NEWBIES IN NEED DAY 18

[bluesky]

Good Morning everyone on Day 18 of Newbies in Need. Just a quickie this morning to start off our daily thread. Welcome to Tricia, please feel free to join us whenever you want Tricia - to take what you need and to leave the rest, we will always be there for you and hope to hear from you again. Congratulations to everyone who is achieveing their goal whatever it may be and for those who didn't quite make their goal yesterday - today is another day. My package arrived yesterday, I'm half way through the book and have started the supps. Unfortunately I find the "All One Powder" drink first thing in the morning quite stomach wrenching - ugh - has anyone else tried it? I would be grateful for any feed back. I am mixing mine with sparkling mineral water, ugh, ugh and ugh. Help please. Start of Day 12 AF for me, still haven't socialized so I feel that I'm still not living in the "real world". Exercising, eating healthily, but the kgs are just not moving, I thought they would roll off after stopping the massive wine intake. Oh well, I suppose that has to be taken one day at a time also! Good luck everyone and speak later. Have a great day.

Love to you all
Bluesky XXX

Amanda???????

[Janice]

NEWBIES IN NEED DAY 18

Hi everyone! Blueksky - good luck with the programme - I'm sure the vits/supps will make a big difference. Be patient about the weight, don't get too down - concentrate on staying AF and it will come off. Day 19 AF for me -no pull to drink although there's loads of alcohol in the house and I actually poured my husband a glass of wine last night without any feeling towards it at all which is a first! That teatime slot, which used to be the worst time, is passing without me thinking about it. I think the reading is helping to stay focused as well - I'm reading Allen Carr's "Control" book at the moment. Starting to get into the cds too. Weekend is looming for us all, that dreaded time of the week - like you Bluesky, I feel a bit apprehensive about socialising - husband mentioned about going for a meal tonight but in my head I'm thinking "Oh no, what will I drink?". Try and stay focused everyone, the weekends are the worst but keep yourselves busy and stay positive about it. Instead of reaching for that drink tonight, try spoiling yourself with something else instead - a facial, bubble bath, massage!!! Just keep imagining how you will feel on Monday morning if you can tackle the weekend without a drink. That feeling is worth its weight in gold. Good luck everyone, Janice

[imatree]

NEWBIES IN NEED DAY 18

Hi Bluesky,
I intend to do the full program, but rather than the AllOne supp... I am confident in my own powerful multi vitamin and mineral and smoothie and other supps. I take caps for all the vit and min, and in the morning I make a smoothie with soy milk, frozen berries, hemp protein powder, flax meal, and Miracle Greens - which has an amazing array of healthy components. Along with that, in the morning I have Ezekial bread (sprouted grains - WONderful!) toasted with almond butter. I have 5-htp, L-glut, B-50, etc from all my other AF attempts. I did order kudzu.

I've been on-off here, but tomorrow I'm seeing my doc. (see my thread)
Feeling quite hopeful! Big diff from this morning when I would have been suicidal if I didn't have a daughter to raise.

[bluesky]

NEWBIES IN NEED DAY 18

Janice

Thanks ever so much for your words of encouragement, they hit the right spot. I had exactly the same thoughts yesterday when my husband suggested dinner out "OH NO". Needless to say we didn't go, I'm opting out of a social event Saturday, but it's Mothers Day here Sunday?????? No excuse I know - probably even more reason not to have that "first" drink, I'll keep thinking of your words. It's amazing that you managed to pour your husband a glass of wine without any feeling towards it, congrats., I hope my turn is around the corner.

Imatree
Thanks for all your info. my gosh what a healthy concoction you are taking, well done. The only supps I have is from the programme I ordered the "six week extreme pack" but to be quite honest I'm finding it difficult to swallow all these tablets 4 times a day and that drink in the morning, well I can't even think about it or I will be ill!

My goodness Imatree, thank goodness you have your daughter, I'm glad you are seeing your DR, let us know how you get on.

BS X

Janice, is your Mum feeling a bit better?

[retteacher]

NEWBIES IN NEED DAY 18

Hi All: I'm on my 4th AF day.

[Janice]

NEWBIES IN NEED DAY 18

Fantastic retteacher - stay focused, positive and busy over the weekend!!!!!!! Janice

[bird]

NEWBIES IN NEED DAY 18

I got drunk last night. I had a great day and was very happy. Thats usually a trigger for me (too happy).I've really got to be more careful and aware. Start thinking my day through. I slept terribly and now have to go to work.
Aduggan hope all is well. bird

[Kitty]

NEWBIES IN NEED DAY 18

Hi everyone,

Well the weekend is looming and I can't say I'm looking forward to it. We usually have family drinks tomorrow and it's going to be really hard not to have a drink. I'm on day 6 again and I really don't want to slip like I did last week. It just wasn't worth it.

I'm feeling really fed up today and was in a pretty rotten mood all day yesterday too. My partner called me a menace because I shouted at him when he was only trying to do something nice for me. I feel awful because there isn't any excuse to be crabby anymore.

Plus I've put on weight and my gym is closed for refurbishment.

Oh well I'm off now to try and cheer myself up somehow. Hope you all have a good day, I'll check in again later when hopefully the fug has lifted.

Kitty

p.s Hope you're ok Amanda, let us know if you get a chance.

[luckyone]

NEWBIES IN NEED DAY 18

Good Morning,
I am on day 4 and feeling great. I have not taken an supps yet. Since I am not drinking my anti depressions are finally able to do there thing. I can not tell you how much all of your posts have helped me. I thank you all for being so open with your thoughts, feelings, ups, and downs. I have spent alot of time this past 4 days in reflection. I just want to wish everyone a wonderful weekend with family and friends.

Hang in there Bird it's a new day. Hugs

Best Wishes
Luckyone

[ducky]

NEWBIES IN NEED DAY 18

Good morning all! Congrats to everyone who did well. Bird, I overdid it last night as well and between that and a snoring hubbie I am shot. I have to meet the trainer at the gym now and I am sure I will suffer. I figured out what is holding me up (w/r to moderating) and I am off and running again. Let's just start again and move on!

Good luck with the w/e events everyone. I am going to aim for mods all w/e. I don't want to feel like crap again.

[aquamarine]

NEWBIES IN NEED DAY 18

Hi Everyone, Had a good day yesterday, AF. Hoping this weekend will go well. I'm going to keep up my journal and really try to anticipate those cravings ahead of time this weekend.
If I can get through this weekend AF I wil be soooo happy with myself.
Bluesky- Congrats on day 12! I only drink that powder with some kind of juice with a pretty strong taste. I t's not too bad with orange. You are a brave woman to down that with water, WOW, that must taste horrendous. I'm having the same frustration with weight. YOu would think it would fall of with all those less calories. I think I' m making up for it with all the snacking though. Starting on Monday I'm going to really rev up my exercise program. Hope you have a great weekend!
Bird- Being really happy is a trigger for me too. Took me a while to figure that out, it just doesn't seem to make sense. I think it is more that your brain has formed association with certain emotions and craving alcohol HOpe you don't feel too bad today. It's a new day and a new start. Good luck and stay strong!
Reteacher- That's great you're on day 4. Hope you have a great day.
Janice- Well done on day 19! I find that reading something related to alcohol really helps me stay focused. I made it part of my "plan" to read at least 1/2 hour a day of something related to alcohol .It 's really interesting to me and it really helps.Right now I am reading Dry by Augusten Burrough and Come Back byt Mia and Claire Fontaine. Both I would reccomend. Good luck on the weekend. They can be tough.
Imatree- Good luck with your doc. I know what you mean about you daughter. I don't know where I would be with all this if it wasn't for my children. They are the ultimate motivater.
Have a great day everyone ! Aquamarine

[Dog Woman]

NEWBIES IN NEED DAY 18

Hello, everyone. On day 8 of AF. Going to see Spider-Man 3, which should add any temptations, but have a birthday party where drinking will be free wheeling.

The CD hypno tapes help. Good luck everyone.

DW

[evergreen]

NEWBIES IN NEED DAY 18

Hi all,
I am very low, low, low this morning. I was feeling great with 3 days AF and as often happens felt a little over confident. The little voices told me - it is not a problem. You can have a glass of wine. I had a partial bottle open. A glass led to 2 and then a beer and a little sherry (nasty but all I had). I cannot moderate - at least not at home. At home I will have to be AF. Most of my social events involve alcohol - I tend to do better most of the time when not alone but just don't know if I can moderate anywhere! I am so completely frustrated with myself!!! Why does this take up so much of my thoughts and efforts!! I am pretty much OK in every other part of my life. AAARRRGGGHH! At one point last night it occured to me that the "high" of being AF felt better than the buzz I got last night!!! How many times to start over before I just give up! Sorry to be wallowing!!!!!

[nancy]

NEWBIES IN NEED DAY 18

day 18-sort of

Hi all

At this point I am:
May 1-4 on AF
May 5-8 off
May 9-present AF

Great to read your posts.


Janice, very impressed with your progress and ability to stick it out!

Bluesky, All One tastes bad with water and in my opinion tastes bad unless blended.
I used to blend mine in V8 with a cheap little hand blender. It tasted wonderful. BUT it's a lot of work in the morning before work.

I switched to tons of separate bottles of vitamins and that is a pain in the arse. So back to All One again, this time rice based. Another MWO poster suggested putting it in a baby food jar and shaking with juice, downing it in a few slurps. IT's quick and easy and not as much calories. I tried something similar but could taste the powder too much. Today, I am trying a 4-oz jar, shake it up. I bet that will work.

I felt much better last night and today. I am really working on reducing stress and anxiety without resorting to alcohol. Yesterday I took a Pilates class. I liked it aside from the situps!
I am starting to feel calmer between these things, no drinking and big dietary changes.

Regarding socializing, people I have known from AA say it's not necessarily a bad thing to avoid it in the beginning if it is a trigger. I personally think it would be good to expose ourselves to some of those situations if we are someday planning to moderate. You know, expose yourself to some social activities and practice having nonalcoholic beverages so you don't feel deprived of social contact. Not ones that are centered around drinking though.

If you do this family thing, you should tell one family member about your plan and have that person pour you a drink of fruit juice or whatever. Or skip that one. Skip meetings in bars or change them to events where there is something else going on. Opportunities are endless, comedy nights, music, quiz nights etc. all can take place in bars but drinking is not the main event.

There are some drinks that look just like wine. Once, a few years ago, I went to someone else's family gathering for dinner and declined wine. Turns out the hostess was an alcoholic. she offered me what she was drinking. I think it was elderflower juice, something like that. She put it in a wine glass and it looked identical to white wine.

Allan Carr's book Easy Way to Stop Drinking helped me a lot with some of the social issues, perceived pressures to drink.

Let's all try to remember this weekend that the world should not revolve around alcohol. We should be able to have fun and meet people without getting high. That's how I view it now. I ask myself, can I enjoy this event without being high? If not I pass.

Another thing I try to remember. A number of us are reluctant to face some of these social situations and to confide in others about need to stop drinking. the reality is that many of these people, if they have been around us long enough, already have seen us inebriated and know we have a problem and if they care about us, would like to see us quit or cut down.

[Kitty]

NEWBIES IN NEED DAY 18

Hi Evergreen,

Sorry to hear you're feeling so low, me too, there must be something in the air today. Don't feel too bad about your slip, these things happen. I have slipped a couple of times and I just start over again with my af days. I am happy just to clock up as many as I can even if they are not strung together.

Everyday I have without a hangover is another day that I can think more clearly and start to live with the changes in habit.

Don't give up, we'll all get there in the end if we persevere.

Kitty