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[Eloise]

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Wow, this is an intense thread. I have the same problems with alcohol, but somehow managed to keep myself under raps by limiting my social circles & living a rather isolated life. Not fun. This thread offers a lot of important insights, thanks everyone for your honesty.

[acadiaofmaine]

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Hi Eloise, Daisies,

Welcome! Please chime in.

Funny, I don't think of this as an intense thread. Maybe some of us have been trying this for long enough that we cut to the chase? I don't know. Looking forward to your thoughts and would love to hear your story!

I wonder if I am dominating this thread today. Am I? That's not my intention, I guess I am just really eager to connect. And to make some progress.

Ann

[odat1234]

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Well im back, i hit a bad bottom friday night. Today is day 3. My local aa is having a beginner meeting at 8 pm. I want to go so bad. I need some friends and some support. I'm so happy to see everyone doing so well.

[Starfish1]

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Gee, Ann. I was afraid I was the dominant one. No worries there. And I don't feel we are intense here either. Earnest maybe?d
But welcome 4 and everyone else. I am so sick and tired of this disease, I think the more brains we have working to conquer it, the better!
Ann, I think the reason we can't stop the next day after we drink Is that we are under the power of a great addiction. We just have no control

[Starfish1]

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Sorry I didn't mention. You Eloise!
Hi odat and welcome.
I am trying to use my phone to catch up and it isn't working too well. Sorry

[Starfish1]

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And Huge Congrats on Day 3, ODAT. That is AWESOME! Keep up the great work!

[NoSugar]

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Thanks for the warm greetings .

I don't think your thread is intense in a bad way but more than many of them, you stay fairly close to the topic we all joined for. It is a bit like the Newbies Nest in that respect - but more manageable!

Glad you came back 4theKids. I remember when you accomplished those 40 days. You can get that back and more. I am still not eating sugar (or tons of sugary carbs) but that preceded getting off AL by more than a year. I do think it helped me with AL because I was not constantly reactivating that part of my brain with sugar instead of AL --- the whole thing calmed down and I didn't physically crave either. I used L-glutamine to help stop eating sugar and it helped some for AL, also.

I don't crave sugar mentally at all but sometimes the wayward thought of wanting/needing AL comes in. After the first few weeks, I really do think it is more of a mental thing. But - just like you've been talking about today - one drink gets the physical part going again and then the battle rages on. Available described it in the NN today really well, I thought: "You get the taste and it takes you back again."

I also think you guys know what to do already. Here are some things I saw posted just today:

we can't say yes today and no tomorrow, or "ho-hum" all the time!
Better to just not mess with it at all.
we are under the power of a great addiction. We just have no control.

It is not a moral failing to not be able to control an addictive substance by force of will. And its not a sign of weakness to admit there is something that seems to be beyond your control. That happens with a lot of things in life but the great thing with AL is, it is your choice to stop it from controlling you. You actually do have the power - AL only has the power you give it. Don't drink it and you win.

It's hard to quit but it isn't all that hard for very long and it is so much easier than fighting the same fight over and over and over. You guys could have the Happiest New Year EVER!

[scottish lass]

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Hi all - lots of activity here - I am HALT, so just checking in to stay on path - just got back from a very unsatisfying meeting at lawyer over divorce - ex is doing bugger all, and he is the one with all the girlfriends! I just want it over and to move on - missed lunch trying to get away from work to make it to lawyer...
Not going to drink, but OMG really want a big glass!
Will read back later

[acadiaofmaine]

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I'm so sorry SL. Anything we can do? Please eat and do something nice for yourself. That all sounds awful, so unfair. We're with you!

Ann

[4thekids]

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Hi Daisies and N.S.: I am a mother of 4 small children. I have always liked to drink but over the past 6 years or so it seems to have gotten the better of me. Complicating matters is the fact that I am more of a binge drinker than an every day drinker. I can take 4 days off and then decide oh, well, I have earned a drink or 10. Absolutely ridiculous and so punishing to myself. While my two oldest boys 7 yr twins) may notice me behaving silly every once in awhile... I am still at the point where my children don't know about my struggle. I just want to be free (well as free as one can be) of this burden before they really begin to comprehend.

I am hopeful that the motivation of the daisies will get my on the right path. NS, it is so great seeing you here. You are an inspiration and it definitely makes returning feel far more comfortable with some familiar faces

I would love to hear some other stories. Having a network really does make all the difference.

[Gardener]

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Hi Daisy's, I've been here before and this is my day 1 (again) too 4thekids. I hope you remember me nosugar, I still enjoy reading your posts and l just love this thread.

I quit for over 30 days in July and have been on/off since then on the hamster wheel. A little about me, I am in my late 50's, married, one grown daughter and 2 grandsons. High functioning I suppose but I find myself socialising less and less.

I'm so tired of fighting this. It really hits home for me reading all of your posts and I am ready to try again. I haven't had a 30 day quit in 20+ years, so I know this support group works, at least it did for me.

After my failed attempt to quit in July I was too embarrassed to come back here. So, here I am, ready to be more open, follow advice and apply myself to my sobriety. I cannot drink anymore.

Looking forward to joining in with you all, at least I love flowers (veggies too).

[NoSugar]

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Welcome back, Gardener!

Along with Jenniech and LostSoul33, you are one of the "missing" people I look for in the list of members who visit the site. I've been sorry not to see you in quite awhile and am so glad you decided to come back :l. Remember that thread of women in their 50s who (used to) like to drink wine and garden? There are many of us at MWO!

[Dottie Belle]

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"Remember that thread of women in their 50s who (used to) like to drink wine and garden? There are many of us at MWO!"
Is there really a thread like that??? I sure would be interested in that.

[NoSugar]

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I don't remember it's name, DB. But about 6 posts in a row were by women with those interests. After this past summer, I'm not wild about wine OR gardening!!!

[acadiaofmaine]

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Hi Gardener,

welcome back! I am also in my fifties with 2 almost grown kids. Glad to meet you! I have been here off and on for a long time. I, too, am tired of fighting this. This is a good group so stick around. We all try to come back here even when we fall off the wagon. No judgment, only support here.

Ann