Hello everyone, this place seems great! I have been spending some time here reading thru the forums. I decided to join because I know I have a problem w/ drinking and smoking pot or anything that is addictive. The hard part for me is that I co own a small business, raise 2 young boys, coach multiple sport teams for them, don't miss work, and am very involved in my family. My wife and I don't get along, haven't for many years, honestly can't say that that is due to my drinking habits or just a bad marriage. But for the past few years I drink at least a pint of vodka a day, usually a bit more, and once every few months I like to get some pot, when I have it I am high constantly. Previous to these 2 years I have always drank on a daily basis since I was 20. (20 years) If I say I won't drink or smoke today, I will find a reason. No health related problems that I know of. Been reading plenty about the high functioning alcoholic, that is most definitely me. So, I am here to seriously figure this out, I really don't see anyway of doing the mod thing, but have been limiting myself to 4-5 beers a day for the last 4 days, and do not have any pot, and am not looking for any. Sorry for the book, just wanted to introduce myself, look forward to contributing anyway I can, and joining this great community in getting better.
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Welcome Silkymd, you have found a wonderful place. Come on over to the newbies nest and join the conversation. Lots of wonderful and supportive folks. Also check out the took box for more great support ideas. Making a plan is the best place to start.
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Hi SMD, welcome. Good thing you admit you have a problem, this is very important. Have you tried to quit before? Do you have any withdrawals?AF since 10/20/2013
Smoke free since 09/24/2007
Meat free since 09/20/2008
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This is a great place. Glad you found it! I don't post much but I do come here daily, read, and learn. There are wonderful folks here. Really helps knowing you're not alone in your struggles.Comment
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Welcome, Silky-
I was a "functioning" alcoholic, too, but I have a feeling I was getting close to not being functional. And functional was relative if you count the number of mornings I felt regret, sick, blech. Not really functional. I am on Day 17 sober.
Click the links in Dottie's signature line - there is a lot of information and support here. You've found a great place if you use it well.Comment
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Thanks for the welcome! Myluck, yes I have tried to quit, always found a reason not to. My withdrawls have been minimal, anxiety, no appetite, no sleep, but nothing like I hear/read. But I have never really gone more than a day in the past year with out a bottle. Until this week, and I have had a few beers each night. But no vodka or hard stuff since Saturday.
Pavati, congrats on your 17 days! I relate 100% to being close to not being functional, the regret, hangovers, blackouts, etc... Hiding bottles all over house.Comment
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Why don't you consider The Sinclair Method! TSM. ?Comment
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Summerglow, I have never heard of that, just looked it up. Sounds like it could work, but I feel very uncomfortable going to my family doctor with any of this. My plan eventually has to be to quite 100%, just need to get there somehow w/ all the rationalization going on in my head. Thank you though for the suggestion.Comment
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Welcome Silky
I too am a highly functioning alcholic. Managed to drink close to a fifth of vodka a day, more some days and hold down a good job. Also drank in secret which is why I drank vodka as opposed to scotch. I just got to the point where I couldnt do it anymore. Evenually it will catch you. You are a traffic stop, random drug test, drunken rage away from it all crashing down. Health wise I did fine for years but that too started to creep towards a bad end. Long story short I dont believe in the term highly functioning alcoholic I just think we are/were lucky and that in time we will crash.
This place has been a Godsend. I wouldnt be on day 143 if I didnt have these folks to lean on. Read, participate, get involved and most importantly stay sober.Happiness is neither virtue nor pleasure nor this thing nor that but simply growth, We are happy when we are growing.
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Welcome Silky,
Most of us have been where you are right now. I am starting on day 1 again. You can do this, It's a mindset.Comment
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TJAF, I thought prior to spending much time on this site that it would be a bunch of different situations, stories, etc... The more I read, the more we are all pretty similar. What you stated is exactly why I know I need to quit. Been too close too many times, lucked out, and should be thankful and get straight before I lose my stake in the business, my family, etc... I was a bourbon drinker, but for the same "secret drinking" reasons I chose vodka. Thanks for your comment, and well done on the 143.
Mr Verlill, glad you are starting over, good luck my friend.Comment
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Hi,
I don't know if you've already been there but the Newbies Nest is a great place to hang out at the beginning - there are people at all stages of trying to get and stay off alcohol. The link is given below with one to the Toolbox, which is full of great ideas.
You sound really determined to get this done. You've come to a great place to get the support we all seem to need.
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Silky. I wish you well. It is possible and you are in the right place to make it happen! BTW we live in the same part of the world so here's hoping you enjoy your Christmas oysters without a chaser.Silkymd;1600893 wrote: TJAF, I thought prior to spending much time on this site that it would be a bunch of different situations, stories, etc... The more I read, the more we are all pretty similar. What you stated is exactly why I know I need to quit. Been too close too many times, lucked out, and should be thankful and get straight before I lose my stake in the business, my family, etc... I was a bourbon drinker, but for the same "secret drinking" reasons I chose vodka. Thanks for your comment, and well done on the 143.
Mr Verlill, glad you are starting over, good luck my friend.Happiness is neither virtue nor pleasure nor this thing nor that but simply growth, We are happy when we are growing.
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hi.and.welcome. i.have.recently.started naltrexone (tsm) and buy it online. im finding it cuts my.drinking down and intend sticking.with it to at least give it a.chance. if you.are interested in it ukblonde has great thread on it. lots of info and her progress. she is now af after.quite a.while moderating with tsm so.she is a.success story. wishing you.strength whichever path you.takeSilkymd;1600845 wrote: Summerglow, I have never heard of that, just looked it up. Sounds like it could work, but I feel very uncomfortable going to my family doctor with any of this. My plan eventually has to be to quite 100%, just need to get there somehow w/ all the rationalization going on in my head. Thank you though for the suggestion.Today is the tomorrow i worried about yesterday and it turned out fine
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Hi all, I am on my third week and now on 50mg's. I'm half hearted, but something is happening. For a start, I'm drinking much slower, and not getting a buzz. I still get the relaxing bit, which is good for me.
My fingers crossed for extinction! But, at the moment I'm still drinking daily.....that's the habit I have to break...but I'm sure it will happen.
I also look on The Sinclair Method page on Facebook.Comment
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