Decided that my biggest New Year's resolution was to become alcohol free. I stumbled across this forum quite by accident searching for ways to stay sober. Like so many others I have been reading about I can usually go for a few days and you guessed it I'm right back at it. Today is day 2. I don't have any one who understands the situation so finding this forum where I can be accountable will help. I understannd addiction I quit smoking (after a pack and half a day habit) cold turkey about 10 years ago and haven't looked back. I have tried using some of the same methods but alcohol seems stronger. I really hesitate to use any meds for fear of becoming dependant on them. I don't want to trade one addiction for another. Any help or advice would be greatly appreciated.
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Hi, Jim
Many people here have gotten this done without medication while others have found various things to be very effective. There is no ONE WAY to do it.
If you haven't been there, you might check out the Newbies Nest - it is a great place to be at the beginning. Also, the Toolbox if full of ideas for you to consider. The links to both are given below.
You made a lucky hit in your search - this is a great place to get free of AL.
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Welcome Jim,
You have found a wonderful group.
I would suggest heading over to the newbies nest where there are folks in the same place with the same issues. And to take a look at the tool box. The links are below my signature.
Making a solid plan is another great way to stay on track.
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Welcome Jim and like you i stumbled on this site, drunk one night and signed on. Has taken me awhile to realise that I need to be on here daily to be accountable and to keep me strong and in control. AA is not for me and i did not take the meds either. Like Dot said make a plan and stick to it. Its not easy but it is well worth it the longer you are af.
One day at a time is all us alcoholics can do, I cant moderate and learnt that the hard way so now I am 34 days sober and as we all say "if i can do it anyone can".
Head over to the Newbies Nest and settle in, lots of us over there.AF free 1st December 2013 - 1st December 2022 - 9 years of freedomComment
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Hi Jim, you found a great place of support here. Welcome. Do you know that quitting smoking is actually harder to do then quitting drinking? This is a scientific fact
- so if you have fine that - you can find strength to quit AL. Congrats on your day 2. It will be better soon. Do you have any withdrawals?
AF since 10/20/2013
Smoke free since 09/24/2007
Meat free since 09/20/2008
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thanks for the welcome I did check out Newbies Nest and will continue to do so. Toolbox is a great help also. Saved the address to my favorites so I can come often.Comment
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thanks Myluck. Hands trembled yesterday, very nervous. I have been down this road so kind of know what to expect. Just have to get my brain on the right track.Comment
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Me too!
I also found this forum today by accident through Google. Spent my lunch hour reading. Lots more reading to do, though! Everybody seems very friendly and supportive.Comment
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Hopeful2014 - yes this place is supportive and the place you can trust. I don't know what I could do without it - I really couldn't talk bout my addiction with Anybody else so openly.AF since 10/20/2013
Smoke free since 09/24/2007
Meat free since 09/20/2008
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NomoreJim - I read that the worst on day 2-3? How much you have been drinking and what? I was noticing the withdrawals are different depending of the usage. How is your sleep? Any sweats?AF since 10/20/2013
Smoke free since 09/24/2007
Meat free since 09/20/2008
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NomoreJim,
You stumbled upon a great site. Welcome. And you quit one addiction 10 years ago, haven't looked back. That can be the same with AL. Read lots here, and before you know it, you'll be 10 years AL free.Sometimes what you're most afraid of doing is the very thing that will set you free.Comment
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nomorejim. another hello and welcome from me. like you I stumbled across this site and was amazed to read that others were like me and that I wasn't alone. keep reading and posting to let us know how you are getting on. if you are struggling there will always be a friendly hand here to help you upToday is the tomorrow i worried about yesterday and it turned out fine
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here's to 2014 af
Hi Jim and everyone...Jims post spoke to me because I too am just a coupla days sober. A friend recommended this forum to me, which I joined just over a year ago. Relapsed many times. This has been the worst and is the one that has made me want the change. Right now I am sweating like crazy (literally) hot flashes, cravings, tired, but super anxious. Part of me says I could just wean myself slowly (haha) I know it is not doable, tried that.
On top of trying to get sober, I have been trying to reconcile w my ex hubby, a trial that has been going on and off for years. For Xmas he gave me a cocktail mixer and a bottle of vodka, when he knows I have issues. Perhaps he just doesn't realize the extent, nobody around me does.
So here's to a new year, new me, new life.
Good luck to everyone :h
btw, I am not brooding as my mood states....I can't get it to let me change it!Comment
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MntGirl, some close people (like my husband for example and your ex) - are enablers. I was asking nicely my DH to quit drinking for years and help me to stop my drinking - he was not listening and just been buying me cases of wine and huge bottles of brandy. It almost felt he wanted me to drink - not sure why. Right now after he was in the hospital for pancreatitis caused by AL abuse, he is still struggling with his quit. We having a lot of issues now because of that as I quit and intend to be AF period, no date and no moderation plans as I know I CANT moderate. I know one thing - if I start drinking again we will not be fighting BUT - this is NOT happening no matter what. Even if this means parting with the person who enables me.AF since 10/20/2013
Smoke free since 09/24/2007
Meat free since 09/20/2008
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Hi, Jim, MntGirl and Hopeful (and hi to everyone else),
You have found a great place. When I finally joined 32 days ago, I had had a terrible drinking weekend and subsequent hangover - so bad in fact that I knew FOR SURE that I never could drink again. I was so anxious, sad and depressed that I knew that one drink was NOT worth feeling like that again. I got a lot of information and advice from reading and posting here as much as possible (Available and I are going for the record). You will find wonderful ideas for making a plan for staying sober in the Tool Box (check Dottie's and NoSugar's signature lines for the link).
See you around the Nest! Stay strong - I can tell you from day 32 it honestly does get so much better.Comment
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