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[Myluck]

Hi, I posted before because I quit so I can support my husband - he got pacreatatis because of drinking and ordered to quit by doctors. It is very painful disease and if he will drink or eat fatty foods he will end up In the hospital again . So those doctors in the hospital gave him prescription for percoset and lorazepam before they discharged him, lorazepsm mostly for " take an edge off'" as they thought he was going through withdrawl. So now he is on day 11 AF and I have asked him to Lay off lorazepam because had really don't need it and it makes him loopy. He promised. I came home from work the other day and he was looking like he took some (I can see). He denied it. So next day I was going to work and I said that I wil take pills with me so he us not tempted - he threw a fit that I don't trust him, so I ended up leaving it to him. So this morning I counted and there were 22 and 2 1/2 in the bottle, when I came home he was looking sleepy and complained of no energy levels. He fell asleep and I counted - guess how many left??? 17 and 1/2. Ok then!!! I am not sure what to do. I asked him what he took and he said pain killers only. I hate lies. Very frustrated.

[MossRose]

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Oh My Luck - wish I had sage words of advice, but I don't. Just know I am here and can understand your frustration. All addicts lie. It's part of our make-up. Damn, it's so sad, but true.

Does your husband understand how serious pancreatitis is? I mentioned my brother in my earlier posts, but I didn't tell you the entire truth. His bouts landed him in a coma. He almost didn't make it. I hate when I have to say these things, but I want you to be aware the danger, so you can communicate it to your husband. It sounds like he is in deep denial and therefore in danger. Hang in there and good luck to you. He is very lucky to have you.

[Myluck]

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Thank you MossRose, my husband is 11 days AF just seems he ends to intoxicate himself with something like up he can't stand to face life sober!!!! Omg!

[j-vo]

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MyLuck,
That's a tough situation. If the doc knew he had difficulties with AL, why would he prescribe him so many lorazepam pills? Sometimes I think these docs don't look at the whole picture of the patient. That's their job!

[MossRose]

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My Luck - I am here for you. But, what I am going say next isn't pleasant. I want to preface this with something "nice", but that isn't possible, so I'm just going to say it straight up - you can't save someone else. Only yourself. I know how harsh that sounds and I really am sorry. But it's true and I need to speak the truth. I didn't stop abusing myself until I said "enough is enough." The love of my sons, my parents, and my friends just didn't matter until I was ready. I just don't want you to pull your hair out wondering what you could have done differently. Does any of this make sense? I know how difficult and awful this sounds, but your husband needs to get on board. Is there a way you can convince him to do that? xx. Always here for you.

[Myluck]

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J-vo - I was wondering that myself - they gave him 50 of them when he left the hospital, I'd this incompetence or what???

[Myluck]

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Ok I just asked about missing pills and asked to return them to the bottle. He did bring them down (almost all that we're missing) and ended up flushing all of them (all - the entire bottle) down the toilet. I tried to start conversation about staying sober and he was not wiling to talk - had just asked to back off - because I set an appointment with dietitian and with GI doctor - like I don't mean well . So I said I will back off.

[little beagle]

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My luck I have gone through crack addiction with my hubby. It's crazy. He finally started taking ab to stop drinking and he has stopped smoking the crack. For now. All I can say is, it sounds like you had a small victory tonight. I use to just live for those small victories. But I did not give up. He wanted to live a better life. It's really just one day at a time. You can pm me if you need to talk.
I feel for you.

[j-vo]

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My luck, it doesn't seem right to me. I've changed docs over the years because of incompetence and not paying close attention to important details that may affect their patients. If you can, check on that.