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    #61
    Alcohol Free October

    I don't think you can force that switch, Gingerspice, but I found the more I posted here, trying to help others and myself, the more what I was typing (and agreed with intellectually), became a closely held belief - I never want to drink again and I do not envy those who do.

    I hope you stick with it - you really can change your brain.

    gingerspice;1565554 wrote: hi all Day 49 and hanging in there - thanks Dryer for the advice ,am continually squashing the urges like a Pumpkin !!. Hoping that the mindset will improve in the next little while . Family very supportive - ( husband does not drink to help me ) I cant Fathom why I am missing it still.
    Take care all ,onwards and upwards towards a new week x

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      #62
      Alcohol Free October

      I'm here day 6 for me .......
      :yougo:10/2/2013:yougo:


      The vision that you glorify in your mind, the ideal that you enthrone in your heart, this you will build your life by, and this you will become.

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        #63
        Alcohol Free October

        Dear Gingerspice (and others who are struggling)

        I found that by day 40 AF my thinking started to shift away from being deprived for not being able to drink like a normal person to realizing all the benefits. I still had moments when I thought, I'll get to 60 days and then I'll start to moderate. And then I really had to push through from days 60-75 to just stay with it -- I got on MWO out as much as I could and talked to my DH about the thoughts I was having.

        Around 11 weeks AF I noticed another shift. The benefits of being AF really started to become so much more important to me that the temporary "ease" I would feel by drinking that first or second glass of wine. All of this to say it will be a process, but I have noticed the thoughts diminshing with each consecutive AF I can rack up. Finally, thinking about why am I grateful that I no longer drink really has been helpful in shifting my thinking.

        Stay with this, you have come so far.
        Free at Last
        "What you seek is seeking you." -- Rumi

        Highly recommend this video
        http://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability.html

        July 19, 2013 -- the beginning of being Free at Last

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          #64
          Alcohol Free October

          Yes don't forget all the bad things and all the reason we choose to get on the AF path. I have been taught substitution is not a good thing. Substituting to get rid of an urge only prolongs the process. Learning that we did this for so long and we will have urges and they are normal helps to deal in the long run.

          Accept the urge as normal-it can't hurt you it is only a thought you choose to have or not have.

          Writing some short truths about what I want to train my mind has helped me. Example- I agree these uncomfortable thoughts I allow myself to have, shows my self image is changing and my body is healing.

          I write about 4 phrases 3 times each and then read it aloud.

          I comitted to writing 1 page, morning and evening everyday. My notebook is filling up and it is something to look at as a badge or reminder of my efforts and comittment.

          Writing is another way to confirm/change your beliefs.
          What you resist persits

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            #65
            Alcohol Free October

            Dryer, I really like your ideas about writing etc. Those are very cool, I may borrow them

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              #66
              Alcohol Free October

              Day 62 AF for me. Hope everyone's having a good sober October!

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                #67
                Alcohol Free October

                There are a lot of very wise and very cool people here - very inspiring to read these thoughts and comments....please keep posting , you don't know how much it helps others...
                Last drink 6th September 2013

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                  #68
                  Alcohol Free October

                  Hi October-sobers!

                  Would like to join the group! I am on my Day 2, had crazy Day1 (with anxiety, muscle stifness and shakes) and crazy night after with sweating, interrupted sleep etc. My Valium is finished but i didn't want to wait for a visit to the GP. I had 1 week binge which slowed down all my activities (i have to apply for a course, keep looking for jobs etc.). Sometimes i feel desparate that i'll be not able to really quit AL. My usuall chain is sober/binge/sober/binge...
                  Looking forward to beat up the Beast - AL!
                  The time for action is now. It's never too late to do something.
                  /Antoine de Saint-Exupery/

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                    #69
                    Alcohol Free October

                    hey skull it is like when we post/write it here, it helps seeing our words in print. Hope to help anyone.

                    This game is funny. I posted this morning and it made me feel real good, all day is going good and it was perfect weather outside, then I know my wife works tonight. So here comes the drinkers mind hitting hard with the "nice outside", "wife at work", "come on a buzz is so good".

                    Well I got home, told my wife about the urges, gotta atta boy from her and then I waited for her to leave. I got in the truck and drove down to one of my favorite dirt road drinkin spots. I knew I would pass 2 liquor stores and I even cranked up the music, I did not even eat. The whole time I just watched them thoughts, did not argue just watched, kind of amazed that they were so strong, maybe not strong but came from deep down. I pulled over and pulled out my bicycle and road that dirt trail for an hour.

                    I know I called it a game, but no mistake it is serious. I hit a new level today, I was all happy, feeling proud and my old ways thought they would take over.

                    My point is posting and MWO sober October friends put me at that new level and in position to simply accept that drinking thoughts are normal and it is my choice if I want to be clear headed, guilt free and happy-- and Sober in October.
                    What you resist persits

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                      #70
                      Alcohol Free October

                      Hi Octobers!

                      Day 3 for me. Had crazy cough all night. Before my binge i had flu and soar throat but it was getting better. Than i started to drink and probably my body was still in recovery. Now after binge is obvious.
                      My immune system is broken.
                      Yestarday i bought supplements, tried to eat veru healthy (which normally when i don't drink i do) , did short yoga session and even managed to go for a walk and shopping. First days of detox i really don't like crowds and talking to strangers, feeling very dizzy as well. I have hope to get better.
                      The time for action is now. It's never too late to do something.
                      /Antoine de Saint-Exupery/

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                        #71
                        Alcohol Free October

                        So for my 30th I went and bought a bag of chips and sat at a small park. First I see this woman walking with a plastic glass and she is hanging out with her dog. Then another guy walks up drinking out of a glass. They walk off together towards their house. This park is in the surrounded by houses. Then another couple comes out of thier house carrying glasses. They have a dog and a kid and they are just hanging out.

                        Come on, I know whats in them glasses. Right? 30 days ago I could of pulled out a pint and joined em. Unreal.
                        What you resist persits

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                          #72
                          Alcohol Free October

                          Hey Audrey, welcome. Hope today is better for you and each day should get progressively easier and better (even if there are bumps in the road...) keep going, my friend!

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                            #73
                            Alcohol Free October

                            Day 64 AF

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                              #74
                              Alcohol Free October

                              Hey all- as I get more and more into fitness, healthy diet, weightlifting, etc., I thought I'd post a Daily Checkin over in Focus On Fitness. If any of ya'all are so inclined, check it out or join me in it!

                              https://www.mywayout.org/community/f6...eck-81462.html

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                                #75
                                Alcohol Free October

                                hi all still hanging in there - day 53 today. find myself analysing my urges over wanting to drink . I just hold onto the thought that they will pass , and you have to ride with them , but not give in. The implications of drinking again , should by far be a good enough incentive to carry on . I must stop getting into the mindset of romanticising about the glass(es) of wine I might have ,and it being relaxing etc . It never ends that way , and I stand to lose by it far more than I will gain . Looking forward to a good AF weekend .Take care all x
                                P.S -thanks for all the good advice x
                                AF 10th June 2014

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