kids with reading. Just another thought...

[Tom321]

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And thank you, Sanchez. I already worked out before i came to work. I felt really good this morning when i left the house, but if there is a way to screw it up i can find it.

[Tom321]

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The problem is my lunch break is not set in stone, i work on a trading desk..when it is slow i can get out for 30 min or but never consistently. I truly appreciate you throwing these things out there.

[NoSugar]

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Tom321;1549360 wrote: And thank you, Sanchez. I already worked out before i came to work. I felt really good this morning when i left the house, but if there is a way to screw it up i can find it.
Hi, Tom

I don't mean to sound like a scold but changing the way you think about things is a big part of getting yourself free.

Even if it has been true in the past, "but if there is a way to screw it up i can find it" is what you are here to change - and you can !

How and what we think truly affects how our brains function and that is the big thing that we need to change.

How about this?:

Tom321;1549360 wrote: And thank you, Sanchez. I already worked out before i came to work. I felt really good this morning when i left the house, and I am going to do what it takes today to keep that feeling alive in me so I won't think I need to drink.

:h NS

[Tom321]

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Thx, nosugar, i agree. Good advice. Much appreciated.

[K9Lover]

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How's it going...did you find something to distract yourself today?

[Tom321]

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No. I did better than yesterday, but i'm not sure there is a such thing as progress in this fight

[Tom321]

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Thanks to everyone who took the time to respond. I really hope i will beat this and maybe be able to contribute to what is really an amazing forum. But that time is not now. Bye for the time being and thx again

[3June2013]

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Tom you can hang out even if you're not ready to quit. Maybe reading and talking will help you to get ready. It's scary shit giving up something that has gotten us through so much.

[MossRose]

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Tom - I just wanted to say welcome. I can see that you are getting some excellent advice, and being so new, I don't really have anything to add. In fact, I'm learning some valuable things from reading all of the responses. However, I do have to say that it sounds like you have a lovely family. Therefore you have a lot to lose. Please, be smarter than I was. AL cost me a lot. Not early on...but I waited too long to wise up. Trust me, repairing the damage is so much more difficult than avoiding it in the first place. Glad you joined us.

[Tom321]

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I want the person I am back badly..for me and my family. New day. I wanna crush this thing. I'm tired of day 1's. wish me luck and thank you all.

[Wine-no!]

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Good luck Tom. Reach out and grab day one! You can do this.

[K9Lover]

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Tom -
Please don't leave. There are no "rules" for being here. Whatever you're doing, we can try to help. Keep us posted on how things are going for you!

[Tom321]

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Thanks, I understand and will stick around. Doing well today, I am past the point where i would normally start drinking so that's something. I'm determined and motivated to get thru this day 1. Eating lunch and my desk and just burying myself in my work.