30 days:My e advice for new timers

[Rahulthesweet]

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I can't believe just 30 days back I felt so sick of myself. I felt I was in a pit with no way out. Sitting in a hotel and after drinking more than 10 pints of beer I felt cheated by this AL was till that time my friend (at least I though so.)

I must admit I have been to MWO forums several times saw several posts, but never cared about making an account and start posting. Then one night after drinking too much and waking up early morning with dry throat completely dehydrated and depressed I plunged into these forums ...

It was a pleasant surprise to see so many friends listing and responding and giving advice which I needed the most. And I must thank you guys for giving me strength

Yes :new: so if you also came here are reading this first thing you should is join this forum and post. Share your thoughts your feeling anything.. And when you do so you will feel relaxed as if a load out of your mind is over.

Looking back 30 days I feel so proud of myself ... The feeling which I just cannot describe. I have been promise myself and others almost everyday "I promise I will not drink today" even swear on my kids ... But power of AL ! And here I was in Switzerland during my travels having non alcoholic beer (and not liking the taste of it).

30 days later I have no carving towards AL but yes lots of carving if sugar.

Here is my advice for new comers :
1. Don't tell yourself you are giving up alcohol. For me it's still a difficult thing to accept "I will never drink again" I still cannot digest it. But what I have realised is that during first few weeks it sounded absolutely far fetched and impossible as a tough but now I looks doable or rather "its not a big deal to stay sober."
2. Make sure you stuff your self with food. I used to drink alone most of time in evening. I use to have 8 to 10 favourite places all around my home town where I use to go along drinking. Now I have made a habit that in evening I stuff myself with food so much that amazingly carvings disappear. This will really help you new folks.
3. Post every day on MWO what ever you feel no matter how small just post it. And make it a habit to read the replies and also comfort others to what ever extent you can.
4. Watch you tube videos on how alcohol is bad for you. During past 30 days I read a lot and saw several documentaries on why alcohol is not good and what all it do to damage the brain, it was a strong re enforcement for me.
5. Treat yourself with sweets ice creams etc it working for me.
6. Exercise ... Although I am not doing much should do more but I feel more active and alive after words.

Remember I am just like you and probably much weaker than you. And if I can make it for 30 days then you can too ...

[treetops]

30 days:My e advice for new timers

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30 days is fantastic Rahul. It gets much easier with time and you have a good plan. Some of those You Tube clips are scary but real.

Heres to another 30 days - but don't think too far into the future as that can be too much.

:yougo:

[C-Developer]

30 days:My e advice for new timers

All very good points Rahul, and sincere congrats on 30 days

I have found my biggest challenges 15 days in are two fold

A) I have yet to figure out what it is I am supposed to do with my life now with all the extra time on my hands. Even with throwing myself into my job and rigorous exercise, I still have an abundance of free time that I am struggling thus far to find a way to fill. For the longest time, I did not have much in the way of hobbies other than drinking, so I am going to have to discover something that I am truly passionate about to sink my teeth into. I know that such an activity (or perhaps female) exists, I have just yet to discover it.

B) The "friends" situation. To be blunt, I do not really have any. I moved far from home when I took my new position and nearly all the associations I have made since coming to town have been directly linked to drinking in one way or another. Co-workers would be an obvious choice, but my company has a hard and fast rule about fraternization between superior and subordinates. As the (by far) youngest department head in my company, most of the folks in my age demographic are considered subordinates and I am not supposed to hang out with them socially.

Those are my two most significant hurdles that are giving me trouble, but in spite of this I am very positive and my outlook is better than it has been in years. I have a feeling that both of my above problems will slowly work themselves out over the course of time, but I am impatient just by nature.

[Suesue]

30 days:My e advice for new timers

I hear ya re eating sweet things. I'm eating loads of chocolate

[Unwasted]

30 days:My e advice for new timers

Big congrats on 30 days Rahul, and great advice. Thanks for posting.

[Rahulthesweet]

30 days:My e advice for new timers

C-Developer;1551224 wrote: All very good points Rahul, and sincere congrats on 30 days

B) The "friends" situation. To be blunt, I do not really have any.ilutlook is better than it has been in years. I have a feeling that both of my above problems will slowly work themselves out over the course of time, but I am impatient just by nature.

Hey cdeveloper we are all here as your friends keep sharing your thoughts.:thanks:

[Miley]

30 days:My e advice for new timers

I can totally relate to both of these situations. The friends issue not so much but the having time on my hands is an issue. I too drank during my free time to the point that I don't even know what I like to do in my spare tine. It is strange, yet wonderful, learning to live sober.

C-Developer;1551224 wrote: All very good points Rahul, and sincere congrats on 30 days

I have found my biggest challenges 15 days in are two fold

A) I have yet to figure out what it is I am supposed to do with my life now with all the extra time on my hands. Even with throwing myself into my job and rigorous exercise, I still have an abundance of free time that I am struggling thus far to find a way to fill. For the longest time, I did not have much in the way of hobbies other than drinking, so I am going to have to discover something that I am truly passionate about to sink my teeth into. I know that such an activity (or perhaps female) exists, I have just yet to discover it.

B) The "friends" situation. To be blunt, I do not really have any. I moved far from home when I took my new position and nearly all the associations I have made since coming to town have been directly linked to drinking in one way or another. Co-workers would be an obvious choice, but my company has a hard and fast rule about fraternization between superior and subordinates. As the (by far) youngest department head in my company, most of the folks in my age demographic are considered subordinates and I am not supposed to hang out with them socially.

Those are my two most significant hurdles that are giving me trouble, but in spite of this I am very positive and my outlook is better than it has been in years. I have a feeling that both of my above problems will slowly work themselves out over the course of time, but I am impatient just by nature.