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Istym - nah, I just jump on everyone else's threads! :H
Sealover, let me tell you a little story. 6 years ago my dad was at work and his buddy that he'd worked with for 27 years got crushed by a piece of machinery. Dad saw it happen and had horrendous guilt that he couldn't save him. There was absolutely nothing that anyone could have done, it was an accident. My dad isn't a drinker but he sank into a deep depression, wouldn't talk about it and eventually made an attempt to take his own life. He texted my sister asking her to make sure our mum would be ok, she realised what he was up to (taken an overdose) and she called an ambulance. By some freak chance the same crew who had attended the work accident came for my dad and they were able to talk to him and reassure him that no-one could have done anything. It was a huge help in his recovery and he's now very well again. It didn't happen overnight and he'll always be sad - but it's not as sharp a pain any more. If he talks about it now (not often) I think it all seems like a bad dream to him because he just can't believe he ever felt that bad.
My daughter was only a few weeks old at the time and although I felt very sad for my dad that he felt so awful, I also felt mighty pissed off that he would do that (sure it was karma as I had attempted suicide at 21, it was an eye opener to have the shoe on the other foot when my dad did it and I realised how much I'd upset my family).
What I'm saying is, people care - look how many responses you've had from us here! There must be people in your life who care too. We (and them) can only carry you so far though - you have to want this yourself. You're in a hole now but you have to grab the hands offering to help you up. That might not be here necessarily in the long run but you have to start somewhere right?
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Sea Lover, we are here for you. Just try to drink some water and eat something soothing like an egg and toast. Just for today; don't worry about forever. Just spend five minutes tidying up your immediate area and then rest and sip some water. Do this once in a while throughout the day and you'll find yourself feeling a bit better. Stay close to the forums.
You Father-In-Law would want you to get better... xxx"If you do not change direction, you may end up where you are heading."
Lao-Tzu
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Hi Sealover and welcome! :welcome:
This is a wonderful place for you to heal yourself, inside and out. You have the whole world here to help you and be by you n your journey, because honestly, we are all in the same boat... No pun intended.
Ice tea, lemon water, an open window, lots of Netflix and ice cream work really well at the start. Also, read and read here . Tell your children you just need some alone time if they're old enough to be by themselves.
Are you working right now if I may ask. ?
And forgive me I was a bit confused, your fathe in law passed or your dad ? Can you reach out to your husband?
I'm just trying to think of some face to face people you can call on in the now.
If not stay close and we will keep checking on you. :lOn My Own Way Out Since May 20, 2012
*If you think poorly of yourself, you can fail with a clear conscience.
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What a special relationship you must have had, honey. My FIL was not a very nice man and almost imposiible to get to know.
How great you got one who was so important and wonderful in your life.:hOn My Own Way Out Since May 20, 2012
*If you think poorly of yourself, you can fail with a clear conscience.
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https://www.mywayout.org/community/f19/newbies-nest-30074.html newbie nest
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Hang in there friend.
Here's some light reading you will likely find useful. https://www.mywayout.org/community/f1...box-27556.html
G bloke.
'I am part of all that I have met, yet all experience is an arch wherethro', gleams that untravelled world whose margins fade, forever and forever when I move'
Zen soul Warrior. Freedom today-
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Sealover - please check in and let us know you are okay. Thinking of you. xx
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