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    #1

    Ahh, overtactive panicky mind!!

    Hey there,

    Today I have vowed to quit drinking for good. I am sick of the rollercoaster. My mind is soooo active and panicky right now. I have been drinking for 2 and half years everyday and I feel like such a damn failure. My self esteem has really taken a battering and I am consumed with guilt about being a bad mother to my two beautiful young boys. I then panick that I might get some illness from my drinking and then worry again about maybe not being here for my boys. The mental torment seems endless at times. Can someone offer some insight please.
    :thanks:
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    #2
    Ahh, overtactive panicky mind!!

    Hi Neney, and welcome. I think it's safe to safe that many of us here suffer from anxiety. It's a chicken and egg sort of thing. But I do know that drinking only makes the anxiety worse.

    How old are your sons? I have two sons too. They are young adults now, and the major reason I decided to get sober.I did a lot of damage early on with my boys, but you sound smarter than me. You are reaching out now. Good for you! So glad you are here. Make tomorrow your Day One!! We're here for you.
    Everything is going to be amazing

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      #3
      Ahh, overtactive panicky mind!!

      neney, welcome aboard! I drank every day for 25 years, so I understand what it's like to try and break the habit. Actually, it is more than that, it is breaking the cycle of addiction. I can tell you that the mind chatter is one of the worst parts at first. I call them 'The Voices'. They are just awful. Sometimes you have to tell your mind to shut the 'f' up! The only voice you must listen to is the one telling you to stay sober tonight no matter what. The rest of the voices need to just shut up! Stay focused, eat until you are full, stay hydrated, and go to bed early. Get thru this day AF ....that's all you have to do. Come join us in the Newbie's Nest, we have lots of folks in their first days and all stages of quitting. Also see the link to the tool box in my link below. If an old drunk like me can get sober, I know you can, too! Byrdie
      All you gotta do, is get thru this day. AF 1/20/2011
      Tool Box
      Newbie's Nest

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        #4
        Ahh, overtactive panicky mind!!

        Nice to have another Mum to talk to. My boys are 2 and 4. Right now I have just so many bad thoughts about myself that I really am struggling to be in my own mind with these thoughts. I have tears streaming down my face right now as I try and find forgiveness for myself and not think thoughts about having damaged by body etc. Thanks for your support

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          #5
          Ahh, overtactive panicky mind!!

          Hi Neney and welcome. Anxiety is closely tied to drinking. After I had a few months sober, my anxiety seemed to go away on its own. It's funny because I always thought that I had some minor anxiety and that was why I drank. Chicken/egg thing is right on. If you decide to hang with us, you'll find the TOOLS and SUPPORT you need to quit.
          "When you have faults, do not fear to abandon them." Analects of Confucius
          AF 11/12/11

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            #6
            Ahh, overtactive panicky mind!!

            Byrdlady;1552200 wrote: neney, welcome aboard! I drank every day for 25 years, so I understand what it's like to try and break the habit. Actually, it is more than that, it is breaking the cycle of addiction. I can tell you that the mind chatter is one of the worst parts at first. I call them 'The Voices'. They are just awful. Sometimes you have to tell your mind to shut the 'f' up! The only voice you must listen to is the one telling you to stay sober tonight no matter what. The rest of the voices need to just shut up! Stay focused, eat until you are full, stay hydrated, and go to bed early. Get thru this day AF ....that's all you have to do. Come join us in the Newbie's Nest, we have lots of folks in their first days and all stages of quitting. Also see the link to the tool box in my link below. If an old drunk like me can get sober, I know you can, too! Byrdie
            Thank you so much for your help, it is so encouraging to hear from others who share their stories. I will visit the newbies nest. Just about to take my little boy for a bike ride. Feel really upset right now, feeling like an absolute failure.

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              #7
              Ahh, overtactive panicky mind!!

              Phooey! Trust me, you can turn this thing around! All it takes is a couple of AF days and you'll feel right as rain!! I promise! We can help! Go enjoy your ride and we'll look for you over in the nest! Hugs to you, Byrdie
              All you gotta do, is get thru this day. AF 1/20/2011
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                #8
                Ahh, overtactive panicky mind!!

                MossRose;1552196 wrote: Hi Neney, and welcome. I think it's safe to safe that many of us here suffer from anxiety. It's a chicken and egg sort of thing. But I do know that drinking only makes the anxiety worse.

                How old are your sons? I have two sons too. They are young adults now, and the major reason I decided to get sober.I did a lot of damage early on with my boys, but you sound smarter than me. You are reaching out now. Good for you! So glad you are here. Make tomorrow your Day One!! We're here for you.
                Thanks MossRose, I posted a reply to you the wrong way so my answers are separate to your reply. My beautiful boys are 2 and 4. Thank you for sharing your life story with me and for caring.:thanks:

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                  #9
                  Ahh, overtactive panicky mind!!

                  neney - you are not a bad mum. If you were, you wouldn't give a second thought to what your drinking may be doing to your beautiful boys, right? So, you are alright. Everything is going to be ok. Take a minute and read what Byrdie wrote. She is one of the people I trust the most on this board. She's been there and come out the other side. Her advice is always golden.

                  I'm a newbie, but neney, trust me. Those bad thoughts you are having right now are due to alcohol. Get rid of the AF, and they go away. I promise. I know it's not easy. But so worth it. Joining MWO was a great decision. It saved my life. And I just know, it's going to be such a good thing for you. The people here are amazing. And don't worry, your sons love you to pieces.
                  Everything is going to be amazing

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                    #10
                    Ahh, overtactive panicky mind!!

                    MossRose;1552210 wrote: neney - you are not a bad mum. If you were, you wouldn't give a second thought to what your drinking may be doing to your beautiful boys, right? So, you are alright. Everything is going to be ok. Take a minute and read what Byrdie wrote. She is one of the people I trust the most on this board. She's been there and come out the other side. Her advice is always golden.

                    I'm a newbie, but neney, trust me. Those bad thoughts you are having right now are due to alcohol. Get rid of the AF, and they go away. I promise. I know it's not easy. But so worth it. Joining MWO was a great decision. It saved my life. And I just know, it's going to be such a good thing for you. The people here are amazing. And don't worry, your sons love you to pieces.
                    Thanks so much for your help so far, feels lovely to know there are others to talk to. I look forward to getting the strength I need from others. I am both excited and scared really. How are you going?

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                      #11
                      Ahh, overtactive panicky mind!!

                      Neney, I don't have much to add aside from what others here have already said. Just wanted to welcome you! As you probably know, there is a wealth of information on this site. The Toolbox is full of good stuff. And, of course, just reading everyone's stories is a big help.

                      Hope you can do this for yourself and your kids - they deserve a sober mom. And, like everyone says, you don't know it now, but your anxiety will go away if you don't drink.

                      Best to you,
                      UN:welcome:

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                        #12
                        Ahh, overtactive panicky mind!!

                        Neney-
                        Welcome! You are not a failure! Believe me, if THIS mom can get sober, then you can too! I had the worst anxiety when I was drinking. Notice I said HAD...it's gone now. The drinking is what caused it for me. I thought of every worst case scenario possible. Now I don't waste time thinking of "what if". Start fresh from this day, whatever you've done in the past can't be changed now...learn from it yes, but don't dwell on it. Your little boys don't need to ever know about this, they are young and you have plenty of time to be the mother you want to be. Don't wait as long as I did...my daughter was 12 when I decided I really had to change....for both of us!
                        Stick close, you can do this and we can help!
                        K9
                        :heart:I love my daughter more than alcohol:heart:

                        Believe in yourself. You are stronger than you think.

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                          #13
                          Ahh, overtactive panicky mind!!

                          neney - just wondering how it's going today. Is the anxiety any better? Thinking of you.
                          Everything is going to be amazing

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