2014 starts today

[sparkles143]

2014 starts today

Maybe if on Wednesday night when the kids are at their dads and my house is too quiet I should leave the house instead of use it as an excuse to drink a bottle of wine. I am making a sincere effort to not drink in front of my kids but I know I will use them not being there as an excuse to drink.
Especially if on Wed night he picks up 2 bottles of wine.
He may be wondering why I am not drinking today.
I'm on the fence about telling him or just avoiding alcohol. I feel like I have failed so many times he may not believe me anyways but I don't think he thinks I should quit completely.

[Byrdlady]

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Time to be selfish. This comes down to a choice really....life or death. At least it was for me. People can't read our minds we have to let them know how to help us. He may lament losing his drinking buddy but surely he will be thrilled to regain a wife! He will get over it... You will not! You must think of yourself right now...make your quit priority one and other things will fall into place! It is usually not as hard as we imagine it to be!

[treetops]

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Byrdies advice is spot on. You need all the strategies you can muster.

[sparkles143]

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Well I made it tonight! Woo hoo home without a drop and looking forward to waking up refreshed tomorrow. Even better my daughter won't joke about me being annoying and tipsy
That is so worth it

[treetops]

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Great!! So good that you did this. Have a pleasant sleep

[hadit]

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Hello sparkles, I have had some af time over the years and I know that wonderful feeling of being free!! Stay close to us; we are all at various stages of our quits. Good Luck:welcome::welcome:

[sparkles143]

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Hi Thanks to everyone today I was out about shopping with my daughter and although I wasn't craving AL I was thinking about it and thinking about when I would have some wine and then I thought oh wait I am not drinking. I felt a little panicky thinking well what am I going to do all week! What about NYE? So NYE another family and our family are going to dinner and the movies, not our typical NYE but even better !

I do have to admit the thinking about drinking and how it is somewhat ingrained into my life pretty regularly, not daily, sometimes not for days but ALWAYS a binge which makes me want to stop completely because it makes me feel I don't have control over it, it controls me.

Its incredible how something like drinking can be completely a part of how you associate to the world. When I see people who are obese sometimes compare alcohol for me like food to them. Ill go without the food, I eat to Live not Live to eat but I want my glass of wine.

They say 28 days can break a habit. I sure hope so.....

time to get on with my day but I wanted to check in.

[Byrdlady]

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I'm so happy that you checked in. You will be amazed at yourself in 28 days! I can't wait to give you your hat! I'm glad you have a solid plan for NYE, plan for success and you will have it! Hugs, Byrdie

[DipGal]

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Hi Sparkles - rooting you on! Feel lucky! I am obese (morbidly) AND have a drinking problem. My drinking problem is a huge contributor to my weight problem. Tons of empty calories and loss of control over what I eat.. I plan to seriously tackle both in 2014.. Looking forward to getting to know you. Keep up the great work!

[sparkles143]

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yes a bottle of wine has approx. 500 calories!! Just from the AF we should lose some weight and if there is no hangover we can get out an exercise.....
having a great night ))

[j-vo]

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Sounds like you're on the right track sparkles! You'll feel wonderful after 28 days! You'll see it in your face (I noticed puffiness went away) and overall health. Exercise! My plan as well! It's much easier without the hangover...

[mama]

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Hello All. I am new here. Here is a quick version of my story. I am in my mid 40s and have a great husband and 4 kids. This Alcohol problem just kind of snuck up on me. One glass of wine at dinner has turned into something like one bottle per night. I have tried to stop, but I have only kept with if for 1 or 2 or 3 days. I live in a very small town, so rehab or AA meetings are NOT going to happen. Like so many others I have vowed to make a clean start in 2014. However, I will not start tomorrow, I will start tonight. I am using this as a test & motivator. If I can get through New Year Eve without a drink, then I have faith that I can continue. ANY help or motivation or support site recommendations will be appreciated. Thanks....

[NoSugar]

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Welcome, mama!

Starting tonight is a GREAT plan!

If you haven't seen it yet, the links to the Newbies Nest and Toolbox are given below. The nest is a great place to hang out and the toolbox is full of ideas for you to consider.

Happy New Year to you - you can make 2014 one of the best of your life!

:welcome::welcome::welcome:

[sparkles143]

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Well at 11pm my friend and I had a drink but that was it I did not get drunk I remember everything about NYE we had a very nice dinner, went to the movies, the kids had a blast and I feel very empowered I can do this and the drink last night was not a precursor to opening up the flood gates to drink it was just because it was NYE.

[Yourfriend6116]

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Hi Sparkles! I started following your thread. I'm starting 2014 alcohol free and I thought I'd jump on here to get support. I've only been AF when I was pregnant and the longest I have managed not pregnant is 3 days or so. Anyhoo....just saying "hi" and letting you know I'm rooting for each of you!:goodjob: