Around the World and Back Again by Unwasted

[allswell]

Around the World and Back Again by Unwasted

Hello Sweet UN!

Too many pages to read back right now but you are a very popular person! Just wanted to add my hello, things are good here in my world, hope everything is in yours too!

Alls

[Unwasted]

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Alls, :l:l How in the world have you been? I missed the election and marathon results if you care to enlighten me. Hope you're doing well!!

UN :lilheart:
p.s. I was blown away by my welcome back. This place is amazing - I feel lucky to be here. By the way, has anyone heard from My Life????

[Guitarista]

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Unwasted;1605191 wrote: Alls, :l:l How in the world have you been? I missed the election and marathon results if you care to enlighten me. Hope you're doing well!!

UN :lilheart:
p.s. I was blown away by my welcome back. This place is amazing - I feel lucky to be here. By the way, has anyone heard from My Life????

UN, she kicked ass in both.

Not sure if My life is around or not.

Have a good one.

[DipGal]

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Unwasted;1604718 wrote:

Maybe you could do a life coach or something along that line to get you started???

Best to you.

Hi UN - I do sorta have a life coach.. She has become a long distance friend and we got away from the life coaching and more into spiritual and personal conversations.. I was helping her with online marketing as payment for her sessions. We used to meet on Skype weekly and now it's more like every 90 days. Her education and our sessions included modalities such as Past Life Regression and Hypnotherapy. I don't feel like it worked for me. I should ask her if we could go back to the basic life coaching. Although being "friends" versus just a client/provider relationship may be a problem. I will share my plan with her and see what she thinks.. thanks for reminding me!

Part of my problem with getting healthy in general is follow-through. I know EFT could be helpful if I used it. So many things would work if I DID it. I'm feeling optimistic that 2014 will be my year of follow through!

Thanks for your welcome!

[Unwasted]

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Mr. G., thanks for that info! I'm so impressed............wow, just look at what people can accomplish without the weight of AL.

DG, you're sure sounding positive and like you've checked out some avenues that can help you along the way. Really hoping you can do a 30-day stint and go from there. For me it's been a building process for sure. Just hoping that I've put the last brick in the wall.

[Overit44]

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Unwasted-I'm back again too. Good to see you!

[Pinecone]

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Hi friends,

UN, the mindfulness and meditation have been helping me along greatly as well. I started in August with the idea of doing it for 30 days and then maybe posting the results of my "experiment." After about a couple of weeks, I stopped keeping notes on it because I knew it was really working (I am a slacker), but I have kept with it. After a period of time, the practice seems to gain momentum in my life and becomes something that I can tap into even when not meditating. I have become much better at dealing with stress in most all situations, something that I think is especially critical for an alcoholic. I always told myself I was drinking to take the edge off, never mind how the edge got there in the first place.

[Unwasted]

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Pinecone;1605306 wrote: After a period of time, the practice seems to gain momentum in my life and becomes something that I can tap into even when not meditating.

Pinecone, I think this is one of the big points of meditating - it's not just what happens "on the cushion"; rather that the strength of mind we build from practicing transfers into real life situations and gives us the strength to overcome obstacles there. Thanks for posting this because it's a huge part of why I'm choosing "the path." So happy to hear that it's helping you.

OverIt, really happy to see you - I hope we can bolster each other in these early days and be successful in accruing some big chunks of time. Thanks for stopping by, and I'll watch for you on the boards.

Hugs,
UN :lilheart:

[j-vo]

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Pinecone and Unwasted,
I see you're talking about the meditation. Does this include the deep breathing or is that something else. Another demon of mine, social anxiety (hmmm, I have plenty to choose from but need to work on this one) is something that has created so much havoc in my life, and at a few points, I experienced severe depression from it. It was really severe (the anxiety) in my late 20s. Then I used alcohol to nip that nicely in the bud. Well, sort of. Not really a good tool for social anxiety as it made me more vulnerable than I already was. Anyhow, I'm looking for something to quiet my mind. There's too much chatter up there, Sometimes I feel as though I'm trying to do too much at one time, but I'm looking to find a balance in my life, and I know that this needs to be a part of it. So, the book you were discussing, is that a good book to introduce myself to meditation? I also need to learn how to be nicer to myself, gentler, because I've been very unforgiving of myself. Thanks for your thoughts.

[Unwasted]

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J-vo. I am taking beginning meditation classes beginning early January. The Four Foundations of Mindfulness by Bhante Gunaratana was recommended reading for the course, so it comes from people with many years of experience and is highly regarded. I'm finding that it's helping me (I'm reading it ahead of time so I'll know what the classes are based on). From what you're describing, I think it would be beneficial for you too. It has given me a different perspective on how to think of life/being alive and really, what it means to be human.

Another one I recommend is called Being With Dying. Buddhists prepare themselves for the inevitable early on and throughout their lives. Western culture (at least ours) views that as morbid. If you read the book, you won't think that way anymore. It has given me a more accepting and peaceful view of death. I think the fear of dying underlies much of our neurosis.

I know all that sounds heavy but reading these books has opened the door to a much more accepting and profoundly peaceful mindset (in a very short period of time) for me.

Here's a link on Amazon if you have an interest:

Amazon.com: Being with Dying: Cultivating Compassion and Fearlessness in the Presence of Death eBook: Joan Halifax, Ira, MD Byock: Books

xx,
UN

[j-vo]

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Thanks Unwasted. I will add those to my list! I've done CBT before for my anxiety. I spent quite a lot of money on the program and it really worked well for me...when I was using it. It creates new pathways in the brain by reprogramming the automatic negative thoughts (ANTS) to positive thoughts. It incorporates the breathing and visualizing as well. I'd love to hear how your class goes. I think that's a bit further down the road for me, but something I'd like to read eventually.

[Mr Vervill]

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Welcome back, UN
I was just starting out when you were moving. (loved the photos of the cabin, btw), I always loved your straight-forward, no BS posts. It will be good to read them again. I look forward to hearing more from you.

[K9Lover]

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I missed you a lot UNWANTED

[Unwasted]

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Hey Mr. V. - long time no see!! Well, I'm not sure I have a lot to say........my value comes probably as being an example of what NOT to do. I kid (sorta), but really, other than trying to figure out why I think I want sobriety and that I'm done with alcohol only to cave is perplexing to me and something I have to figure out. We'll see how I do this time! Hope you are well.

J-Vo. Best of luck with the CBT - whatever works, right?! Oh, and yes, the meditation is simple, really, and just focuses on breathing and always going back to concentrating on the breath after the mind wanders (which it will). You just sort of recognize the thought, let it pass through, and then focus back on the in and out of your breathing.

Thanks K-9. You look adorable with your new do!!

Not much new in my world - staying in tonight and avoiding any temptation!! Hope everyone has a safe and sober evening.

[j-vo]

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Thanks Un!