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[odat1234]

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Good morning guys im back. Spent all day yesterday trying to get govt assistance for me and the kids, that didnt work. I guess ill have to go it alone. Im getting out of here if i have tosesell everything i own! Anyway, im back, i want to be sober.

[Kailey]

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scottish lass;1580934 wrote: Good for you Kailey - I wish I knew how to post pictures here - I saw one that said failure only happens when you stop trying, never give up and you will never fail!

I really do feel like I am ready to go to giving up thought of being a social drinker, then the thought scome back again - so I am admitting to myself that I am not quite there yet, and that has made it easier on me - I am doing this for the now, and just hope the now keeps on going!

Thanks, SL! I'm getting closer and closer... sounds like it's the same for you. We'll get there! In the meantime it's back to day 1 for me.

ODAT, I'm sorry things are so difficult for you right now. I admire your determination and your drive to get sober at a time when others could use alcohol as a crutch. I'm rooting for you!

[Ishybit]

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Good morning Daisies,
Kailey, I find the small intimate, social get togethers are by far the hardest situations. They're hard because you do start to think, what's the harm, I'm just hanging out, everyone else is doing it, it looks so nice and innocent blah,blah,blah. But as soon as you start, you begin to obsess about the next drink and then f-it I'll pick some up on the way home, just one more, ah I'll just finish the bottle!

My advice to you is to stay away from those situations until you feel stronger. If you can't stay away, say no to the first drink or say you'll just start with water and before you know it, no body really cares or notices that you're not drinking. The first no is THE HARDEST! But it becomes easier and you'll become stronger.

ODAT, you have so many challenges coming at you. I'm sorry but you will feel so much better getting through it without al. You'll be so proud of yourself and stronger every step you take. You can!!

SL, I'm with you, I have ahard time keeping up with the busy threads but I do read them and of course I get so much from them.
I gotta get going. I'll check back later.
Thanks for being here daisies.
Ishy

[Starfish1]

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Hi Ladies,

I am checking in on you and am so happy you are all sounding so well. I had a setback and drank a little bit last night...so today is also day one for me.

One reason I have been AWOL is that I am having some real trouble with one of my adult daughters (who lives with me). She has some pretty bad emotional problems, but is refusing medical help. She needs medication and maybe even hospitalization. I am trying to coax her into agreeing to get help, but she refuses. She suffers from paranoia and obsessive compulsive disorder, self neglect and depression, among other things. She is the sweetest, gentlest, smartest, funniest person ever, but she is in a bad place right now. She also is totally against ALL medication and does not trust the medical profession. She has no health insurance.

As a last resort, we may have to have her forcefully committed to the hospital. I am so against this, but it may have to be done. My fear in doing this is that she will be released (probably too soon, since she has no insurance) and then will not follow up with treatment and end up hating me (worse) for committing her.

It's a lot to have to deal with, and it causes me much pain, but I know I have to be sober to deal with this.

I have been so upset that I have not been reading or posting...I know that is the wrong thing to do, but I feel even more overwhelmed when I try to process all that is going on here (on top of the problems at home). I know we ALL have problems to work through (ODAT :l, thinking of you too)...it's just part of life. I am just a very private person and don't usually share mine with anyone, but I thought I owed it to y'all to let you know what's going on.

I will check in as I can. Keep up the good work everyone :l

:h Star

[K9Lover]

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Hi Daisies!

Ok everyone...get up, dust off and start over! There's no shame in starting Day 1 again. You never fail as long as you keep trying.

Star - Sorry you're having such a difficult time with your daughter. I know what you're going through. My daughter is having issues too and we are s-l-o-w-l-y working through them. I'm thinking of you :l

Stick close everyone, we can do this together!

[Queenbug]

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Hey daisies...one and all!!!!......another very quick one cos I'm back at work and doing crazy hours!!! But am thinking of you all....so sorry some of you are struggling....but k9 is right....Coming back to Day 1 shows determination not failure....stay close...we can do this.....:h

[Queenbug]

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Star....sorry too to hear about your daughter...thinking of you x

[SoberSoul]

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Starfish1;1581131 wrote: Hi Ladies,

I am checking in on you and am so happy you are all sounding so well. I had a setback and drank a little bit last night...so today is also day one for me.

One reason I have been AWOL is that I am having some real trouble with one of my adult daughters (who lives with me). She has some pretty bad emotional problems, but is refusing medical help. She needs medication and maybe even hospitalization. I am trying to coax her into agreeing to get help, but she refuses. She suffers from paranoia and obsessive compulsive disorder, self neglect and depression, among other things. She is the sweetest, gentlest, smartest, funniest person ever, but she is in a bad place right now. She also is totally against ALL medication and does not trust the medical profession. She has no health insurance.

As a last resort, we may have to have her forcefully committed to the hospital. I am so against this, but it may have to be done. My fear in doing this is that she will be released (probably too soon, since she has no insurance) and then will not follow up with treatment and end up hating me (worse) for committing her.

It's a lot to have to deal with, and it causes me much pain, but I know I have to be sober to deal with this.

I have been so upset that I have not been reading or posting...I know that is the wrong thing to do, but I feel even more overwhelmed when I try to process all that is going on here (on top of the problems at home). I know we ALL have problems to work through (ODAT :l, thinking of you too)...it's just part of life. I am just a very private person and don't usually share mine with anyone, but I thought I owed it to y'all to let you know what's going on.

I will check in as I can. Keep up the good work everyone :l

:h Star

Hey Star, I sure can relate to what you are going through. I've been totally there and when we had to commit my daughter, she hated me for a while but DID improve and in the long run is grateful I cared enough to do it. I visited her every day so she soon got over the feelings of abandonment my action created initially (her being adopted made it worse)

Thanks for being brave enough to share. We are all anonymous and even still, truly care about what's going on within the group.

Hugs and strength go out to you in your time of decision making. xxx

[SoberSoul]

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We all seem to be having trouble staying away from temptation. I've been abstinent since my last drink on Saturday night. I am toying with the idea of tapering off over the course of a few months. I know this is against what everyone suggests but I've tried the cold turkey routine so many times. I may start a new thread in "moderation" section to explain my little Taper Caper.... don't think I've abandoned you; I'll be checking in here too.

Hey Daisy, if you screwed up, come join us anyway. We're all in the same boat... except a few who are doing what needs to be done to stay sober...

[acadiaofmaine]

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HI Everyone,

I'm sorry some of us are struggling right now. Stay close and let's help each other! I have made it to Day 8 today, but there have been many almosts...the screw-it attitude nearly overwhelms me. I am trying to tell myself I can get through 30 days, which actually coincides with the day my son comes home from college for Thanksgiving! I miss him terribly, and want to be sober and feeling good when he's here.

One thing to do is to think about the positives of being AF. More energy, more pride (or at least less self-hate, guilt and loathing), more money in the pocket, being more present with people. I have to say that obsessing about NOT drinking is getting in my way of being present right now, but I think it's better than obsessing about that next drink, having it, and starting the spiral downwards. Sleeping better. Getting some exercise. Brushing my teeth!

None of these things are perfect for me right now, far from it, but the alternative is not pretty. So onward. Keep at it, daisies!!

Ann

[scottish lass]

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Hi everyone - home from work and about to start the home whirlwind - so having a check in.
Star - so sorry to hear about your daughter - it sounds as if you have good support here with SS (It never ceases to amaze me how easy it is to find soemone here who has gone thru what one is facing). I have a little worry with my oldest (14 at the time, 15 now) who admitted almost a year ago to being suicidal and was self harming - that was a shock, I did get her some therapy and she seems better than she was, but I am treading on glass it feels - nothing like you are facing, but I know how my situation made me feel so I have a little empathy as to how you must feel with everything....
SS - I do hope your plan works for you. There are those who don't support the way I am finding my way out - but this is the name of this site, so go for it and hopefully you do find the fit for you and find your way out!
Hi Kailey, Ann, Ishy, K9 and Queen - glad to see people checking in..Hey Ann, brushing your teeth huh! I even put night cream on last night. My daughter told me I smelt nice, probably better than wine kisses you think:H:H
Day 9 today - double digits tomorrow - thanks to each and everyone of you for helping get me to this point - love the daisies (wish Daisy would join in thou....)

[Ishybit]

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Wow starfish and ss,
That's a lot to deal with. I wish the best for you and your daughter. Stay strong and safe. We're here to dump on without judgement.

I hope everyone made it through another day.
Good night.
Ishy

[Kailey]

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Good morning. Just a quick check in before heading to work. I hope everyone is doing well and staying on track. I am really finding that I love everything about my life so much more when I am sober. It starts in the morning waking up from a great night's sleep, and ends when I get in bed at night so proud and happy with myself. I'm excited to have such a great chapter in my life unfolding.

Sober birthdays, sober holidays, sober get-togethers with friends, bring them on! All of the things I was so afraid I wouldn't enjoy sober ... somehow I have gotten to the point that now more than anything I want to experience them with a clear head. I am so grateful to have the opportunity to turn my life around and for this site that is helping me do it!

[Starfish1]

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Thank you all so much for the kind words and support. My home computer is down right now and I was not able to check in last night, sorry!

My husband found more evidence last night that my daughter continues the same disturbing behavior. She is really out of touch with reality. We think we are at the end of a very long road with her and have no other option than to pursue having her hospitalized.

My husband is leaving town today, so we will wait until next week to file the papers. We then will be given a court date and the courts will decide her fate.

This is absolute hell, everyone. I pray for an alternative (that she agrees to voluntarily put herself in treatment), but that is unlikely.

Stay strong everyone, and thanks again for your support.

P.S. I am really not checking any other threads right now. I am just too overwhelmed. I am just trying to hang in.

[K9Lover]

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Hi Daisies!

Star :l Stay strong my friend. You will get through this, and it will be so much better because you are sober. I know it's tempting to drown it all out, but the problems will still be there. Keep a positive attitude. I am sending strength your way.

SL - My daughter was self-harming too. It's led to therapy and medication, but she seems to be doing better. We take it slow and I never question the validity of her concerns. She has some other mental issues that are hard to grasp. But it's like being an alcoholic, you can't identify unless you've been there. So I just listen and support her as best I can.

SS - You know I will back you up in any attempt you are making to get sober. Sometimes I get so emotional when I care about people. I just don't want you to drag this out, or make it harder on yourself. If tapering works for you, then I will support you. Just stick close ok? Good or bad, we want to know how you are.

Hang in there everyone...take it one day, minute or second at a time...it DOES get easier, I promise!

p.s. Hi Kailey! I didn't mean to just skip over you! You know how some people seem to be able to name EVERY SINGLE PERSON on a thread??? Well I found out they cheat and have 2 screens. HA I am not that tech saavy so I do the best I can. Hang in there girl, you are doing great!!!